Some lessons in life mean more than others

Octavian

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I am probably in breach of convention but I read something yesterday that I thought was terrific. It was the message rather than the writing and because it resonated so much with me I would like to pass it on to a wider audience. I don't know who penned it but whoever it was has a gift.

A philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, he picked up a very large empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks that were about 2" in diameter.
He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.
He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They again agreed that it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. For the third time he asked if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "Yes."

The professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and proceeded to pour their entire contents into the jar - effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed as once again the professor had trumped them.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognise that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things; your family, your partner, your health, your children - things that if everything else was lost and only they remained- your life would still be full.

"The pebbles are the other things that matter - like your job, your house, your car.

"The sand is everything else . The small stuff.

"If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued "there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical check-ups. Take your partner out dancing.
There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal. Take care of the rocks first - the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of beers."


Anon
But I wish it had been by
Octavian
 
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Jolly good

Damn fine bit of info there old chap, very relevant to life and most clever, like you sir I wish I could think of and pen such wise words.
Specially the bit about the beers, haw, haw.
 
Yeah, but you can start with the beer. Then when you drop the rocks in, you'll get some head.

Of course, you might end up with a family you don't want.
 
I've seen so many cases where families are started because of too many beers...:rolleyes:

It's weird that something so serious as creating new life is so closely related to something so funny as having sex.
 
Ehh

Svenskaflicka said:
It's weird that something so serious as creating new life is so closely related to something so funny as having sex.

You need to watch more crappy sitcoms
 
Svenskaflicka said:
I've seen so many cases where families are started because of too many beers...:rolleyes:

It's weird that something so serious as creating new life is so closely related to something so funny as having sex.

Children in the back seat cause accidents.
Accidents in the back seat cause children.

The Earl
 
karmadog said:
Yeah, but you can start with the beer. Then when you drop the rocks in, you'll get some head.

Of course, you might end up with a family you don't want.

Laughing -
 
Some lessons in life mean more than others...

and if they're rocks then no wonder they hurt so damn much.









Thanks for sharing Octavian. You are appreciated.
 
Excellent! I wish someone had shared that sooner, then maybe my life wouldn't be so full of sand.

[which in turn has reminded me of one of my long-lost poems, which began and ended with the lines "everything I touch turns to dust" but I forget the rest]

It's a long time since I turned my attentions to philosophy, but perhaps it would help to get reacquainted...

ax
 
Well wait a minute: that's just his opinion and a visual aid. It doesn't prove anything. Doesn't even demonstrate anything but what he thinks is right.

And who's to say what parts of your life are rocks and what parts are sand?


---dr.M.
 
Relax Doc.

Hey Octavian, its been a while. I actually had that demonstration during a scheduling seminar in Grad school. It was effective. It was also prefaced by a description of needs, both professional and personal. Doc, each person had different needs, some it was success, some needed security, either at home or at work, some just wanted routine, some saw work as just a means to support the family. The definition of what's a rock and what's a bit of sand is up to the person filling the jar. Just an effective visual aid to help people figure out how to more effectively schedule their life. I took it as advice to keep in mind what's important in life and make sure I kept time for it.
 
dr_mabeuse said:
Well wait a minute: that's just his opinion and a visual aid. It doesn't prove anything. Doesn't even demonstrate anything but what he thinks is right.

And who's to say what parts of your life are rocks and what parts are sand?


---dr.M.

i think you'd catch on pretty quick if a bloody great rock hit ya, dr.
 
wildsweetone said:
i think you'd catch on pretty quick if a bloody great rock hit ya, dr.

Then again, it may already have done so.
Analytically,
MG
 
I just hate the hell out of this refrigerator-magnet philosophy that seems like it means something but don't mean jack-squat. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. The 6 secrets of highly effective assholes. There's no place like home. God, Mom and apple pie.

And I can just see all these earnest young students taking notes:

"Mayonnaise jar + rocks--> Full? No!
"Maronnaise jar + rocks + gravel--> Full? NO!!! etc.

"Schedule your life"!? Man, if you've got to sit down with a mayonise jar and some rocks to figure out what's important to you, you're in sad shape.

---dr.M.

Sorry! I just had my sentimental claptrap alarm set a few notches too high. I turned it down now and I must agree: that is deep. Deep and worth pondering.
 
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dr_mabeuse said:
I just hate the hell out of this refrigerator-magnet philosophy that seems like it means something but don't mean jack-squat. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. The 6 secrets of highly effective assholes. There's no place like home. God, Mom and apple pie.
I agree with you, I think, except that sometimes you can be surprised by refrigerator magnets, especially if they're singing and dancing.

Things that are truly of consequence stay with you and touch your life in a way that changes you forever, not just for the duration of a lunch-break. But anything that makes you genuinely think and reflect seems like a good thing, no matter how trivial it might appear...
 
Doc M

I posted it because I liked the allegory itself, especially the final comment about there always being time for a beer. I thought it worked very well as an effective means to make people think about their priorities in life and as such it deserved a wider audience.
It was not meant to be taken literally and I don't suppose the students did. It is only an allegory, after all.


Octavian
 
Great posting Octavian and I need to put my two cents in here too. I think the professor did some 'creative swiping' from Steven Covey, one of the great business and motivational guru's. His Seven Habits of Highly Effective People teachings focus on exactly that; habits for effective living. The Third Habit "Put First things First" is precisely what you mentioned. Look at the priorities in life the so called "Big Rocks" because they are the most important and usually they are things like family, renewing relationships, keeping fit and healthy and the like. In fact in one of the Seven Habits training video's he demonstrates it with the big rocks, the pebbles and the sand. No beer though! That was a great touch.!So I guess people, the message is pay attention to what is really important and dont sweat the small stuff!
 
dr_mabeuse said:
Sorry! I just had my sentimental claptrap alarm set a few notches too high. I turned it down now and I must agree: that is deep. Deep and worth pondering.

Dear DrM,
a. No you didn't.
b. No it aint.
DG
 
Octavian said:
Doc M

I posted it because I liked the allegory itself, especially the final comment about there always being time for a beer.


Octavian

i've been thinking about this some more...



it would depend entirely on the kind of beer.
 
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