Spanking - a random thought

[Nezhul]

So, I guess it's no secret that a lot of women enjoy at least light spanking. I don't think it's as widespread in men - personally it does nothing for me.

So, i was watching a random (vanilla) porn clip just now, and the guy was fucking her doggie-style, and with each thrust rammed quite heavily into her buttocks, making them slap across his belly.

And I thought - could this be connected to fascination with spanking somehow? Could women instinctively enjoy their buttocks being slapped because that tells the lizard part of their brains that the guy behind them is thrusting nice and deep?

Or is it more of "being a bad girl and owning it" token?

what do you think?

 

[cookiecat]

I was involved in a local spanking group and I'm here to tell you men like getting spanked! It seems a bit harder for them to admit, though.

As to a correlation between spanking and fucking from behind, no -- for me.

I like spanking just for spanking. Don't bug me with spanking during sex.

Why do I like it? Maybe it's about being a bad girl and being "found out." Maybe. There are a zillion reasons. Sometimes it's just feels good to have my butt warmed up. It can be playful and fun. Other times, I like it as a means to be held accountable - where the bad girl thing comes in. A lot of times, I get off on being spanked hard enough to cry.

When getting fucked from behind - thrusting nice and deep, as you say - slapping my ass takes me out of my zone. I'd rather feel his hands holding on to my hips, fingers digging in. Or reach up, grab my hair, pull my head back. More grippy things??

Not sure I really answered the question. I just liked rambling on about spanking.

 

[Nezhul]

fair enough.
It isn't really a question, just a random thought.

 

[cookiecat]

random

rambling

overall, spanking = good



hopefully others will chime in. although Talk seems less talky these days

 

[TarnishedPenny]

A 2011 study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that just over a third (36.3%) of female participants agreed with the statement, "I have fantasized about being spanked or whipped to obtain sexual pleasure." (FWIW, for men it was 28.5%.) Reference: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi...cH7VholN63O8iHmjHD99s8zVY4CtUTKdnBEfjf_oxzWjT

The study, of course, dealt only with fantasies, not with the actual enjoyment of the real thing. One might reasonably conclude that the percentage of those actually enjoying being spanked in some fashion would be rather lower than one-third.

Take that with however many grains of salt you wish.

 

[CuttingEdge]

The first time I ever tried spanking with my wife, I threw all caution to the wind.

We get into light bondage, but not really any BDSM or anything, but after putting on some lingerie, I had her bite onto my doubled up belt, then crawl across the room and into my lap. I wanted to be sure she was okay with it, and she was SOAKED.

She knew what was coming, that it would hurt, and yet was more then ready. It was less then ten strokes, but she later admitted it was a fantasy come true for her.

 

[Jada59]

For me it's neither thing. And it depends on the type of spanking. Often it's a quick, playful slap on the behind. Most guys don't seem to mind that. I kind of like that too.

If it's a prolonged spanking, the heat building up in the area is the turn on for me. And then pressing my sore, hot butt into the bed is even more of a turn on as he fucks me.

 

[Nezhul]

A 2011 study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that just over a third (36.3%) of female participants agreed with the statement, "I have fantasized about being spanked or whipped to obtain sexual pleasure." (FWIW, for men it was 28.5%.) Reference: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/...dnBEfjf_oxzWjT

I have an intrinsic distrust to studies where people are asked about fetishes. People often lie in those polls.

And one more thought - I didn't know I was into BDSM before I literally watched a random video and KNEW I was into it.
I also never fantasized about facesitting until I actually got a girl to sit on (rather over) my face. I mean, it just never came up in my mind as an option, but I enjoyed it when it happened, and I fantasize about it ever since.
The same goes with spanking, I guess. The fact that they don't fantasize doesn't mean they wouldn't enjoy it if it came up.

I would rather say that considering those two sentiments, the percentage of women who would enjoy it is higher than the study showed.

I may be wrong. But we can agree to disagree.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

Nezhul, I won't argue. Just one more datum in the pile...

 

[CuttingEdge]

My wife and I have had deep talks about sex, and she has confided in me some pretty strong fantasies, and these have been confirmed by fetish polls.

But...

She is pretty sexual too, so I think the people that respond to polls, tend to skew the numbers. By that I mean, my ex-wife was never into spanking, choking, or any rough sex; but then again, she would NEVER answer a sex fetish poll either.

 

[DVS]

I've had my share of partners who got into bondage and spanking, or spanking and or bondage, but lately, it seems it's a lot more difficult for me to find someone who wants to participate in any way, shape or form.

But, I've mostly met women who enjoyed spanking for spanking's sake. Oh, there would be a few who got into extra swats while getting fucked, but like it has already been said, I think most people will say it takes away from the present act of sex.

If they get spanked, then fucked, then spanked, then fucked, that's a different thing all together, but trying to group too many things into one act or whatever is just going too far.

Now, that's when asking about someone's enjoyment. If you are trying to torment or keep them from having an orgasm, a spank here and there can help with that, I'm sure. Not that they will like it, because it takes their minds off of what they were enjoying. But, it does what you want it to do, if you want it to lower their sexual excitement and it ultimately takes longer for them to cum...or it might actually keep them from cumming, if that's your desire.

For me, I don't ever want to deny her orgasm, but delaying it or prolonging it can be fun. If a spank on the ass can break their concentration, that might be a little fun.

 

[Snowbunnie12]

Yes please!! you gotta make sure to blow on it and rub it afterwards though

 

[BiMale4KinkyFun]

I enjoy being spanded in various positions and situations. I tend to enjoy the harder end of the spanking spectrum. The light and playful spanking seems feels like teasing to me.

 

[ButtAnalMan]

I was involved in a local spanking group and I'm here to tell you men like getting spanked! It seems a bit harder for them to admit, though.

As to a correlation between spanking and fucking from behind, no -- for me.

I like spanking just for spanking. Don't bug me with spanking during sex.

Why do I like it? Maybe it's about being a bad girl and being "found out." Maybe. There are a zillion reasons. Sometimes it's just feels good to have my butt warmed up. It can be playful and fun. Other times, I like it as a means to be held accountable - where the bad girl thing comes in. A lot of times, I get off on being spanked hard enough to cry.

When getting fucked from behind - thrusting nice and deep, as you say - slapping my ass takes me out of my zone. I'd rather feel his hands holding on to my hips, fingers digging in. Or reach up, grab my hair, pull my head back. More grippy things??

Not sure I really answered the question. I just liked rambling on about spanking.

Agree. Men like spanking too

 

[Blueeyesrenee]

I totally agree with cookie at and I love her ramblings! When done right, spanking is a huge turn on. Over the knee ass spanking with an occasional pussy rub. Plus there are times my inner brat comes out so my Sir will spank me more. For me it's the connection between my Sir and I.