So many fakes! (Lonnnng rambling message)

[sweetjen35]

I don't know how prevalent the fakes are on this site but I know other sites where people routinely show "profile pix" that are someone else's pix, but claim it's them. It's called identity theft!

Recently I had someone contact me saying he lost his wife 5 years ago during childbirth. Seemed like a respectable looking man who served his country. A couple days later he emailed me some more pix, clearly NOT THE SAME GUY's pix, and starts off, "like I said, my wife died 5 years ago in a car accident and it's just me and my 15 year old son Brandon." Wow, was this the boy she died giving birth to in a car accident 5 years ago?

Anyway, because of so many fakes, I trust very few. (I'm as real as they come by the way). I used to think people didn't want to share pix because they wanted to be cautious or maybe they were unattractive. Now I automatically assume they are hiding something. Then again if they do show pix I wonder if they are their real pix. I hate how social media has made me so paranoid!!!

I think there are nice, honest people on sites like this. People who may be horny and kinky but also know how to string a few sentences together and be a friend to those in need. I'm in need!

I know some people read my profile and think, "hot damn, she's horny and hard up--BINGO!" Sorry. I'm not that desperate. I always say if you can't handle my intelligent side you don't deserve my naughty side.

I'm the Queen of Sexual Innuendo so I'm not impressed by men who think they are so charming and clever with their one liners. What I'm impressed with is a man who is intelligent and compassionate and caring but still has a certified "man card." Men who realize there's a difference between saying you are horny a lot vs ALWAYS horny. If you are always homey, that tells me you never have a thought that doesn't involve pleasuring your cock! That's pretty shallow.

Sorry I'm rambling. I doubt anyone read all of this, but if you did, wow... You must have stopped being horny for 5 minutes because this is not sexy at all.

Not even sure I made a point. But if you find something that resonates either here or in my bio or previous posts, and want to discuss (whether it be mortality rates during childbirth, time travel, fraud protection, marriage discontentment, etc..). Feel free to start a conversation privately. Just do NOT START OFF WITH, "hey wanna role play? Want to be my sub? Got any pix you can send to make me cum?"

Have a great Week! Jen

 

[ElizabethWest]

I read it all. Does that mean I am not horny?

Good luck, Jen.

 

[ArthurW]

Good luck Jen. I learn a lot.

 

[TheLastShadow]

I read all of this and thought, "I could have written this same thing." I have encountered all makes of frauds in my online exploration. From those who misrepresented themselves via photos, to those who misrepresented their feelings and intentions to get what they wanted. It never gets easy, and only makes a person more jaded and cynical than one should be. I feel your pain

 

[RamblinRed]

Very articulate. I enjoyed your honesty and frankness. Thanks for posting something out of the ordinary.

 

[sweetjen35]

I read all of this and thought, "I could have written this same thing." I have encountered all makes of frauds in my online exploration. From those who misrepresented themselves via photos, to those who misrepresented their feelings and intentions to get what they wanted. It never gets easy, and only makes a person more jaded and cynical than one should be. I feel your pain

I'm sorry that you can relate so well but also glad you validated my points! You are exactly right--it makes one jaded and cynical! ((Hugs))

 

[sweetjen35]

Very articulate. I enjoyed your honesty and frankness. Thanks for posting something out of the ordinary.

Thank you. I felt like I had to share what's in my head to keep from exploding. Writing is therapeutic as many of us know.

 

[astra_aspera]

Point made

I think you did make a point inadvertently. Very nice post overall.

 

[TheLastShadow]

I'm sorry that you can relate so well but also glad you validated my points! You are exactly right--it makes one jaded and cynical! ((Hugs))

I've become immune to it to be honest. I almost expect it these days, and wait for the proverbial other shoe to drop. It's not a fun way to live, but I must protect myself above all else ((Hugs))

 

[LWulf]

looooong rambling reply

"hey wanna role play? Want to be my sub? Got any pix you can send to make me cum?"

Sorry... I just had to.

Your reactions aren't that surprising to me in direction. As to the distance you've gone in that direction is another matter.

First, posting someone else's pics, though not well appreciated by me, isn't identity theft, it's more impersonating a person if you can see the slight difference. Littlesis for instance has an avatar of Natalie Portman. Highly doubtful that she is Portman, so the natural conclusion would be she either A) thinks she is beautiful, B) is a fan, or C) something very intelligent sounding and plausible but I can't remember what it was (In fact she said she has been told that she looks like her).

Guys use women's photos as avatars which either mean they try to look like them in drag, want guys to hit on them, or something very intelligent sounding and plausible but I can't remember what it was.

There are a couple of litsters who use artwork for their avatar. *cough* Better art than just some scribble, like photos of women or men professionally captured.

My point is, people use pictures of others for varied different reasons, all of which are not necessarily for deceptive reasons.

As to your potential widower-ed paramour, it is possible that he had a fifteen year old son and his wife died while birthing their second son. There are lots of people with insecurities. Women change hair color and style often enough to make my head spin. Sometimes I've questioned pictures where someone is tanned and blonde in one photo and paler and dark haired in another. Strangely, I was convinced it was the same person, though a much younger image.
You're probably right, though, and you don't need to justify your reaction. I'm just being the devil's advocate.

...and you shouldn't trust people that easily. Trust should be earned not freely given.

I haven't yet read your profile. Sorry.

I wouldn't call it rambling; you seem to have an exact concept of what you want to say and how to say it, just not succinctly (which is not a crime).

People hide things is a general form of defense. It might be defensive because they are hiding something embarrassing, or because they want to get a leg up on you. As a rule of thumb, I don't believe anything I see on the internet... except wiki. You can ALWAYS trust wiki.
Yeah, right.
Go to a bar, look a person in the eyes and they will tell you nothing but lies, all to get laid or something else of a hidden agenda. In other words, this isn't a new concept, so it shouldn't make you feel adverse towards anybody.

People I don't trust are people who say "I never lie." Everyone lies (And I've said it longer than Dr. House). The trick is to find out how much or how little the lies are. People who say I never lie, are people who lie to themselves and have convinced themselves that their lies aren't REALLY lies. Those are the people to watch out for.

oh, yes, and as to "horniness"... guys who are horny a lot, are guys that are getting some from someone, somewhere. Guys who are horny all the time, just aren't as suave.

Just some mental dribblings that I hope help...

 

[Clitpleaser70]

I read the whole thing and never got horny lol. Seriously l love you post and you are correct. But those types make it real hard on us nice guys. Just saying.......... wanna chat some im from your neck of the woods so to speek.

 

[StiffMember66]

I don't know how prevalent the fakes are on this site but I know other sites where people routinely show "profile pix" they show someone else's. It's called identity theft!

Recently I had someone contact me saying he lost his wife 5 years ago during childbirth. Seemed like a respectable looking man who served his country. A couple days later he emailed me some more pix, clearly NOT THE SAME GUY's pix, and starts off, "like I said, my wife died 5 years ago in a car accident and it's just me and my 15 year old son Brandon." Wow, was this the boy she died giving birth to in a car accident 5 years ago?

Anyway, because of so many fakes, I trust very few. (I'm as real as they come by the way). I used to think people didn't want to share pix because they wanted to be cautious or maybe they were unattractive. Now I automatically assume they are hiding something. Then again if they do show pix I wonder if they are their real pix. I hate how social media has made me so paranoid!!!

I think there are nice, honest people on sites like this. People who may be horny and kinky but also know how to string a few sentences together and be a friend to those in need. I'm in need!

I know some people read my profile and think, "hot damn, she's horny and hard up--BINGO!" Sorry. I'm not that desperate. I always say if you can't handle my intelligent side you don't deserve my naughty side.

I'm the Queen of Sexual Innuendo so I'm not impressed by men who think they are so charming and clever with their one liners. What I'm impressed with is a man who is intelligent and compassionate and caring but still has a certified "man card." Men who realize there's a difference between saying you are horny a lot vs ALWAYS horny. If you are always homey, that tells me you never have a thought that doesn't involve pleasuring your cock! That's pretty shallow.

Sorry I'm rambling. I doubt anyone read all of this, but if you did, wow... You must have stopped being horny for 5 minutes because this is not sexy at all.

Not even sure I made a point. But if you find something that resonates either here or in my bio or previous posts, and want to discuss (whether it be mortality rates during childbirth, time travel, fraud protection, marriage discontentment, etc..). Feel free to start a conversation privately. Just do NOT START OFF WITH, "hey wanna role play? Want to be my sub? Got any pix you can send to make me cum?"

Have a great Week! Jen

I feel your pain.........

 

[LadyJS]

I love this post! The fucking assholes (and you know who the fuck you are) are the ones that ruin what could be an enjoyable experience here on Lit. The guy you describe whose wife died giving while in a car accident, he's a perfect example of the useless motherfuckers who ruin it for us, the deceivers and the out and out liars. Yeah you assholes, your fucking liars! It's what you fucking do, and it shows just how fucking worthless the assholes are!

Like you, I was trading PMs with a guy some time back, he seemed pretty cool. Then the inconsistencies in what he said started to appear. Maybe I'm fucking anal, but I remember shit people say to me. And when something is said that contradicts what was said a week prior, that's when my bullshit alarm goes off. Turns out the fucker was married. Tracking posts he made solidified it, and conversations with a couple of longtime Litsers also confirmed it. I wasted a month and a half! And for what??? Fucking nothing, that's the fuck what! Here's a tip to the shit for brain losers out there: you want to waste time, then fine! Go off into a corner and play with yourself until you sprain your fucking dick. But don't ever, fucking ever, waste my fucking time. I don't fucking appreciate it. It pisses me the fuck off to no end! And I'm not fucking stupid. Just because I have a pair of boobs and a cunt between my legs doesn't mean I'm an idiot. I'm no fucking Einstein, but I know bullshit when I hear and see it!

So I've given up meeting anyone here. Maybe I'd never meet a cool guy here, but maybe I would or could. I'm not going to know because I don't want to wade through the sewer of horny freaks that are just so damn prevelant here, and won't stop coming out of the woodwork.

Get a life assholes. And stay the fuck out of mine!

Sorry for ranting Jen. I have a bad habit of doing that, but I'm just seeing more and more of this shit. You and I and others get fucked out of having a great time here on Lit, because of some fucking losers. It's not fair, and it's not fucking right!

 

[ashesatwork]

Ah. This place. It changes you over time. Good luck.

 

[Sunnyade]

Great post SJ, very true.

 

[Iceprincess12]

I'm always curious why you post the same stuff over and over. Why not go to the confessions thread if you want to write a piece on social injustice or why no one likes you?

It's so horrifying that people are fake-gasp (real gasp). The irony is how many fakes say they are real. I mean if you put that you are real in parentheses (I'm really fake) then it is totally legit.

I'm super fake and I only want super fake men to have super fake sex with. Try that approach. You know the saying about "doing the same thing over and over but expecting people to find you more attractive the next time" goes...

 

[sweetjen35]

I'm always curious why you post the same stuff over and over. Why not go to the confessions thread if you want to write a piece on social injustice or why no one likes you?

It's so horrifying that people are fake-gasp (real gasp). The irony is how many fakes say they are real. I mean if you put that you are real in parentheses (I'm really fake) then it is totally legit.

I'm super fake and I only want super fake men to have super fake sex with. Try that approach. You know the saying about "doing the same thing over and over but expecting people to find you more attractive the next time" goes...

Sometimes I wonder how people choose their usernames but others make it blatantly obvious. Yours is definitely the later. Well not sure about the princess part but you do seem very cold. Trust me honey, plenty of people like me. So I will not be trying to win you over so I can have a friend.

 

[where_is_RUTH]

I'm sure I don't need to say this but...

just as a warning... you are on the main thread.

so far you've had mostly positive responses, but around here, at certain times of the day it can get a little jaded.

So folks like to bear bait/pull your hair/call names/ try to make you cry... others think they are building your resilience. Sometimes your better off bailing and finding friends (Ive seen thread hijacked) so either stand your ground or move on. Just remember it's a sex site and some folk don't play nice

 

[danh27]

it isnt too hard to run a photo through tineye or google images to see if they are lifted from another website.

having said all that, it is impossible to believe everything that you read here. some people do stretch the truth out a bit.

If a red flag comes up, don't ignore it. Use common sense.

 

[sweetjen35]

it isnt too hard to run a photo through tineye or google images to see if they are lifted from another website.

having said all that, it is impossible to believe everything that you read here. some people do stretch the truth out a bit.

If a red flag comes up, don't ignore it. Use common sense.

Oh yes, I'm a big fan of tinyeye and google images for reverse image search. I feel a bit like an FBI agent looking up people!

I've been fortunate on another site to have made some really great friends. Some that I have met in real life. I think because of the positive experiences it has made me naive. But now I'm learning to be wise.

 

[sweetjen35]

just as a warning... you are on the main thread.

so far you've had mostly positive responses, but around here, at certain times of the day it can get a little jaded.

So folks like to bear bait/pull your hair/call names/ try to make you cry... others think they are building your resilience. Sometimes your better off bailing and finding friends (Ive seen thread hijacked) so either stand your ground or move on. Just remember it's a sex site and some folk don't play nice

Thanks for the encouragement and wise words. I am a firm believer that nice people exist even on sex sites. I understand not everyone has the same agenda. I'm learning to have thicker skin but I do still believe in kindness and don't want this jaded world (and Internet) to change me.

 

[Inspire8]

Great post sweetjen! Can totally relate.

 

[sweetjen35]

Great post sweetjen! Can totally relate.

Thsnk you. It's both comforting and sad to know it has resonated with so many. My bosses credit card number was hacked yesterday and has been used all over the country despite it being in his wallet. Fake pictures, fake details may seem trivial but in the big scheme of things it's a reflevtion of the world we live in... Sad.

 

[happyplayer]

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Hiya Jenn I know exactly how you feel. I think an awful lot of guys here just automatically think that the more macho you portray yourself the more the ladies will fall for you. Maybe it is true. Sadly I am just an ornery horney fella with everyday pressures and everyday desires. I love most of the stuff here and a lot of people too. You just have to let the rude ones wash off you and the nice ones will find you eventually. That is what I am discovering anyway.
I suppose it "takes all sorts" to make a life and it's best to just ignore the dickheads and don't even reply to them!

 

[frombehindyou]

I don't post my pic out of my own concern for my own privacy, but I get it. I do share as I get to know someone, flaws and all, but not before.

Thanks for the reality check.