So, about "69'ing"...

[Up North Guy]

I've considered proposing trying this with my girlfriend (we're both eachother's firsts, for a relationship, and all things sexual)... but even though I have an idea how to bring it up, I'm not entirely sure _how_ to go about it.

Well, of course, I know the idea behind it (thus why I wanna _try_ it! *grins mischeviously*) but I'm not really sure about the technique - are there any ways where it works better? Her/me on top, or on our sides, and such?

any and all tips on the subject'd be great...


Thanks.

 

[badbabysitter]

I prefer to be on top, just so i dont have something trying to pierce the back of my skull. And it helps me rub my pussy all over his face.

Go ahead and eat her out. When shes really rolling asking her if she wants to go down on you while you are licking her. its forward, its direct, its polite and it works. never swing her around and expect her to suck.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

that's the way...

Just bring it up. If she has already given you a blow job before...(I assume so since youa re considering a 69), then just offer your good up to her while you are already giving her the business

It's not that awkward actually. If you are really afraid to ask her...just start by eating her out from a different angle or position so that your cock is already near her face or upper body. She might just tak eover and save you the trouble. Who knows, she might be wanting to try it as well and just hasn't brough it up

PowrDragn

 

[Guest]

In my personal experience, it's MUCH more enjoyable for the girl to be on top. If the guy is on top, the chick has a dick in the back of her throat, and she can't move or do much with it...

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

I prefer to be on top, it helps me rub my pussy all over his face.

Sorry to have broken your quote badbabysitter. But it's what I prefer, but not for the same reasons. It does give me greater control in how I suck MY-Sir's cock.
If I may suggest for the first time,Up North Guy; Lie on your side with her on her side and go down on her. That way as was said by PowrDragn, your cock will be aligned with her upper body and she won't feel over-whelmed by having your cock shoved into her face. She can start out by kissing ,and possibly licking your cock. As she feels comfortable, she can take you into her mouth as she wishes. This is something you never wish to force on a girl who has never preformed fellatio.
Patience is required, as it may take several attempts before she is comfortable with the idea of wrapping her mouth around your cock.
Done well, this can be an exciting and beautiful first for both of you!
Good luck!

 

[SallyIsHere]

distracting

"69" is erotic, but it is distracting to me. I would rather be on my knees in front of him concentrating on giving him pleasure. I don't mind waiting my turn.

Sally

 

[lovetoread]

If I am doing it,I prefer to be on my side.

However,as much as it sounds like a great thing,I tend to get distracted and dont give him the attention that he should have.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

To my experience 69 sounds sexy but in practical reality it's distracting...you want to pleasure your partner but each keeps getting distracted b/c of the pleasure they're recieving. People end up stopping at bad moments, etc.

But having said that...give it a shot, the above is just my 2 cents and is not the opinion of the network, etc. If/when you do...have her on top...we're not kidding when we say the guy on top creates awkward moments for us, including feeling like we're being choked by a dick, instead of sucking on a wonderful fun cock....big diff.

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Re: distracting

"69" is erotic, but it is distracting to me. I would rather be on my knees in front of him concentrating on giving him pleasure. I don't mind waiting my turn.

Sally, both you and Sub23 are right about the distractions of 69-ing. I think the idea of 69 is more erotic to many people than the position actually is. Not to say that it doesn't have it's merits, but I also prefer to be on my knees sucking MY-Sir's cock. For me, this is a way of showing HIM not only that I love him, but also my submission to HIM as well. HE really enjoys looking at me as I take HIM into my mouth, which also gives me pleasure.
But for those who still like the idea of 69, I say go for it! I on the other hand will wait my turn too.

 

[Kittenwithawhip]

To my experience 69 sounds sexy but in practical reality it's distracting...you want to pleasure your partner but each keeps getting distracted b/c of the pleasure they're recieving. People end up stopping at bad moments, etc.

I couldn't agree more. Nothing like the frustration of split focus to spoil an otherwise great time.

 

[SexyChele]

I have to agree with the majority here - "69" is very distracting and not everything the porn industry has cracked it up to be. However, when you are exploring things for the first time, it is something you have to try. Hey, some folks really like it!

As to positions, well that truly varies. For a first time, I would suggest side by side. That position can be awkward in that both parties usually have to hold one leg up, and it gets tiring, but it's a good start and you might move to another position that is more comfortable.

Oh, and just for the record, I'm one of those rare women that actually prefers to be on the bottom. Most men are considerate and won't simply shove their dicks down your throats - and if they do they deserve some permanent teethmarks to help them remember not to! Guess by having the guy on top it satisfies my submissive side - who knows? I personally am uncomfortable with being on top, but different ways for different folks.

 

[dreamer]

I'm in the gotta try it if you never have, but it's not as great as it is cut out to be group.

Woman on top seems easier...mmm...my favourite in all settings anyhow. But I enjoy concentrating on the giving with oral sex and having her on me at the same time makes that damn neear impossible.

Have fun, and let us know how it works out.

 

[tassie]

tried it with quite a few blokes, only ever had it good once, best lay, best one night stand, best, ooohhh everything!

i went on top, it was great!

xxx

 

[Freya]

I'm not a big fan of 69'ers. I personally like to direct all my attnetion to what I'm doing and find I'm unable when I'm distracted.

Having said this, when I do do it, I like to be on top.

 

[lilpriss]

I have to agree with SexyChele... I prefer to be on the bottom too. The top is alright... gives the woman more control... and is actually a better angle... I just like to be difficult I guess. ANd I like to be able to run my hands over his ass adn thighs while I'm doing my thing...

69 is rather distracting... I like it best to take turns, the quality is much better. And if your new at sex anyway... you need all the practice you can get so play play play ... but please be safe...

 

[wannaknow]

I too have to agree about it being a distraction. Hubby and I have talked about it and he really enjoys it, so when I told him that it is fun, but not my favorite, we now use it as a "position switch" or I like to do it as foreplay with him since it leads into bigger and better things....

 

[DevilBoy79]

I prefer to be on top, just so i dont have something trying to pierce the back of my skull. And it helps me rub my pussy all over his face.

Go ahead and eat her out. When shes really rolling asking her if she wants to go down on you while you are licking her. its forward, its direct, its polite and it works. never swing her around and expect her to suck.

yup bring the ideal up to her, most likely she will be curious to try it, just ask and if she says yes, then have fun, if no then dont sweat it, its not the end of the world.

 

[Lust Engine]

Just be forthright and tell her you'd like to try it! Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! (Did I mention "Communicate"???) Be up front with her & let her know you'd like to try it. It's how great sex starts! Asking for 69 will pale in comparison by the time you want to experiment with other things like anal sex or bondage eventually!

While it may look hot as all get out on porn, admittedly it's not all it's cracked up to be for myself. Judging from some of the earlier responses I can see I'm not alone in this. Whether I'm doing the pleasing or being pleased, I can't seem to bring myself to doing BOTH at the same time easily. I like focusing on one or the other (whether it's delivering a wicked tongue lashing of her wonderful sweet pussy or receiving glorious attention on my swollen cock). Again, it's my preference and far be it for me to tell you not to try!

Please try it out! You might absolutely love every moment of it. Good luck!

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Advanced

As for bringing it up... I remember the first time I ever tried anal sex. My boyfriend and I were talking sexy on the phone, and he said "there's something I'd like to try, I've never done it before...if you want to, of course", I asked what it was, and he said "I'd like to take you from behind...I mean...IN your behind..."

Asking straight out in a sensitive way is extremely sexy!

As for the position, I saw a great one in a porn flick the other day - maybe not suitable for beginners, but I thought I'd mention it, just for fun...

The guy stood up, and lifted the girl up, kissing her, and then turned her upside down, holding his arms around her waist, with her pussy in his face so he could lick her, and her head positioned just in height to suck on his dick.

Naturally, this is not a position you can enjoy for long - the girl's head will be filled with blood and she will pass out! Or the guy will be distracted when he cums, and drop her head first into the floor!

 

[dlj403]

I find 69 to be extremely erotic. Having a woman's pussy smothering me, feeling her juices dripping down my face, while feeling her tongue work it's way up and down my cock...

Yes, it can be distracting, and it can be hard to cum in this position, but if you're up for a sex marathon, this is a good position to switch into while you two recover some

dlj

 

[DuckLover]

Re: Advanced

As for the position, I saw a great one in a porn flick the other day - maybe not suitable for beginners, but I thought I'd mention it, just for fun...

The guy stood up, and lifted the girl up, kissing her, and then turned her upside down, holding his arms around her waist, with her pussy in his face so he could lick her, and her head positioned just in height to suck on his dick.

Naturally, this is not a position you can enjoy for long - the girl's head will be filled with blood and she will pass out! Or the guy will be distracted when he cums, and drop her head first into the floor!

This position also assumes the guy is pretty strong and/or the woman not especially large! AND, as mentioned above, there has to be a LOT of trust that the guy won't drop her on her head (as opposed to his)

 

[DuckLover]

On a personal note, I do enjoy 69, though I agree that taking turns can be even better. I love being able to focus on her reactions to my tongue-- eating a woman out is my FAVORITE thing and, in my opinion, the sexiest view available. I also like being able to watch her suck me off; men are generally more visually stimulated than women and this is no exception-- it looks almost as good as it feels!

I also agree that when 69-ing, the woman on top is better, and not just for the already-mentioned reasons. I've also found it allows her better control of the angle for more sensation and making it easier for her to swallow more cock. Ergo, it just FEELS better! In fact, I prefer the 69 position even when I'm not eating her out at the same time.

 

[Mackay]

69

have to agree with almost every one here girl on top works best but dont be surprised if the girl gets too caught up in her own pleausre to take care of you (not a bad thing at all its as much a turn on as any blow job) I love the way a women looks when her body just shakes with pleasure ahhh memories...

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Doing a 69 is like doing it an the bathtub - it's something you've heard about and just GOTTA try, but once you've tried it, you'll realize that the old-fashioned in-bed, taking-turns / one-on-top-of-the-other, is much more comfortable and gives you much more pleasure.