So - ms_anne's cancer thread got me thinking....

[warrior queen]

We come in here and have conversation/interaction with loads of people, but in reality most know almost nothing about who they're posting with - particularly if those posters are dealing with something serious.
Reading about someone having a potentially life-changing situation happening seems to bring out the mellow in an otherwise prickly board (gb).

I was wondering just how many here are dealing with serious issues atm?

Maybe it's the season having an effect, but I had the thought that if reading about anne could make me somehow 'gentler' toward a poster I previously dismissed/disliked then maybe I wasn'tbeing fair to others either.

This thread isn't for people to share their misery or struggles in detail. More me just contemplating the deeper lives of the real people behind the often snarky words.

 

[Kitty]

I have tinnitus.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

LIT is mostly bipolars, alcoholics, and ego dystonic queers.

 

[cjh]

I have been close to posters and their problems, and they mine. Not so much anymore. But I don't think I am alone in that experience.

I agree, though, that not knowing posters except at the most superficial level makes it easier to be thoughtless. I don't know whether the board has grown more jaded or if I have, but I see fewer posters letting down their guards on the board. I know I am much less likely to do so.

It's a shame. It hinders community.

 

[Kitty]

LIT is mostly bipolars, alcoholics, and ego dystonic queers.

Is "queer" an illness?

 

[warrior queen]

LIT is mostly bipolars, alcoholics, and ego dystonic queers.

This is exactly what I mean.
How do you know?
I mean...... you could be a guy going through some major shit, but from your posts we wouldn't know.
I could be reading you completely wrong. Dismissing the real person behind the flippant words.

Meh..... I think too much

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Is "queer" an illness?

I think so; it was till I was about 30. PTSD isn't.

 

[girlsmiley]

We come in here and have conversation/interaction with loads of people, but in reality most know almost nothing about who they're posting with - particularly if those posters are dealing with something serious.
Reading about someone having a potentially life-changing situation happening seems to bring out the mellow in an otherwise prickly board (gb).

I was wondering just how many here are dealing with serious issues atm?

Maybe it's the season having an effect, but I had the thought that if reading about anne could make me somehow 'gentler' toward a poster I previously dismissed/disliked then maybe I wasn'tbeing fair to others either.

This thread isn't for people to share their misery or struggles in detail. More me just contemplating the deeper lives of the real people behind the often snarky words.

Ann is really something.

It's a wee bit weird (for me) how you're only contemplating the deeper lives of people now. I mean, obviously people aren't going to share everything with the GB. It's the GB and it's better to not share everything (because face it, motherfuckers can't be trusted).

Grain of salt.

 

[Queersetti]

I have been close to posters and their problems, and they mine. Not so much anymore. But I don't think I am alone in that experience.

I agree, though, that not knowing posters except at the most superficial level makes it easier to be thoughtless. I don't know whether the board has grown more jaded or if I have, but I see fewer posters letting down their guards on the board. I know I am much less likely to do so.

It's a shame. It hinders community.

I think there has been a spiral effect over the years. People became more reticent to post personal issues because the board seemed cold and heartless, and the board became more cold and heartless because people don't share.

It's too bad. I understand why people keep quiet, but when I posted a thread about my heart attack, I got a very good response and I was touched by all the supportive replies.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I'm an open book.

 

[warrior queen]

I have been close to posters and their problems, and they mine. Not so much anymore. But I don't think I am alone in that experience.

I agree, though, that not knowing posters except at the most superficial level makes it easier to be thoughtless. I don't know whether the board has grown more jaded or if I have, but I see fewer posters letting down their guards on the board. I know I am much less likely to do so.

It's a shame. It hinders community.

I guess it just hit me that there are real people behind the screen.
I must be mellowing with age and seasonal goodwill

 

[Kitty]

This is exactly what I mean.
How do you know?
I mean...... you could be a guy going through some major shit, but from your posts we wouldn't know.
I could be reading you completely wrong. Dismissing the real person behind the flippant words.

Meh..... I think too much

You look like my Economics teacher back in High School.

*pokes*

M-M-Mrs....Delaney? Is that...y-y-you...? http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/images/smilies/afraid.gif

 

[Kitty]

I think so; it was till I was about 30. PTSD isn't.

 

[Kitty]

This is exactly what I mean.
How do you know?
I mean...... you could be a guy going through some major shit, but from your posts we wouldn't know.
I could be reading you completely wrong. Dismissing the real person behind the flippant words.

Meh..... I think too much

Clearly his health issues are mental.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

This is exactly what I mean.
How do you know?
I mean...... you could be a guy going through some major shit, but from your posts we wouldn't know.
I could be reading you completely wrong. Dismissing the real person behind the flippant words.

Meh..... I think too much

I know cuz I have the diplomas, passed the tests, and studied whack jobs since 1967. Takes me no longer than 15 minutes to lock on to ur diagnosis. A good mechanic does as well. People are transparent.

 

[warrior queen]

Ann is really something.

It's a wee bit weird (for me) how you're only contemplating the deeper lives of people now. I mean, obviously people aren't going to share everything with the GB. It's the GB and it's better to not share everything (because face it, motherfuckers can't be trusted).

Grain of salt.

No, I've been aware that posters are actual people for as long as I've been here..... but it's real easy to get lost in the snark and nastiness on the page and forget that under/behind it all might be someone who has real issues and problems and I shouldn't discount that.

Like I said - I think too much.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I think there has been a spiral effect over the years. People became more reticent to post personal issues because the board seemed cold and heartless, and the board became more cold and heartless because people don't share.

It's too bad. I understand why people keep quiet, but when I posted a thread about my heart attack, I got a very good response and I was touched by all the supportive replies.

I got my clinical training from some of Fritz Perls boys, and they were ruthless. When we were evaluated at the end of the training it was public and raw. Mine went something like "WE'RE GLAD AS HELL YOU WONT BE OUT THERAPIST BUT WE HAVE NO LEGAL EXCUSE TO FLUNK YOU." POOR OLD BOB, ANOTHER CANDIDATE GOT "NO FUCKING WAY ARE WE GONNA TURN YOU LOOSE ON HUMANS, IT WOULD BE CRIMINAL, IMMORAL, UNETHICAL, AND NUTS TO PASS YOU."

LIT poor babies need thicker hides NOT $19 a month placebos and teddy bears.

 

[warrior queen]

You look like my Economics teacher back in High School.

*pokes*

M-M-Mrs....Delaney? Is that...y-y-you...? http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/images/smilies/afraid.gif

Did you like her?

The very last thing I could be is a high school teacher!
Teenagers are hard enough to deal with when you're doing something they like (I was a body piercer for many years.)
I can't imagine having to be near them when doing something they don't like

 

[girlsmiley]

No, I've been aware that posters are actual people for as long as I've been here..... but it's real easy to get lost in the snark and nastiness on the page and forget that under/behind it all might be someone who has real issues and problems and I shouldn't discount that.

Like I said - I think too much.

I see. Sometimes you forget. That's not a bad thing either, WQ. In fact, I think it's the opposite.

I love coming here and reading Fata or Kbate or Aquagal, because they take me away to the places they've been, what they're thinking. I laugh along with them like I'm right there.

 

[warrior queen]

I think there has been a spiral effect over the years. People became more reticent to post personal issues because the board seemed cold and heartless, and the board became more cold and heartless because people don't share.

It's too bad. I understand why people keep quiet, but when I posted a thread about my heart attack, I got a very good response and I was touched by all the supportive replies.

This is why I said in my original post that I wasn't asking for any details.
More me reminding myself not to get lost in the words and remember that I really have no idea of the reality behind the post(s).

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I think many posters are imposters and their alts.

 

[Skiddles2014]

We come in here and have conversation/interaction with loads of people, but in reality most know almost nothing about who they're posting with - particularly if those posters are dealing with something serious.
Reading about someone having a potentially life-changing situation happening seems to bring out the mellow in an otherwise prickly board (gb).

I was wondering just how many here are dealing with serious issues atm?

Maybe it's the season having an effect, but I had the thought that if reading about anne could make me somehow 'gentler' toward a poster I previously dismissed/disliked then maybe I wasn'tbeing fair to others either.

This thread isn't for people to share their misery or struggles in detail. More me just contemplating the deeper lives of the real people behind the often snarky words.

For how much you bragged I thought you'd at least be good looking.

 

[warrior queen]

I think many posters are imposters and their alts.

Wheras I tend to take everyone at face value.
Maybe I just don't understand the appeal of alts?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I think many posters are imposters and their alts.

Of course you are. Maybe what's missing are people with enough backbone to take it. Don't dish it out if you can't take it.

 

[zipman]

I think there has been a spiral effect over the years. People became more reticent to post personal issues because the board seemed cold and heartless, and the board became more cold and heartless because people don't share.

It's too bad. I understand why people keep quiet, but when I posted a thread about my heart attack, I got a very good response and I was touched by all the supportive replies.

I think what you posted is a severe understatement.

I've seen more than one poster who revels in going after poster's illnesses.

It's no wonder people share less.