Special birthday present

[SomeLikeItHot00]

So, I was thinking this year about giving my man another woman for a birthday present. Normally I am jealous, and nothing about this gives me any pangs of jealously at all. I want to see what he looks like when he fucks someone. And part of me would really love to join in (that is something TOTALLY new to me, but I have been curious). I don't think he would be turned off by the idea, espeically if he saw I was into it (and a few drinks wouldn't hurt!). So, what is the best way to go about doing it??

 

[infinity706]

Well, if the guy were me, I'd say just pick out any woman you want, bring her home and surprise me. Feel free to jump in any time you want.

Since the guy isn't me, though, you should probably talk to him about it. Not all guys would even want something like that. You need to discuss this with him and decide together on what woman both of you would be comfortable with before you even go about planning anything.

 

[Somehowyou]

Just one thing...Where black fishnet thigh-highs with a lacy stay up tops and heels and a bustier in bed.

 

[bambikiller]

1) this is every guys dream come true.

2) Some guys, well I've heard of a wemon who did this for her man and while he enjoyed it afterward he acussed her a being a slut and lesbin. He couldn't handle it and they got devorced.

3) Talk to him about it. I think you want to join in a do some girl on girl action more than you are letting on. Personaly I'd love it.
I think you should talk to your man about it and you need to take his personality into consideration. Is he confident with him self, If not don't do it.
I.E.
I wore a pink shirt a couple of years ago and a friend comented on it and then he said of course your perfactly comfortable with your sexuality.
I am I'm a guy and I don't suck duck and I don't give a shit about what other people think but some people do. (P.C. comment, I gut nothing agenst guys that suck dick but mine is not avable).

 

[trojan_man_co]

Dont Do It

DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT

Now before all of the other males kill me let me explain. I too am a guy and would LOVE it if that happened to me. HOWEVER, i have seen it time and time again when relationships fall apart due to bring in a 3rd person even for one night. Even if you think you can handle it you can't. Once you actually see it and see how into he is you will automatically start doubting yourself. And as a guy i can guarantee that once you do it one time he will always want it and beg for it using the well we did it once whats the big deal... which in turn will lead you to think your not enough for him. OR god forbid you enjoy it alot he might suddenly feel like hes not enough for YOU! Three somes can be fun and enjoyable but only for just starting out couples who can establish this sort of thing from the beginning... not far down the road feeling confident with each other. do you really want to risk the chance of this all happening for a single night that he doesnt even know about? why dont you instead just do something more adventours for his birthday like making him something special like a calendar or something or bringing him to the top of a mountain and ravishing him where you could be seen for miles and miles around.. why play with the emotions and possible insecurities that we as people have. Keep in mind you are doing this with out his knowledge before hand. how do you think he might react suddenly thinking this is a trap or that suddenly he likes what he is getting more than what he already has..

its just too great of a risk for not alot of guaranteed benefit that you couldn’t find somewhere else. plus you said it yourself... your jealous type person and while you think you wont be talking your self up it will be different the moment he makes a sound he might not normally make with you or gives her a look or more attention...

 

[cromsgirl]

I have to disagree with Trojan. My husband and I have been in a couple of threesomes and we have both very much enjoyed it. We did, however, spend over a year discussing it ( as well as several other scenarios) before we tried it and we played with women who were already our friends and self declared bi-sexual.
I agree with the other posters who said to talk about it A LOT before you try, and if you have any doubts, discuss those too and if that doesn't disperse them, than this may not be something your relationship can survive. A lot of relationships have been destroyed because both partners are not on the same page.
My husband and I had been together 12 years before we even began discussing these type of things. I know that if we had started the relationship with these ideas it wouldn't have worked.

 

[Dearelliot]

Pros and cons...not all married couples have a great relationship...my wife and I do..For one we dont associate sex as "Love or devotion" Just because we eat out doesnt imply the food cooked at home iisnt delicous!
To begin with I feel people have to have their head on right...if you fall in love over having sex (and you are over the age of 30 to 35 say.)..your head belongs on a teenager. Most guys Reni meets want to have sex with her...the occasions when some guy felt her up didnt exactly ring bells in her head that nows the time to change husbands..but I suppose there are ladies who might...fall in love with a guy over sex..just cant imagine anyone over 30 doing it.

 

[MrGc]

This would be a really awesome birthday gift for anyone, but what you need to ask yourself is could you really handle seeing your hubby pleasure another woman ? I recommend sitting down and discussing it with him first and possibly if you do get jealous set out some rules ?

Perhaps a safe word if you get into it and decide its to unbearable for you you say the word and everything stops.

Just the things i would do if i was in your situation.

 

[SomeLikeItHot00]

Honestly, the more I think about it, the more turned on I get!!

 

[silverwhisper]

somelikeithot: having been in a few threesomes, i think that as a surprise present, this is potentially really unwise.

most people are not mentally wired for threesomes. jealousy can raise its head at the weirdest times. you specifically mention that you're sometimes jealous but aren't about this. are you sure you want to hear your guy crying out some other woman's name? think hard about that prospect.

the other reason i think that as a surprise this is potentially a problem: is there anything you don't want him to do with her? for example: would you be OK with his cock being inside you after it's been in her, or vice versa? is kissing OK? is there something you don't do with him that he could do with her instead? and if things go well with the other woman, would you be open to a repeat?

i really think talking this through first is really important in avoiding the problems that may lie down the road.

having said all that: you can have this honest conversation but still make the actual event a surprise. if you watch porn together, pop in a threesome scene and afterwards, ask questions.

ed

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

somelikeithot: having been in a few threesomes, i think that as a surprise present, this is potentially really unwise.

most people are not mentally wired for threesomes. jealousy can raise its head at the weirdest times. you specifically mention that you're sometimes jealous but aren't about this. are you sure you want to hear your guy crying out some other woman's name? think hard about that prospect.

the other reason i think that as a surprise this is potentially a problem: is there anything you don't want him to do with her? for example: would you be OK with his cock being inside you after it's been in her, or vice versa? is kissing OK? is there something you don't do with him that he could do with her instead? and if things go well with the other woman, would you be open to a repeat?

i really think talking this through first is really important in avoiding the problems that may lie down the road.

having said all that: you can have this honest conversation but still make the actual event a surprise. if you watch porn together, pop in a threesome scene and afterwards, ask questions.

ed

Solid advice, this.



Don't forget to also have a think about what you might be comfortable doing with her... there might be things he wants to see that you don't want.

Having been there and done that, I'd agree that thinking all the issues through first up is a good idea. Having the discussion is a better plan (as much as you'd like it to be a surprise) because you can't think of everything that may occur.

Other than that, be very certain of your love for each other.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT, DON'T DO IT

Now before all of the other males kill me let me explain. I too am a guy and would LOVE it if that happened to me. HOWEVER, i have seen it time and time again when relationships fall apart due to bring in a 3rd person even for one night. Even if you think you can handle it you can't. Once you actually see it and see how into he is you will automatically start doubting yourself. And as a guy i can guarantee that once you do it one time he will always want it and beg for it using the well we did it once whats the big deal... which in turn will lead you to think your not enough for him. OR god forbid you enjoy it alot he might suddenly feel like hes not enough for YOU! Three somes can be fun and enjoyable but only for just starting out couples who can establish this sort of thing from the beginning... not far down the road feeling confident with each other. do you really want to risk the chance of this all happening for a single night that he doesnt even know about? why dont you instead just do something more adventours for his birthday like making him something special like a calendar or something or bringing him to the top of a mountain and ravishing him where you could be seen for miles and miles around.. why play with the emotions and possible insecurities that we as people have. Keep in mind you are doing this with out his knowledge before hand. how do you think he might react suddenly thinking this is a trap or that suddenly he likes what he is getting more than what he already has..

its just too great of a risk for not alot of guaranteed benefit that you couldn’t find somewhere else. plus you said it yourself... your jealous type person and while you think you wont be talking your self up it will be different the moment he makes a sound he might not normally make with you or gives her a look or more attention...

Maybe in your experience, but please don't make it sound like that's what *always* happens.



(eta: unless you actually *know* the OP by any chance? If so, disregard)

 

[subwannabe]

I'm assuming you know him well enough that he would actually want it for real. If that is indeed the case instead of a girl jumping out of his cake to fuck him I would make his present words only, something giving him permission instead of actually giving him the real thing. Then you could both talk about it and formulate a game plan to carry it out, unless of course you knew someone that you have both talked about previously.