Some guys don't like BI chicks.

[gypsywitch]

You know...

I kinda, sorta thought most guys thought BI women were more interesting or sexy or whatever.

This is the first place I've ever talked about it, joked about it, and have enjoyed that freedom.

On a couple of occasions here (well, at the GB) there have been guys that let me know that they didn't think it was very cool. Like, "I don't wanna be your friend then." kinda stuff.



Nothing too harsh mind you, but now I know how some non-straight people must feel or especially how minority groups must have felt years ago.


Anyway, just thought I'd say that.

 

[Oooh!]

Yup. I've seen it before. But I just ignore it. Shrug it off. There will always be ignorance in the world. It's a shame.

 

[College_geek]

Sounds stupid to me. It seems like guys are okay with watching two women on a video, but being the friend of a bi woman? No way. Or at leasts that's how it sounds in this situation. Who knows? I stay away from the GB normally because I would get really frustrated with everyone there. The majority of them are assholes.

 

[gypsywitch]

Thanks and yea, we do get the full spectrum of humanity out here on the internet. Probably even more so here at Lit.

I'm still going to enjoy flirting with both guys and gals though.

The people that I get silly with are the ones that know me best.

 

[Queersetti]

For some straight men, the fantasy of bisexual women may well be a turn on, but the reality of it can feel threatening. Nobody likes to feel unwanted, and the idea of a women friend having sex with other women can certainly trigger that if a man is insecure, make him feel like an outsider.

And I don't think the majority of people on the GB are assholes. The assholes are just really loud, so it seems that way sometimes.

 

[College_geek]

And I don't think the majority of people on the GB are assholes. The assholes are just really loud, so it seems that way sometimes.

The fact that they are the loud ones cluttering up the GB is the main reason I don't post there. I've posted once or twice, and they get a few responses and then are dead and drop to the bottom of the 5th page. However, the threads that always stay at the top are the ones either made by the "jerks" or complaining about them. I prefer the smaller boards because I can actually have my voice heard. Just my personal preference. I know that a lot of people love the GB. I'd probably have a lot more posts to my name if I did, as well.

 

[Bitchslapper]

I don't know of any guys that like the idea of two (or more) women having sex, but don't like having bi female friends. Personally, I'm perfectly ok with it. My girlfriend is bi and it's not an issue for us.

 

[gypsywitch]

And I don't think the majority of people on the GB are assholes.

Definately true. I don't go to The Playground cause I'm too busy and finally got the courage to start coming here. The AmPic page has been oddly interesting when I'm invited and I've only read a few storied when people suggested them.

A couple of people that sorta knew me before I "came out" were surprised, but most have run with it like the demons that they are.

I wonder what they're going to think of me when they hear my audio stories? Its just a form of acting and I'm reading Angela's work. Pretty naughty, but nothing exteme.

 

[InsatiableMe]

Some men are insecure when it comes to women loving women. I've dated several men who told me to "choose them or women" when I've disclosed that I am bi. (And it's not like I was trying to "force" them to be a swinger or something. Most of my relationships have been monogamous.)

So I said to them bi-bi, don't let the door hit you on the ass on your way out!

 

[Etoile]

There are a lot of dykes who feel the same way - they're afraid they'll lose their girlfriends to men. I think both perspectives don't give a bi individual enough credit.

 

[InsatiableMe]

I think both perspectives don't give a bi individual enough credit.

That's very true. Too many people seem to think that "just because we're bi we'll fuck anything".

 

[kitiara]

I love women.

However, the idea of a bisexual is a turn off for my brother (in a relationship). He does not look down on anyone that does it but he is not turned on by the idea of women kissing.

He knows the way that I am and that I love it. Either be a girl or guy.

For some guys it is a turn on because it is not something you see every day where my brother has grown up around bisexuals, lesbians and gays.

To him it is just another choice, not an aphrodisiac.

 

[Lake4321]

Depite having never been w/ bi woman (and maybe making my thoughts irrelevant), I enjoy the thought and image of fem2fem sex. I am suprised any guy would find a bi woman to be threatening or a turn off.

 

[Lake4321]

Depite having never been w/ bi woman (and maybe making my thoughts irrelevant), I enjoy the thought and image of fem2fem sex. I am suprised any guy would find a bi woman to be threatening or a turn off.

 

[Lake4321]

Depite having never been w/ bi woman (and maybe making my thoughts irrelevant), I enjoy the thought and image of fem2fem sex. VERY sexy! I am suprised any guy would find a bi woman to be threatening or a turn off.

 

[Lake4321]

Very sorry about the multipost. server glitch.

 

[Etoile]

Depite having never been w/ bi woman (and maybe making my thoughts irrelevant), I enjoy the thought and image of fem2fem sex. VERY sexy! I am suprised any guy would find a bi woman to be threatening or a turn off.

I don't think your thoughts are irrelevant at all. Everybody's entitled to an opinion, and around here we encourage sharing.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Though I tend to avoid a lot of posters on the GB, I too have noted that certain people don't like thinking about girly loving. In real life I have dated a few guys (before i decided to hell with monogomous relationships ...with guys... as a rule) who seemed to understand about me being bi at first. Then like some weird mutant demon..it went from something we could discuss to something that freaked them out..to something we fought about and broke up over.

Will that stop me from flirting with some of my favorite chicas on the GB..not a chance!!! Just like it never stopped me in R/L (though I now wish I would have never wasted my time in regular one on one relationships with men. Far easier to do the honest and faithful thing with a lady)

Just my 2 cents

pet

 

[hotncmom]

What a completely excellent discussion. Thanks for all the posts.

One of my best guy friends had tough time cuz he fell in love with a bi-girl and it was all cool for him till he wanted to marry her and she didn't want to give up her gal pals. They broke up and he's been broken hearted.
As for me, my bf loves to watch it on video but would never even conceive of dating me if he knew that girls turn me on too. So I just enjoy being with a gal every now and then but don't fool around with any other men. Tough for those couples that want me to play with both of them.

 

[N8Dreams]

there is a simple answer.

Bi doubles fun

 

[Ms_Lilith]

People fear what they do not understand, and what they can not control... one of the things I've encountered with men is that they first assume you're straight, and might flirt or show an interest.. when you tell them you're bi, they begin to doubt your ability to be faithful.. like you NEED to have a boy and a girl in your life at the same time.. like you can't be trusted to be faithful to just them. Some men, are also jealous of what they can't have... I had an ex who used to push and push and push for threesomes, and he just didn't understand that the woman I was interested in was a lesbian. She wanted nothing to do with him sexually, but was fine with ME sleeping with him. And he refused to understand that.

Something I've also encountered is that some men tend to believe that because a woman is bi, she is created for the sole purpose of pleasing their voyeuristic tendencies.. that lesbians are lesbians because they like the attention, blah blah blah.. and when you set the record straight, their pride is hurt, and you get pushed away.


Just some experiences I've had.

 

[hotncmom]

She wanted nothing to do with him sexually,

I have had similar experiences where I truly am faithful to my BF and am not into threesomes, however, enjoy being with a female from time to time. Yet, I get aggravated by women who try to lure me into threesomes when I am just digging them. When I want a female I DON'T want a guy at the same time either.

Excellent comments. Thanks for sharing.

BTW, I don't fool around with women while I am in a relationship. But when I am single again I sure will. Hee hee

 

[Cigan]

Though I tend to avoid a lot of posters on the GB, I too have noted that certain people don't like thinking about girly loving. In real life I have dated a few guys (before i decided to hell with monogomous relationships ...with guys... as a rule) who seemed to understand about me being bi at first. Then like some weird mutant demon..it went from something we could discuss to something that freaked them out..to something we fought about and broke up over.

Will that stop me from flirting with some of my favorite chicas on the GB..not a chance!!! Just like it never stopped me in R/L (though I now wish I would have never wasted my time in regular one on one relationships with men. Far easier to do the honest and faithful thing with a lady)

Just my 2 cents

pet

It's a shame you feel that way about being in a commited relationship with men. Though considering the pst experiences you relay here I understand. I'd just like to say not all men are like this. One of my friends from way back is married to a bi woman, and while they are in a monogamous relationship with each other as far as I know the fact that she is also attracted to women isn't a problem. Maybe he's a rare breed. I don't know.