So I was wondering...

[VelvetDarkness]

Whether anyone would find it useful if I were to document in a diary thread my adjustment from LDR sub to 24/7 co-habiting owned slave. Has anyone done this before? I think it would be an interesting exercise both for myself and maybe for others who take this step in the future.

 

[PhilGarlic]

oh yes

Only if you highlight the juicy bits so I can skip straight to them.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Only if you highlight the juicy bits so I can skip straight to them.

Honey, I happen to be a juicy bit from head to toe.

 

[PhilGarlic]

Honey, I happen to be a juicy bit from head to toe.

Would love to see you highlighted, maybe a nice lime colour.

 

[PhilGarlic]

need to ask

Have you asked your master if you can do this, what if he said no.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I've talked about it as an idea and Master is fine with it. He can easily keep tabs on the thread if he chooses to. To my knowledge, Master doesn't post here so he's not really bothered if I share my experiences.

If he said no for any reason I would respect that.

 

[PhilGarlic]

can I ask.

Are you moving in for the BDSM lifestyle or for love?
While the idea of a little light BDSM in the bedroom agrees with me the thought of 24 7 leaves me a little cold.
For one thing I think it would be hard work!

 

[VelvetDarkness]

For both. I love Master dearly and would marry him tomorrow. I couldn't give 24/7 service to somebody I wasn't deeply in love with.

It's not as much of a chore as it sounds. It's more about how the relationship functions on a day to day level. He has the final word on everything that affects either one of us. I do my best to pre-empt his needs and support him in the decisions he makes.

I have a full time job, friends and a life. It's not as though I'll spend every waking moment in stockings and suspenders, self flagellating if he so much as leaves the room.

It does take a huge emotional commitment and I'm sure we'll have a period of adjustment to each other and the new life we've chosen. There'll be ups and downs, we'll just handle them differently from nilla couples.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Right, I'm signing off now. RL calls.

Nice talking with you phil x

 

[PhilGarlic]

good luck

with the relationship
nice talking to you too velvet

 

[catalina_francisco]

Given past discussions along this line when others have posted such threads, and the feeling of many that a forum is not the place to post diary/blog threads (and perhaps encourage more so it becomes a journal, not a forum), I would suggest perhaps you set it up elsewhere like livejournal and have a link in your signature for those who wish to follow it. It is not personal, it is just about trying to keep things flowing and also all inclusive. Actually I think someone said recently that Lit has a blog now too, just haven't had time to investigate.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

Are you moving in for the BDSM lifestyle or for love?
While the idea of a little light BDSM in the bedroom agrees with me the thought of 24 7 leaves me a little cold.
For one thing I think it would be hard work!

It is bloody hard work, but also worth the effort if you have a deep commitment. I think a lot of people get carried away with the fantasy of it all and imagine it would be a bed of roses, but from my experience over the last 5 years it is that at times, but more often it is a lot of commitment, learning to think from another person's perspective more than one normally would, having a major mindshift in terms of how you deal with the less than perfect moments, and learning from a submissive POV that no longer are your needs a priority unless the Dominant wishes to indulge you in that way from time to time. I am fortunate with the one I chose to submit to that he has a lot of patience and also is a very real and grounded person who has a lot of prior experience, and above all loves me beyond anything else. No 2 experiences are going to be the same, but for me it has been an interesting if at times stressful journey, and one I do not regret for a moment taking.

Catalina

 

[subkitty72]

Whether anyone would find it useful if I were to document in a diary thread my adjustment from LDR sub to 24/7 co-habiting owned slave. Has anyone done this before? I think it would be an interesting exercise both for myself and maybe for others who take this step in the future.

I'd find it very useful, Velvet.

Many starting out in the BDSM culture (nod to Sir Winston) wonder how it can transition outside of the sexual and emotional to the tangible and concrete.

Looking forward to reading your journey. -kitty

 

[HB1965]

I agree it would be great, and maybe doing it the way Catalina suggested is great because then I could read it and not be distracted by other thinks at Lit like PMs, etc.

 

[subkitty72]

I agree it would be great, and maybe doing it the way Catalina suggested is great because then I could read it and not be distracted my other thinks at Lit like PMs, etc.

Hey, little kitty. I owe you an email.

 

[HB1965]

Hey, little kitty. I owe you an email.

Yes you do girlfriend.

 

[HottieMama]

It's not as though I'll spend every waking moment in stockings and suspenders, self flagellating if he so much as leaves the room.

One of the BEST lines i have ever read in this forum!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Good luck with the co-habitating adjustment period.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Given past discussions along this line when others have posted such threads, and the feeling of many that a forum is not the place to post diary/blog threads (and perhaps encourage more so it becomes a journal, not a forum), I would suggest perhaps you set it up elsewhere like livejournal and have a link in your signature for those who wish to follow it. It is not personal, it is just about trying to keep things flowing and also all inclusive. Actually I think someone said recently that Lit has a blog now too, just haven't had time to investigate.

Catalina

I agree that it is personal and I don't want to clutter up the forum but I wouldn't be happy starting one on another site where literally anyone can read it. Something confined to the Lit BDSM forum is about all I'd be comfortable with, regardless of the anonymity of nics.

Is the Lit blog just for Laurel and Manu? I'll see if I can find it.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

One of the BEST lines i have ever read in this forum!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Good luck with the co-habitating adjustment period.

Thankyou honey and thanks to everyone who has posted so far

 

[catalina_francisco]

I agree that it is personal and I don't want to clutter up the forum but I wouldn't be happy starting one on another site where literally anyone can read it. Something confined to the Lit BDSM forum is about all I'd be comfortable with, regardless of the anonymity of nics.

Is the Lit blog just for Laurel and Manu? I'll see if I can find it.

This might be it...can't remember who mentioned it, maybe Etoile but I'm not sure. Just be aware though that even though you would feel safe posting it on the forum because you don't want it open to the world, that just like any other free site this is public and we only see a fraction of the people who lurk ever posting, so anyone can and still will be able to read it even here. Also be aware that there may be things that happen in your private life that if mentioned will draw scrutiny, comments and judgements from others. Not trying to turn you off blogging it and sharing with people, but thought given your reluctance to have it read by just anyone that it might be worth mentioning some of the possible downsides to it which you may not have thought of so you can be prepared. I can only imagine how excited you must be.

Catalina

 

[VelvetDarkness]

This might be it...can't remember who mentioned it, maybe Etoile but I'm not sure. Just be aware though that even though you would feel safe posting it on the forum because you don't want it open to the world, that just like any other free site this is public and we only see a fraction of the people who lurk ever posting, so anyone can and still will be able to read it even here. Also be aware that there may be things that happen in your private life that if mentioned will draw scrutiny, comments and judgements from others. Not trying to turn you off blogging it and sharing with people, but thought given your reluctance to have it read by just anyone that it might be worth mentioning some of the possible downsides to it which you may not have thought of so you can be prepared. I can only imagine how excited you must be.

Catalina

Thanks Catalina. I've discovered that on myspace you can make your page only viewable to invited friends so I think I'll do it that way round. I can put info in my sig line, inviting people to pm for an invite. That way I'll be able to keep tabs on who views it and also I'll be able to block anyone who causes problems.

Does that make me a mini moderator?

And you're right, I'm really, really excited.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

If you like MySpace you might try MyDungeonSpace . It is just like MySpace but with a BDSM twist.

 

[sureibu]

I'm also very interested in reading your experiences. My PYL and I have discussed possibly moving our relationship to the next level in the future. I don't see it happening anytime soon as we are taking things very slowly, but it would be a great resource. Let me know when you have it up and running and I'll happily send you a PM.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I'm also very interested in reading your experiences. My PYL and I have discussed possibly moving our relationship to the next level in the future. I don't see it happening anytime soon as we are taking things very slowly, but it would be a great resource. Let me know when you have it up and running and I'll happily send you a PM.

Thanks sureibu, it looks like I'm going to go ahead with this. Master will monitor the journal and I think he's having reservations about my little project. He's seen me posting on here for ages though and has never had an issue with anything I've said about us.

I checked out mydungeonspace.com and that looks more appropriate than myspace. Once I've got a bit more time I'll start working on a profile and basic background about Master and I. If possible I'll keep the same nic.