So unhappily married

[Guest]

I know a few of you here but wish to remain invisible for personal reasos. For the third time in less than a year I've met and become mutually attracted to several diferent women. But of cpurse nothing more happens because I'm very unhappily married, and the only solution is for me to ened the marriage if I want to be happy. Nthing can save it except my continued denial and we both know it. I am tired of being alone. And I deserve not to be anymore. As much as I want a divorce we've been married a long time and it scares me. We have gone for profesionall help but we are too far apart and I don't want to stay. I had to vent. I dont know what to do anymore.

 

[SINthysist]

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger...

 

[Rambrat]

That's a tough one.

It's not an easy choice to make between happiness and something you have learned to believe in. We all must find our path. And the only thing that made any sense to me was something my sister said to me when I came to that fork in the road.

"You must be able to live with the decision you make. Ask yourself...Can I live with this?"

She also said that we are responsible for our own happiness. We cannot depend on others for our happiness and we aren't responsible for others happiness.

 

[MissTaken]

Well, it took four years of unhappiness for me to summon the courage to leave.

There is never an easy answer.

Some negotiate the issues with their SO's, thereby being free to pursue other women to fill the void not filled in the marriage.

Others leave. It can be frightening to ponder the legal consequences as well as being alone. Sometimes the evil you know is more comfort than the one you dont'.

Other remain in the marriage and try to fill the voids here at lit or in other ways.

Whatever you decide, happiness often requires sacrifice or risks. And we all deserve happiness.

I wish I had the answers for you.
I wish I had something comforting to say.

I don't. PM me if you want to talk.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

That's a tough one.

It's not an easy choice to make between happiness and something you have learned to believe in. We all must find our path. And the only thing that made any sense to me was something my sister said to me when I came to that fork in the road.

"You must be able to live with the decision you make. Ask yourself...Can I live with this?"

She also said that we are responsible for our own happiness. We cannot depend on others for our happiness and we aren't responsible for others happiness.

Rambrat, intense and intellegent. Great combination.

Unrigstered, I must ditto this advice. We are each responsible for our own happiness. Life is what YOU make of it, no one can live it for you.

That said, if you know what will make you happy and you can live with your decision, then you must do what you must do. Having been there once myself, I know the decision isn't an easy one. However, I know for ME it was the right one. Good luck to you on your path to find happiness.

 

[Guest]

read this thread.........lots of us have been where you are now......
http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=78794

 

[Flagg]

Relationships are often like cornflakes. You have them every morning out of habit but now and again you stop and wonder - do I actually like cornflakes?

 

[sunstruck]

Relationships are often like cornflakes. You have them every morning out of habit but now and again you stop and wonder - do I actually like cornflakes?

Way to simplify man!

 

[Bidin~Time]

I know a few of you here but wish to remain invisible for personal reasos. For the third time in less than a year I've met and become mutually attracted to several diferent women. But of cpurse nothing more happens because I'm very unhappily married, and the only solution is for me to ened the marriage if I want to be happy. Nthing can save it except my continued denial and we both know it. I am tired of being alone. And I deserve not to be anymore. As much as I want a divorce we've been married a long time and it scares me. We have gone for profesionall help but we are too far apart and I don't want to stay. I had to vent. I dont know what to do anymore.

We make choices everyday unregistered.

When you choose to do nothing, it's still a choice.

I wish you luck, love, health and happiness in whatever you decide

 

[JazzManJim]

It all comes down to doing what you must so that you can actually like the person you see in the mirror.

Until you can do that, you're not going to be happy in or out of a relationship.

I do wish you my best. I've been there.

 

[Rambrat]

Way to simplify man!

you need a spanking.

 

[Flagg]

I hope you mean her - I personally find goatees a turn off.

 

[Rambrat]

I hope you mean her - I personally find goatees a turn off.

I'll shave!


Lol...of course I meant her...she's very bad...

 

[Mischka]

I hope you mean her - I personally find goatees a turn off.

Ah, but goats, on the other hand...

 

[teddybear4play]

Well, if you do want to leave the relationship, every day that passes is a day when it becomes harder to do it. Also, if you want to look at it in a very selfish way, it's another day you're not having fun with Lit ladies.

One thing that does matter is if you have children, especially young children. It will affect them, even if the divorce goes as amicably as possible.

Good luck and take care.

TB4p

 

[floridaguy64]

Heard that Somewhere B4.................

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger...

Having experienced this scenario twice.............. I moved number two into her own bedroom..........now we are like roomates that get together whenever the "mood" overwhelms us, which is by-far, very few and never as gratifying as when we were "new" to eachother..............

I'd have left several years ago, except for my son............. he is my man in the mirror and I love him more then life itself.

In a nutshell Unregistered................ "can you handle it?".........

If "YES"........... deal with it and learn to love yourself for who you are..................................

If "NO"............ get out of the situation while you still have your sanity intact...........

nuff said............ hope it helps..........

 

[tx_countrygirl]

I am new here but completely understand where you are. I was just there a few months ago. I lived in that marriage for 7 years, every day convincing myself it would get better. We were just going through a phase. I found men to give me the attention I needed on the side, whatever I had to do to make the marriage work. But in the end, I didn't like who I was. It took alot for me to see I hadn't been happy in a long time. Sometimes you have to make yourself happy. We do not do enough of that these days.

That being said, everyone's situation is different. All I can say is I wish you the best and hope you find true happiness one day. Be it in your present relationship or another. I agree with what was said before, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger

 

[sacremento]

I echo what the others have said.

I also am going through this same thing, I didn't have the courage to leave until he said the words I've been thinking these last few years.

Now that he's gone, he has more regrets than I do, but of course I still have the house and kids.

So I wonder what he really regrets, he didn't want to stay for me, we had one hell of an empty shell of a marraige.

If you have do have children, the thing that will keep your heart from breaking is to see them as much as possible and be involved daily in their lives.

Best wishes to you.