So I truly wonder...

[Lone_Wanderer]

At the risk of sounding whiny, is it worth it for guys to post ads here?

I know that I've posted a few replies to the women I'm interested in, even a few PM's (which I don't think have been too "primitive" - they have complete sentences and not mentioning fucking in the first few words).

Yet, there's nothing. No responses. And the threads are full of "she's wonderful" responses. It's like being taunted.

Even posted a thread about my birthday (you can search it if you like). Lots of birthday wishes, but they seem pretty hollow.

What does it honestly take to get a response from women? I've only gotten one response saying she's not interested from a PM. The rest...dead silence.

I'm asking because I truly don't know (though I thought I did). Am I coming off as creepy? Please be honest in your responses if I have messaged you.

 

[NiceNastyMann]

No

Okay - brutal truth time?

Yes.

Lit is supposed to be the scene from a 30's to 40's Warner Brothers movie. Film Noir - black and white - deep shadows, cigarettes and lots' of smoke in an exotic bar. Cheap film stock and they made millions on a dream.

Ladies wear hats with veils, men wear crisp white jackets and maybe a fedora. And put a freaking pocket square on. Cripes. Clean up good.

You rock that look - maybe you can do better.

And DON'T WHINE. Jeez.

 

[Lone_Wanderer]

Okay - brutal truth time?

Yes.

Lit is supposed to be the scene from a 30's to 40's Warner Brothers movie. Film Noir - black and white - deep shadows, cigarettes and lots' of smoke in an exotic bar. Cheap film stock and they made millions on a dream.

Ladies wear hats with veils, men wear crisp white jackets and maybe a fedora. And put a freaking pocket square on. Cripes. Clean up good.

You rock that look - maybe you can do better.

And DON'T WHINE. Jeez.

My response wasn't meant to sound whiny, but just to challenge all the threads and ladies that don't respond with not so much as a courtesy.

 

[Mockingjay]

At the risk of sounding whiny, is it worth it for guys to post ads here?

I can't answer that because personally I don't know the answer.

I know that I've posted a few replies to the women I'm interested in, even a few PM's (which I don't think have been too "primitive" - they have complete sentences and not mentioning fucking in the first few words).

We women don't give in the first bunch of PMs. Or not really interested in effing at all. You don't sleep with a complete stranger, do you? It rarely happens.

Yet, there's nothing. No responses. And the threads are full of "she's wonderful" responses. It's like being taunted.

Yes, yes. Women on Lit are still women in real life. We crave for attention and likewise hate attention. Women's logic applies here.

Even posted a thread about my birthday (you can search it if you like). Lots of birthday wishes, but they seem pretty hollow.

At least you've been greeted. Belated/Advance happy birthday!

What does it honestly take to get a response from women? I've only gotten one response saying she's not interested from a PM. The rest...dead silence.

If you want them (or us) chasing you, play with us literally on the forums, surely Playground has more women, interact before flirting and share photos of yourself. Not cock pics, please, we like teaseful photos like arms, chest and jaw, or your thighs. Good poses make our jaw drop.

I'm asking because I truly don't know (though I thought I did). Am I coming off as creepy? Please be honest in your responses if I have messaged you.

No, you're not creepy but a lonesome retrospective guy wondering what's wrong with himself.

 

[LadyVer]

I don't see it as worth it, and I'm not knocking anyone who tries a personal thread. However, it's been my experience that, just like in real life men are from Mars and women are from Venus, it doesn't change for an erotica/porn site. And the internet can be shallow because people are hopping on and off, making it hard to develop relationships or have indepth conversations. Some people aren't interested in conversations anyway. Plus, people think because this is a porn site, everyone is open to anything. It's more or less, you show me yours, I'll show you mine, Boom. See ya. And if you don't show me yours, its: cock tease, bitch, cold-hearted, man-hater, etc. ... High school all over again. Who needs that kind of aggravation, again?

Good luck.

 

[NiceNastyMann]

I can't answer that because personally I don't know the answer.



We women don't give in the first bunch of PMs. Or not really interested in effing at all. You don't sleep with a complete stranger, do you? It rarely happens.


Yes, yes. Women on Lit are still women in real life. We crave for attention and likewise hate attention. Women's logic applies here.


At least you've been greeted. Belated/Advance happy birthday!


If you want them (or us) chasing you, play with us literally on the forums, surely Playground has more women, interact before flirting and share photos of yourself. Not cock pics, please, we like teaseful photos like arms, chest and jaw, or your thighs. Good poses make our jaw drop.


No, you're not creepy but a lonesome retrospective guy wondering what's wrong with himself.

Damn. The bitch slap from hell.

Dude - wake up. Lot's o truth in what's being said there.

 

[Misshotndeep]

I say it every time a thread like this comes up...confidence! It will attract us ladies more than any thing you can say. And as my quote on my profile says, it starts in the mind. You have to seduce a woman's mind before she will spread her legs in any form. We get bombarded with messages from asshats. If you want to stand out, try conversation first. Let it flow and if it goes to the dirty side follow the yellow brick road. Most ladies on here are not gonna just jump because you think they should. And I totally agree with the teasing pics bit.

 

[NiceNastyMann]

Post grad study night

Dude - you are getting the crap beat out of you - but you should read what is being given to you...

Have a better life.

 

[Mockingjay]

Dude - you are getting the crap beat out of you - but you should read what is being given to you...

Have a better life.

His offline. Check his profile log out time, dude.

 

[HatsuneMiku]

Okayy. Let's see.

Yes it's worth to post ads here, for sad people like me who have nothing better to do but spend time reading them. The longer they are the better. I'm a fast reader and this adds to my procrastination.

In fact I applaud you for this post. I have a number of things I have to do today, but you know what? I'm going to sit here and type a long ass reply to your thread instead.

Speaking bluntly, you do come off as a tad desperate and self doubtful. It's not very appealing. I wouldn't say it's creepy but the equivalent to some guy whining about how he can't get any dates 'cus of how unattractive he thinks he is, which could be true or mostly untrue. It doesn't really matter I suppose. Your attractiveness is irrelevant on an anonymous messaging board. So in short. Self confidence and intelligence gets you bitches, whining gets you socked in the face.

You know what else is great too? Mystery. I like my men mysterious and I'm sure other women would too. Wear a cape. Chuck on a pair of reflective sunnies. Haul around a fake mjolnir, flex them muscles and talk in nothing but short grunts. O god. Yes. This is sexy. That way you wouldn't have to whine or have much of a personality in general. If you ooze that much mystery they're all going to come up with fantastic conclusions about you in their heads which would probably work out better for you in the long run. Nobody will really care either because you're wearing a cape.

Men, start taking your notes.

 

[Misshotndeep]

Okayy. Let's see.

Yes it's worth to post ads here, for sad people like me who have nothing better to do but spend time reading them. The longer they are the better. I'm a fast reader and this adds to my procrastination.

In fact I applaud you for this post. I have a number of things I have to do today, but you know what? I'm going to sit here and type a long ass reply to your thread instead.

Speaking bluntly, you do come off as a tad desperate and self doubtful. It's not very appealing. I wouldn't say it's creepy but the equivalent to some guy whining about how he can't get any dates 'cus of how unattractive he thinks he is, which could be true or mostly untrue. It doesn't really matter I suppose. Your attractiveness is irrelevant on an anonymous messaging board. So in short. Self confidence and intelligence gets you bitches, whining gets you socked in the face.

You know what else is great too? Mystery. I like my men mysterious and I'm sure other women would too. Wear a cape. Chuck on a pair of reflective sunnies. Haul around a fake mjolnir, flex them muscles and talk in nothing but short grunts. O god. Yes. This is sexy. That way you wouldn't have to whine or have much of a personality in general. If you ooze that much mystery they're all going to come up with fantastic conclusions about you in their heads which would probably work out better for you in the long run. Nobody will really care either because you're wearing a cape.

Men, start taking your notes.

Rofl. I love it! Capes should come with every male Lit account just for S&G.

 

[marlowe70]

But no fake hammers of Thor.

 

[Misshotndeep]

But no fake hammers of Thor.

Maybe some fake vampire teeth. Those seem to be all the rage these days and it gives one a license to be broody.

 

[stickwork]

At the risk of sounding whiny, is it worth it for guys to post ads here?

I know that I've posted a few replies to the women I'm interested in, even a few PM's (which I don't think have been too "primitive" - they have complete sentences and not mentioning fucking in the first few words).

Yet, there's nothing. No responses. And the threads are full of "she's wonderful" responses. It's like being taunted.

Even posted a thread about my birthday (you can search it if you like). Lots of birthday wishes, but they seem pretty hollow.

What does it honestly take to get a response from women? I've only gotten one response saying she's not interested from a PM. The rest...dead silence.

I'm asking because I truly don't know (though I thought I did). Am I coming off as creepy? Please be honest in your responses if I have messaged you.

You have a quote in your sig thing:

"There's nothing more motivating, then vested self-interest"

 

[Mockingjay]

Maybe some fake vampire teeth. Those seem to be all the rage these days and it gives one a license to be broody.

Ah, vampires suck!

 

[Misshotndeep]

Ah, vampires suck!

Well as long as they don't glitter I can stand their presence and as far as sucking, so do over 50% of the people who hang out on this site.

 

[Doog_kuron]

At the risk of sounding whiny, is it worth it for guys to post ads here?

I know that I've posted a few replies to the women I'm interested in, even a few PM's (which I don't think have been too "primitive" - they have complete sentences and not mentioning fucking in the first few words).

Yet, there's nothing. No responses. And the threads are full of "she's wonderful" responses. It's like being taunted.

Even posted a thread about my birthday (you can search it if you like). Lots of birthday wishes, but they seem pretty hollow.

What does it honestly take to get a response from women? I've only gotten one response saying she's not interested from a PM. The rest...dead silence.

I'm asking because I truly don't know (though I thought I did). Am I coming off as creepy? Please be honest in your responses if I have messaged you.

Not that I send hundreds of messages daily, I don't, but I'd say I get a reply to 90% of the messages I send. Which is nice, and typically those that I don't get a reply from I never expected to in the first place. My 'success' if you want to call it that has little to do with confidence, or how dirty my posts are. It's simply because my PMs have nothing to do with trying to get a woman to give up the goods so to speak.

I've not seen any of your messages so I have no idea what 'mistakes' you are making. But I have seen a lot of messages from guys and I have to say I genuinely despair for the male of the species. Messages are rude, offensive, illiterate and entitled. I've been toying with starting a thread mocking the efforts of women but mostly men in this regard but so far I've resisted.

All I can suggest is participate in the threads, get to know people a bit that way and when you do send a PM make sure it isn't creepy and is a bit more informative than 'nice tits'. Just writing a complimentary message is nice, I write them, but doesn't exactly give much for a lady to actually reply to.

 

[Mockingjay]

Well as long as they don't glitter I can stand their presence and as far as sucking, so do over 50% of the people who hang out on this site.

LOL

Cheers!

 

[subdued_passion]

Just remember that for 'x' number of people posting, there are a whole lot more lurking and not every woman is the same. There are women, like men who just want their needs taken care off and don't have the time to spend to get to know you first. You'll realise that the ones who want to just chat all the time are basically just looking for attention and someone to boost their egos. They will rarely engage in any of the other activities.

You want a successful ad? Best way to go about is to actually just be honest about what you like and what you're looking for.

 

[Guillotine]

It really depends on what you have to say and how you present yourself. If all you say equates to "Hey, I'm bored (which means you're boring 90% of the time), I'm a guy with an age (aren't we all), and I want to get off" then you're pretty much wasting keystrokes and time.

Confidence is key, as mentioned.


If you see a chick you like, look at her posts and see where she hangs out. Quote reply back to her on a few threads, see if you can get her to banter with you. If she does, send her a PM about something you were bantering about, or maybe she'll send you one. This sort of targeted interaction is much more likely to get a response than a "blaaargh, I'm bored and lonely!" thread.


Of course, I say this, but DiablosWhore and subdued_passion have yet to message me.

 

[TiniMims]

Not that I send hundreds of messages daily, I don't, but I'd say I get a reply to 90% of the messages I send. Which is nice, and typically those that I don't get a reply from I never expected to in the first place. My 'success' if you want to call it that has little to do with confidence, or how dirty my posts are. It's simply because my PMs have nothing to do with trying to get a woman to give up the goods so to speak.

I've not seen any of your messages so I have no idea what 'mistakes' you are making. But I have seen a lot of messages from guys and I have to say I genuinely despair for the male of the species. Messages are rude, offensive, illiterate and entitled. I've been toying with starting a thread mocking the efforts of women but mostly men in this regard but so far I've resisted.

All I can suggest is participate in the threads, get to know people a bit that way and when you do send a PM make sure it isn't creepy and is a bit more informative than 'nice tits'. Just writing a complimentary message is nice, I write them, but doesn't exactly give much for a lady to actually reply to.

He's on to something. Reading this alone makes me curious of his filthy side.

 

[Doog_kuron]

Of course, I say this, but DiablosWhore and subdued_passion have yet to message me.

DW is just as, if not more witty in her PMs. Must confess never tried contacting ol' Subdued. I'll make it my belated New Years resolution

 

[BignBald]

my 2 cents..

At the risk of sounding whiny, is it worth it for guys to post ads here?

I know that I've posted a few replies to the women I'm interested in, even a few PM's (which I don't think have been too "primitive" - they have complete sentences and not mentioning fucking in the first few words).

Yet, there's nothing. No responses. And the threads are full of "she's wonderful" responses. It's like being taunted.

Even posted a thread about my birthday (you can search it if you like). Lots of birthday wishes, but they seem pretty hollow.

What does it honestly take to get a response from women? I've only gotten one response saying she's not interested from a PM. The rest...dead silence.

I'm asking because I truly don't know (though I thought I did). Am I coming off as creepy? Please be honest in your responses if I have messaged you.

Ok. So ask yourself, "What am I missing and what do I need to find to satisfy that yearning?"

If youre just looking for fast, quick getting-off dirty talk sessions, then post them as such. If you genuinely just want someone to chat with platonically, then post as such as well. The biggest thing is being honest with yourself. Then tranferring that honesty here.

Dont get me wrong, Im not accusing you of dishonesty. I am accusing you of being a male. And, strangely, most men are hardwired the same way. Sometimes we just have to stick the fork in the toaster.....regardless of how many times we've been told that its going to hurt.

I try to put it all out there. I answer any questions asked, as truthfully as maintaining some personal privacies will allow. If I hold back from a guy or girl, I tell them why I am not answering their queries completely.

As far as sending and receiving PMs, when someone posts "Up all night, hit me up", in my opinion, they should not be upset or offended when they get concise PMs. It seems completely reasonable to me to expect at least as much effort in a response as I put in the initial post.

Regardless, switching actions without sacrificing integrity might aid you in your messaginging "luck".

And speaking of, ....Good Luck.

 

[Lone_Wanderer]

First off, thanks to all those who replied. I've had a day to think about the posting, which bordered between asking the moderators to remove the thread and well, "Fuck it", opting for the latter. A lot of them reflect generic assumptions, and that those will make it all better (glittery, sparkly harp here). However, I'm not a troll, and I'm DEFINITELY not going to get suckered in by the pat-on-the-head, naivete you think we should have.

Yes, I'm going to be a dick now. If you don't like it, don't troll me. I really don't care about you flaming me. Go hijack someone else's thread or send a picture of your junk to someone you think is a girl.

I will respond to this idea of "confidence". Before this post, I posted when I felt like it, and that in itself should reflect this confidence you speak of. But it's interesting that for all the "confidence" that get posted out there, a number of ladies (DW included) get to choose the pick of the litter (which let's face it, men are all pigs, and we all stoop in shit. It's all relative).

Not that I send hundreds of messages daily, I don't, but I'd say I get a reply to 90% of the messages I send. Which is nice, and typically those that I don't get a reply from I never expected to in the first place. My 'success' if you want to call it that has little to do with confidence, or how dirty my posts are. It's simply because my PMs have nothing to do with trying to get a woman to give up the goods so to speak.

90% is a considerably high number. As for my PM's, I do my very best to be respectful (I'm well past the "let's fuck" PM - that's just stupid), but more so than not, just get the silent treatment. I don't know if women think that's acceptable behavior, but it comes off as borderline rude. If you're not interested, just say so. Doesn't take that long to hit that reply button, and say "not interested". Courtesy, please.

But I have seen a lot of messages from guys and I have to say I genuinely despair for the male of the species. Messages are rude, offensive, illiterate and entitled. I've been toying with starting a thread mocking the efforts of women but mostly men in this regard but so far I've resisted.

When you read some threads that disparage the fact that most guys are knuckle-dragging trolls, that tends to support your statement. Just because you can shorthand the word "you" with a letter, doesn't make it right OR appropriate. Maybe it's a generational thing (I'm showing my age, now), but when you send a message, you usually use full words, sentences, and eek paragraphs.

All I can suggest is participate in the threads, get to know people a bit that way and when you do send a PM make sure it isn't creepy and is a bit more informative than 'nice tits'. Just writing a complimentary message is nice, I write them, but doesn't exactly give much for a lady to actually reply to.

I've done that, but I suppose it's hit-or-miss, given the deluge of impulsive, single-minded morons that think that they can flash a picture of their junk and women will melt at their feet. I suppose it's a matter of being patient, but even then it's a bit challenging / frustrating.

For the tl;dr folks, I'll break it down like this: Hard to show quality when idiots believe that dropping 2000 quick "let's fuck" PM's will get them somewhere, and obscure your one honest message. Ladies, a bit more patience and consideration.

 

[SeulMoi]

First, I'd recommend letting this thread drop. I've seen you around the boards a bit, nothing wrong with you, but from the perspective of a man, I don't remember specific posts. If you stick in my mind as the guy who started this thread, you will with women, and that's not a good thing.

Re confidence, I don't think that's the answer pre-se. "Not suffering from a lack of confidence" is a better thing.

I've had some fun here before I disappeared (for no reason) a couple of months ago. More than I thought I would do. There is no magic formula for that of which I am aware, although if there is one thing I do, is that I rarely send PMs. I only do send when the lady in question clearly knows me, meaning there's been a good number of posts back and forth. And then I only PM for a reason - most likely the chat on board has got a bit insular and now is the time for private (to spare the board more than anything).

If I think about it, most importantly, I guess, from the perspective of the recipient of that PM, is that when I do so my pants are up, metaphorically and physically. If I PM someone, I have no idea if it I want it to go further. More than 50% of PM conversations that I've had have gone nowhere sexually, but have nonetheless been entertaining, and I've enjoyed that.