Slut shaming, body image and woman bashing - women are our own worst enemy!

[ImiGirrst]

This post showed up on my twitter search and wow!! how true it is!!

http://fitmamatraining.com/

It's worth the read, but this quote sums up the article best.

...when one of our young sisters posts a vlog about making responsible choices and respecting others- we call her naive and slutty. When a women struggles with an eating disorder we ridicule her body, call her disgusting and tell her to go eat a cheeseburger. When a woman chooses to have sex for pleasure the way plenty of men do, we call her a whore and tell her she deserves whatever mistreatment she receives. And when one of our own is a victim of a violent sex crime, we want to know what did to cause to her attack.

I grew up being mocked for being too skinny, even though I had the proportions of a model. I was reprimanded for being too commanding, too bold, too direct, too blunt and aggressive. I was blissfully ignorant about why I couldn't show my intelligence, but maybe it was disguised in one of this other labels.

I don't know what made me do it, but I posted a pic of myself on another forum where I was slammed. But amazingly, another poster reached out to me to recommend that maybe this would be a better posting place.

And it was. Someone actually liked my itty bitties. Because they had no dog in any fight, I could actually believe that I was physically attractive.

I can't even tell you how important, wonderful and freeing getting feedback was. There was an acceptance here that you didn't find in real life. Among those who would be considered [fill in the blank deviant adjective].

It gave me a confidence and a belief in myself that was one of the most valuable gifts anyone could ever give me. From it, I have a power that no one can ever take from me again. And those women who throw stones, who dislike themselves, who are unable to embrace their sexuality - they can't touch me anymore. If my gain is actually exploitation, maybe more women should be exploited.

Thank you Lit. I will always be grateful.

 

[Black13]

That's what I love about this site. It's impossible to hold pretense for long on a forum hosted by a site that also hosts stories that range from erotic to absurd. Everyone gets to cut loose and be what they want to be... real or not (which I maintain does not matter in online forums). You actually get to see into people. Happy lurking!

 

[ImiGirrst]

I'm puzzled, I would have thought a lot of people would have piped up on this topic. Maybe I was wrong?

 

[QSco]

I'm puzzled, I would have thought a lot of people would have piped up on this topic. Maybe I was wrong?

Certainly, a topic. But what to say?


I tried to write an intelligent post a few times. I've got a lot of thoughts. Can't seem to put something down that really articulates what I've got going on. Maybe when my head stops pounding I'll try again.

 

[ImiGirrst]

Bumping a really old thread - have you had a similar experience? Either as being shamed for being in touch with your sexuality or having your time at Lit become wonderfully freeing?

 

[PrincessxXxDarkstarr89]

Bumping a really old thread - have you had a similar experience? Either as being shamed for being in touch with your sexuality or having your time at Lit become wonderfully freeing?

I've been shamed for my sexual experiences before, I've always been adventurous & open minded with sex, but I barely talk about it IRL because I know that if I mentioned that I was once gangbanged I'd be immediately written off as a whore & likely demonized for it.

Glad I found this forum to chat about my sexual past without a bunch of immediate insults being thrown at me

 

[ImiGirrst]

I've been shamed for my sexual experiences before, I've always been adventurous & open minded with sex, but I barely talk about it IRL because I know that if I mentioned that I was once gangbanged I'd be immediately written off as a whore & likely demonized for it.

Glad I found this forum to chat about my sexual past without a bunch of immediate insults being thrown at me

I confess I have that fantasy often, but I haven't really been able to think about how to do make it happen. Oh, I could make it happen, but I don't think I could deal with the anxiety over it.
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And welcome to Lit! I know your profile says January, but that's still not very long. This is actually my second profile - I had to give up my first due to CRS syndrome, but I started posting in 2001, though I had a 10 year absence. So, nice to have you.
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I think people who are very in touch with their sexuality, erotic or kinky side stay very much in the closet for just that reason, especially with the sharp right that the US has taken the last few years. Just look at the beating the LGBTQ community has taken lately. Can you imagine what it would be like if 'normal' people came out of the closet with nutty crunchy slant? and yet we should, because there is safety in numbers. Yet divide and conquer is a very effective strategy. I can't tell you the number of guys I've had conversations with over the past four weeks that thought they were alone or perverted or broken because they were still horny and their wives weren't and who wanted to do something about it while they still worked or wondered if they would ever work again? And the stark relief I heard when I told them they were simply normal. Everyone north of 45 is dealing with the same exact stuff.
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But how can we ever know if we don't talk about it - and talk about it without judgment or fear of reprisal? You may have noticed that I'm a bit wordy, and while I'm that naturally, I lean in to it here, in hopes that maybe it will convince lurkers to post and come out of the shadows...
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So thanks for responding. And *devilish eyebrows* how was the gangbang for you?

 

[PrincessxXxDarkstarr89]

So thanks for responding. And *devilish eyebrows* how was the gangbang for you?

Was fun, was me & 6 others, my ex set it up since we'd previously had several threesomes & thought a gangbang was just the next step.

I was sore for a few days afterwards but was a worthwhile experience