Sometimes I wonder about people.

[freakygirl]

I read 3 different message boards.. so this is not only directed to this board alone.

Why do people think they need to lie on message boards, chat rooms or even in real life? Do they think that is the only way to make friends? The only way to get people to pay attention to them?

Alot of people use sympathy as an attention getter.

I'll use my "step" daughter as an example. She had a boyfriend.. she broke up with him.. he attempted suicide. She saved him in the nick of time. (really short version of her story but you get the idea). So we mention this to her mother.. Mother says that isn't what happened. It was the boyfriend that broke up because he found someone else closer to his house (they lived in different cities).

Now I know teenagers make things up. But why do adults do it? Like on this board (and I'm only using this board as an example because I'm posting this at this board) I've read a few threads in the year that I have been here and I've said to myself. Oh my god! I feel so sorry for that person. Then as the thread progresses and more of the story comes out. I think to myself. So and So is so full of shit! Something isn't right. I don't believe the whole story.

Some of the stuff I can prove they are lying about, but I keep my mouth shut because I figure if they think they are doing themselves a service.. then why burst their balloon?

I'm rambling.. because I honestly don't think anyone of us can answer this question.

But to everyone that thinks they are pulling the wool over everyones eyes.. You aren't. I'm sure I'm not the only one that thinks you are full of shit.


I think I'll go play in the sun now. Little things are starting to bother me. That means I need a time out..

I'm off to play in the sprinkler with my daughter.

 

[Sixth]

I hate the sympathy kick.

Of course, it's doomed, it's a real turn off for me.

 

[Rambling Rose]

I'm rambling...

Yet another lie. When will the madness end?

 

[freakygirl]

Re: Re: Sometimes I wonder about people.

Yet another lie. When will the madness end?

smartass

 

[CoolidgEffect]

Insecurity

People crave attention and they fear that their true selves will not cut it.

 

[lilminx]

I hear ya, FG. I guess that some people just aren't so happy in real life, so they need to make up a fantasy life for themselves in order to feel better about themselves. It's not fair to the people who end up befriending them, only to find out that they've befriended a liar.

 

[sexy-girl]

i think the more honestly you put in the more honestly and reality you get back ... not everyone realizes that sometimes it takes them a while to learn ... maybe some of the people that are honest on here now weren't honest on other boards ... so i dont think being dishonest makes people bad people but i agree it can be frustrating

also i think when posting online you dont have to give all of yourself you can edit your posts before pressing submit you can think about what you're typing ... you can kind of pick what you want people to see ... maybe that ability go's to peoples heads and they choose to change bits just a little ... and then more

i think thats why online relationships should be seen as just that until they step into real life and real world ... i guess thats a different topic though

 

[naudiz]

RR, you look like a friend of mine from high school.

When I was a kid, I had to walk to school, up hill, both ways, and we were so poor sometimes the only thing we had to eat was paint chips, and we were damned glad to get them. Then, when I grew up, I was assaulted by a gang of dolphins. Now I'm old and insecure, and everyone in my family has metal plates in their heads.

I also think I'm developing a complex.

I try to be sympathetic, but there comes a point where the two word response just seems too tempting. "Bummer, dude."

Attention and validation. I think on some level we all crave it. We're social animals, and establishing ourselves within the group is an instinctual need. Even misanthropes tend to need people around to hate them, or they don't feel complete. I guess if one's true self isn't getting the validation one craves, then making up stuff does the trick. It's weird.

Now that's rambling.

 

[freakygirl]

Leaving bits of your life off the boards is one thing (I don't consider that to be lying).. but making something worse than what it really is makes no sense to me.

Why embellish a story? What purpose does it serve?

 

[CoolidgEffect]

To attract attention.

I have never been assaulted by a gang of dolphins, but now I want to hear the details. That way when I use the strory it sounds rea.

 

[sexy-girl]

Leaving bits of your life off the boards is one thing (I don't consider that to be lying).. but making something worse than what it really is makes no sense to me.

Why embellish a story? What purpose does it serve?

i agree i've been friends with two posters that have done this on literotica so i've done a lot of thinking about it ... i still maintain that neither of them were "bad people" i try and understand why ... i try to follow the path and steps that they must go through ... i guess my best guess is that its easy ... and that sometimes the truth is hard

 

[Guest]

AHAHA

 

[sexy-girl]

AHAHA

um


care to explain ... i highly doubt you will

 

[Guest]

 

[MissTaken]

For some, the sympathy kick is the only way they feel they get the attention they need in real life as well. So, it translates into their on line activity.

For some, lit is just a game and so their lies have no relevance to them. If we aren't real to them, why should it matter what they say to us as a group?

For yet others, I fear they are so lonely in thier real time life that they bring everything here and are seeking to fill voids that cannot be filled away from the computer. It saddens me to think someone would so crave attention so as to embellish a hardship that someone else may have actually experienced. It is insulting and misleading when this happens. Ahhh but that is an old topic in an old thread.

Enjoy the sprinkler fg!

We did the beach today and have "gramma hands" from being in the water so long!

 

[Guest]

It's so much easier to lie when no one can prove you wrong.

 

[Siren]

 

[Guest]

Nice caps. I take it you don't consider yourself apathetic?

 

[Siren]

 

[Guest]

Or I was being sarcastic. Either way, I like my apathy.

 

[Nora]

*giggling at Siren being apathetic*

umm
no, she's not.
not by a long shot.

Me? I'm apathetic about a lot of the shit around here. There are people about whom I care, however. FG's one of 'em. So's Siren. I like both of them cuz they're not whiney "oh poor me" types. And they're smart and funny and hugely entertaining without believing they're the center of the universe and all-knowing and powerful. Well, except Siren. She *is* all-knowing and all-powerful. But I digress.

Just another standard personality type on the 'net, FG. Ignore 'em.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Alright already!

There is no Mr. La Fay.

I made him up.

I’m really a lesbian .

Ya knew I'd crack under the pressure dincha Freaky?

 

[freakygirl]

I still don't understand it.

I guess I never will.

 

[freakygirl]

Alright already!

There is no Mr. La Fay.

I made him up.

I’m really a lesbian .

Ya knew I'd crack under the pressure dincha Freaky?

I know the truth about you. You aren't even a female. How can you be a lesbian?

 

[Siren]