Slut, bitch, horrible person, or normal?

[head_slut]

Got a question for you all... I've been thinking back on my sexual escapades (of which there are admittedly not many-my actual experiences are limited, while my imagination knows no bounds), and I realized that every single guy I've fucked/fucked around with has had a girlfriend or wife at the time.

Does this make me a horrible person?

I have never once felt guilty about doing what I've done, but my friends are constantly getting on my case about it. Every time I talk about the guy I'm currently fucking, she yells that she doesn't want to hear it because he's married. And I fucked another guy (I'm getting ready to move and he said he didn't want to lose the opportunity to fuck me) who has a girlfriend, and it angered my friends who thought he was an asshole to cheat on his girlfriend just because I am leaving.

I also once sucked a guy's cock in a hotel room while he spoke to his gf on the phone. That one amused me.

Anyway, not that I think anyone here is judgemental, but I'm curious to know what the rest of you think on the matter. I go by the motto that if he's going to cheat he's going to cheat, whether it's with me or someone else, so why should I miss out on the fun? But maybe I should start thinking about not being "the other woman" anymore...

 

[kintama]

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[eltrav]

Consider the reasons... Do you wind up with men with other obligations on purpose? Is it a need to prove your worth? Are you competing such as "I am worthy of a man's attention because I can cause him to break his commitment to another woman" thus...you win? I think that a) it's not your fault that these men cheat that's their own horrible fault b) you should look at your motivation for these encounters. Shite like this rarely winds up well, but my very best of wishes to you.

 

[SlutLuver]

I think it is a great question to ask.
Every person has to decide what works for them. I do not think that you are wrong, fucked up, crazy, or anything. I do think some will think you are immoral, but it depends on which morales each of us value.
I have been the guy you have been with that has a girl friend, and I have been the single one who has had a blast with married or dating women.
So we all made the same choices you have. Hell, anybody you fuck can turn out to be trouble even if they are single!
I'd say enjoy life, be safe, keep everything balanced, and you will be happy. Plus get to suck alot of new cock while in fun situations

 

[StevenWill]

Backwards

Try asking the question backwards. If you were talking on the phone to your husband or boyfriend would it bother you if another woman was sucking his cock while you were talking?

Ultimatley, the responsibility for the behavior is yours and the man's but it never hurts to put yourself in another person's shoes just to see how they fit.

 

[mdutchess28]

not that this is going to help but sister i am in the same boat it seems. i could be in a room full of men and pick out the married one or the one with a long term girl friend or they would somehow find me. i dont think it makes us horrible people. i know the reason i do it , i have commitment issues. i used to fuck these men and then afterwards to their face chastise them for being such bastards for sleeping around on the person that they supposedly loved. but all is good i suppose , i mean what would the world be without temptress sluts like us . lol

 

[nastywacouple]

Slut or not

head_slut, Not a bad thing. Why do people go out side the relationship in the 1st place? My sexaul want and needs are large by leap and bounds. I found a female who is Married and will Do all and any bidding that I want, does it make her a slut as well? No it makes her a women who's wants needs and desires are being taken care of. So keep doing what YOU want to. Your so called friends are bounded by the morals that they have set for them self. You are getting what they really want the freedom to be a sexaul wanting women and Dear, make sure you get your needs taken care of as well. Make him make you CUM 1st.

 

[stubnib]

head_slut,

What I, anyone on this board, or your friends think is irrelevant. The only one has that right is yourself and it is all based on your value system. If you don't feel bad about it, then good for you.

I've been in a similar dilemma during the past 2 years when I decided to go outside the marriage for some extra. All have been anonymous encounters with women at adult theaters or bookstores. Do I feel bad about it? Not anymore though the first couple of encounters left me guilty. But after really thinking about it, I decided that I didn't feel bad and no one can make me feel bad.

Remember, you are the only one that as any control over your feelings.

Like they say, it's not what happens to you in life, it's how you react to it.

 

[Seattle1120]

Head Slut, I'll respond to you by quoting someone else:

not that this is going to help but sister i am in the same boat it seems. i could be in a room full of men and pick out the married one or the one with a long term girl friend or they would somehow find me.

Like the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together.

Also, what goes around comes around.

I've been the "other guy," - once knowingly, another time unknowingly. When I was aware of what was going on, the idea of being with a married woman was a huge turnon. The sex was great, but I knew I was also being used, and that got old after awhile. So I have since resisted the advances of married or attached women. I also wouldn't want to be the guy whose gf or wife was making a cuckold out of him again.

I don't know what else to tell you, except to enjoy it while it lasts, and be careful.

And on a completely different note, I hear there are single guys out there who will borrow their buddy's wedding band when going to Cabo or some place like that, or meat market bars, in hopes of meeting women just like this!

I guess you could call that a slut magnet.

Where do I get mine?

 

[stubnib]

And on a completely different note, I hear there are single guys out there who will borrow their buddy's wedding band when going to Cabo or some place like that, or meat market bars, in hopes of meeting women just like this!

I guess you could call that a slut magnet.

Yup, my last anonymous encounter, the woman blowing me noticed my wedding band said it was so hot blowing a married man. I don't get it, I couldn't get laid if my life depended on it when I was single and now that I'm married, I'm tripping over it.

Go figure

 

[discreetplay]

Yup, my last anonymous encounter, the woman blowing me noticed my wedding band said it was so hot blowing a married man. I don't get it, I couldn't get laid if my life depended on it when I was single and now that I'm married, I'm tripping over it.

Go figure

Like parking spaces, the best ones are always taken. I know what you mean about getting more attention from more women after being married.

And by the way, head_slut, getting a blow job while on the phone with your significant other is a truly thrilling experience. Don't ever be ashamed of yourself. If you are about to do something you truly think you will be ashamed of or feel guilty about, don't do it. If you have done things that you think you should feel guilty about but don't--keep doing them.

Don't let the rest of the world mandate what is right or moral for you. You have a brain. Your entitled to use it.

--dp

 

[head_slut]

I've been sick the last few days so this is the first chance I've had to reply to all of you... And too many of you made quotable points for me to quote them all, so I'll just say thanks in general to everyone who responded. You've given me a lot of intelligent, wise points to ponder, and a different way of looking at things, which was what I was after when I started this thread.

All in all, I don't feel guilty about who I am and what I've done. I didn't feel guilty then and I don't feel guilty now.

Oh, and yes, from a woman's perspective, sucking off a married guy is hot. LOL

 

[pleasingsue]

married and...

...love the thrill of going down on a married woman, or having another woman go down on me...as many have said, it matters only what you think about it

 

[pop_54]

Got a question for you all... I've been thinking back on my sexual escapades (of which there are admittedly not many-my actual experiences are limited, while my imagination knows no bounds), and I realized that every single guy I've fucked/fucked around with has had a girlfriend or wife at the time.

Does this make me a horrible person?

I have never once felt guilty about doing what I've done, but my friends are constantly getting on my case about it. Every time I talk about the guy I'm currently fucking, she yells that she doesn't want to hear it because he's married. And I fucked another guy (I'm getting ready to move and he said he didn't want to lose the opportunity to fuck me) who has a girlfriend, and it angered my friends who thought he was an asshole to cheat on his girlfriend just because I am leaving.

I also once sucked a guy's cock in a hotel room while he spoke to his gf on the phone. That one amused me.

Anyway, not that I think anyone here is judgemental, but I'm curious to know what the rest of you think on the matter. I go by the motto that if he's going to cheat he's going to cheat, whether it's with me or someone else, so why should I miss out on the fun? But maybe I should start thinking about not being "the other woman" anymore...

You sound like a fun girl.

It takes two to Tango sweet lady, don't make yourself out to be the only bad one in the equasion... In my experience cheating partners are doing it for a reason as well, so there's often a third person in the pot... if she can't keep him happy, who are you to argue.

Don't suffer this guilt crap myself, all my play and all of the wife's play is consensual and agreed between us.

 

[smoothdevil]

Got a question for you all... I've been thinking back on my sexual escapades (of which there are admittedly not many-my actual experiences are limited, while my imagination knows no bounds), and I realized that every single guy I've fucked/fucked around with has had a girlfriend or wife at the time.

Does this make me a horrible person?

Ultimately you made the choice, the reasons probably are varried, non-commital, the thrill, and if they were holier than you they could have said no ... but it takes 2 to tango most of the time ... the expression all the good ones are taken is so misleading, since they are probably the ones you are fucking and sucking ... lol ... I'm married for now and the dividing line is very even .. you are married I won't talk to you ... or ... you are married , great ... I don't have a problem if you don't ....

horrible person ... only if you think so

 

[jadedragon67]

I think that if this is your thing, then more power to you. Monogamy is very over rated anyway. We are a very sexual species, us dirty humans. If you are satisfying your sexual needs in a way that you feel safe, while still enjoying the thrill of some sort of forbidden lust, then you arent slutty, or horrible, you are just human. I wish that more women would embrace their sexuality, without getting caught up in the "what would others think?" realm. Women it seems are more caught up with the emotional maintenance of a relationship then are in the physical side. We men on the other hand tend to think with our nethers most of the time, and use the big brain for cleaning up our messes, usually with disastorous results I might add.

I know that I as a man often wonder about a completely physical relationship out side of my marriage. However finding someone who is also interested in nothing more then that is a rare thing indeed. because it would seem that alot of women do not want to be branded a homewrecker or a slut. It is a sad thing in my humble opinion. I think that 99% of the marriages that fall apart because of this, prolly could have been saved by it if both parties had looked at the underlying reason for the infidelity in the first place. However I digress, I say to you do what you think is right for you and the rest be damned.

 

[Guest]

The situations we find ourselves in sometimes can make us stop and think, but I know I can't say what you do is wrong in anyway as I have just started a relationship a few weeks ago with a married woman. All I'll say is be careful and enjoy it, don't get your heart involved and you'll be fine.