spanking scene question

[DarkLover]

My wife and I have experimented with spanking from time to time. We're planning something special for this weekend and I could use some tips.

I play the Dom role and she's the sub.

What are some good reasons for a spanking? I mean what are some perceived "offenses" that can serve as a pretext for the spanking--not real offenses that I'm actually punishing her for (so as not to mix reality with the fantasy)?

I want to spend all week teasing her and preparing her for a spanking on Saturday, and this is probably just one thing I'll have to figure out.

DarkLover

 

[Adakgirl]

Well, talking back is a good reason. Being a smart mouth. Trying to escape from you when you go after her. Trying to escape, capture and a good spanking is very exiting, arousing play. Looking at or flirting with other men is a good reason. Refusing to give you sexual favors, or not performing say..a b/j up to your standards. Burning a meal, being late, I could go on and on. I am sure something will present itself as reason enough to give her a good spanking. I do highly recommend a " I'm gonna get you, you'd better run girl !! scenario if you can make that happen.

 

[intothewoods]

Hmmm. What about something little you can tease her with every day, like - is she wearing cute underwear? Tell her she has to wear sexy underwear (or no underwear - depending on your wife's taste) every day for a week, and you will be evaluating her underwear choices as you go along. Then over the weekend, you can tell her if she's been a good girl or not.

If she wears naughty panties all week, you can tell her she's been really bad, and if she wears granny panties, you can tell her she's been bad too. Either way, you win. And she wins.

 

[SweetGigi]

Since you don't want to mix fantasy with reality, I would make the offense something that revolves around sex. I like the running away scenario or if she happens to be a 'big talker' or foul mouthed, a spanking for swears or for dirty talk might light the fuse.

 

[intothewoods]

Since you don't want to mix fantasy with reality, I would make the offense something that revolves around sex. I like the running away scenario or if she happens to be a 'big talker' or foul mouthed, a spanking for swears or for dirty talk might light the fuse.

Ooh, yes - every time she swears you give her a look like, mmmhmmm, I'm keeping score.

Why am I having so much fun with this?

 

[Adakgirl]

Because it IS fun, wicked fun indeed.

 

[Homburg]

What are some good reasons for a spanking? I mean what are some perceived "offenses" that can serve as a pretext for the spanking--not real offenses that I'm actually punishing her for (so as not to mix reality with the fantasy)?

"Because I want to." followed by grabbing a handful of hair and bending her over.

Not what you are looking for, honestly, but it is the only "excuse" I use.

 

[Chicklet]

Maybe choose something like 'every time she says 'hello'' and count out loud. She'll be randomly talking and then you interrupt to say "That's one." She'll be intrigued, 'scared,' and excited by the time it's up to twenty...

 

[DeservingBitch]

"Because I want to." followed by grabbing a handful of hair and bending her over.

Not what you are looking for, honestly, but it is the only "excuse" I use.

I like your approach.

 

[Homburg]

I like your approach.

Thank you. It's simple, direct, and hits the appropriate buttons for me, and every bottom I've laid hands on.

I'm not creative. Just pushy.

 

[BiBunny]

"Because I want to." followed by grabbing a handful of hair and bending her over.

Not what you are looking for, honestly, but it is the only "excuse" I use.

I almost said that, too, but figured it wouldn't go over too well.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

"Because I want to." followed by grabbing a handful of hair and bending her over.

Not what you are looking for, honestly, but it is the only "excuse" I use.

Yeah, Master and I aren't really into the whole good girl/bad girl thing. If I mess something up and a reason presents itself, he's not about to let it go by. OTOH, if he wants to spank/paddle/flog my ass, he does. He doesn't need excuses or to orchestrate some failing or transgression on my part.

That said, I do like Chicklet's idea, that could be hot fun. :caning:

 

[DarkLover]

"Because I want to." followed by grabbing a handful of hair and bending her over.

Not what you are looking for, honestly, but it is the only "excuse" I use.

Well, truthfully, that IS the REAL reason. She likes to be spanked and I like to do it to her. I'd just like to add another dimension to the game for the time being instead of just, "Okay, take off your pants so I can spank you."

Great suggestions so far. I'll probably go with the panty idea.

DarkLover

 

[intothewoods]

Well, truthfully, that IS the REAL reason. She likes to be spanked and I like to do it to her. I'd just like to add another dimension to the game for the time being instead of just, "Okay, take off your pants so I can spank you."

Great suggestions so far. I'll probably go with the panty idea.

DarkLover

Woot woot for the panties!

Hey, my PYL just grabs my hair and gives me one too, but it doesn't mean I can't use a little thing I like to call imagination.

Is brat the new black? I know, I know. No one answer that.

 

[SubKekiLee]

here is my 2 cents take it for what it is worth, My rules are I am not allowed to masturbate without permission, when I do masturbate I am punished... so if she masturbates you can punish her with a spanking.. Have fun...

 

[myinnerslut]

i dont get spanked when im bad becuase A thinks ill enjoy it too much (and is usually right with a bare hand spanking anyway), so if he ever wants to use an excuse hell just say ive been a "nuaghty girl". niether of us would say that about a real offense in the case i were actually in trouble so there is no confusion.

 

[Homburg]

Yeah, Master and I aren't really into the whole good girl/bad girl thing. If I mess something up and a reason presents itself, he's not about to let it go by. OTOH, if he wants to spank/paddle/flog my ass, he does. He doesn't need excuses or to orchestrate some failing or transgression on my part.

That said, I do like Chicklet's idea, that could be hot fun. :caning:

I actually dug chicklet's idea too. While I don;t need an excuse, that is sort of wierd, whimsical stuff that I enjoy the idea off.

Personally though, I would not link it to "hello" or anything that nice. It would be linked to "uh" or "like y'know" or some other utterance that she uses mindlessly.

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Well, truthfully, that IS the REAL reason. She likes to be spanked and I like to do it to her. I'd just like to add another dimension to the game for the time being instead of just, "Okay, take off your pants so I can spank you."

Great suggestions so far. I'll probably go with the panty idea.

DarkLover

I'm with you. I Wasn't disparaging it either, just presenting a different perspective. I'm of the "Whatever floats your boat" school. A lot of folks newly into the scene want some sort of excuse, be it play or real, for their predation. For some folks it helps, either with fantasy, or with dealing with lingering guilt issues.

Bottom line is to have fun.

 

[myinnerslut]

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Personally though, I would not link it to "hello" or anything that nice. It would be linked to "uh" or "like y'know" or some other utterance that she uses mindlessly.

thats really tough. ive had professors take away points for giving presentations with "uh". its a lot harder then youd think to be conscious of it the entire time. i think youd be even more nervouse knowing that you are accrueing spanks as the presentation goes on.

but it is the perfect setup for a nuaghty schoolgirl scene if you wanted to go in that direction.

 

[Homburg]

thats really tough. ive had professors take away points for giving presentations with "uh". its a lot harder then youd think to be conscious of it the entire time. i think youd be even more nervouse knowing that you are accrueing spanks as the presentation goes on.

but it is the perfect setup for a nuaghty schoolgirl scene if you wanted to go in that direction.

Tough is the point. If I'm going to be a bastard, I'd rather be an evil one.

And I do have a fondness for naughty schoolgirl scenes.

 

[myinnerslut]

Tough is the point. If I'm going to be a bastard, I'd rather be an evil one.

touche

 

[nh23]

"Because I want to." followed by grabbing a handful of hair and bending her over.

Not what you are looking for, honestly, but it is the only "excuse" I use.

Yep..that's fucking hot..

 

[DeservingBitch]

Give her a title she has to use when talking to you. Every time she forget to address you as 'Master of Evil Bastard Greatness', that's 10 more.

Adjust the above to your particular circumstances and context (when kids not around, only in private, etc.).

OR

At random times, ask her to put a finger in her pussy and present it to you. She's wet? Naughty girl, that's 10 more. She isn't wet? Bad girl, she should always be ready for you: that's 10 more.

 

[EmpressFi]

"Because I want to." followed by grabbing a handful of hair and bending her over.

Not what you are looking for, honestly, but it is the only "excuse" I use.

Hehe honestly.. I was thinking something similar.. like.. why does there need to be a reason. The last spanking I had was as Iwas folding laundry. Just came in, sat down on the end of the bed, bent me over his knee and spanked me.. no reason.. just because he wanted to

 

[intothewoods]

Give her a title she has to use when talking to you. Every time she forget to address you as 'Master of Evil Bastard Greatness', that's 10 more.

Adjust the above to your particular circumstances and context (when kids not around, only in private, etc.).

OR

At random times, ask her to put a finger in her pussy and present it to you. She's wet? Naughty girl, that's 10 more. She isn't wet? Bad girl, she should always be ready for you: that's 10 more.

I like it!

Hehe honestly.. I was thinking something similar.. like.. why does there need to be a reason. The last spanking I had was as Iwas folding laundry. Just came in, sat down on the end of the bed, bent me over his knee and spanked me.. no reason.. just because he wanted to

Because it's fun for them and, unless I'm missing something in the original post, they aren't lifestylers. They're just adding a spoonful of kink to spice things up in the bedroom.

 

[DeservingBitch]

Ask her to write down her fantasies in a journal.

When play time comes, pretend you 'discovered' her journal in her panties drawer and read it. You spank her for being such a naughty dirty girl. Read some of the most interesting part aloud while she's butt naked over your knees. Tell her how bad she is for having such dirty thoughts while you spank her bum.