slept with friend now what?

[reja]

I shocked myself the other night when I slept with one of my male friends. It surprised us both because I did not even realize that he could turn me on and he never thought that it would happen and now I'm not sure what to do about it...it was good but it's kinda strange since it came out of no where and I dont want to use him just because I'm horny even though he would not mind.

Any advise would be apprecialted

 

[Merelan]

Talk to him. Sit down and have a heart to heart. Chances are he is going through the same thing.

 

[Xander]

Merelan the Wise has spoken.
That's exactly what you need to do.

Been there, and didn't take Merelans advice, and it fucked up the close friendshsip we had before it happend.

 

[Skitten]

I totally agree with Merelan here. The best thing you can do is talk to your friend about how you are feeling. He is likely as confused about it as well. Talk about it and see how you both are feeling. The best thing you can do is be open with him and be understanding as well.

 

[SallyIsHere]

why?

Sex doesn't make the relationship important or more important. Important relationships make sex more likely. We are victims of the myth that sex signals the beginning of a new relationship, exclusive and proprietary.
You have a freind, treat him like a friend, talk to him. If fucking costs you friends, then we are giving sex more power than it deserves. Sex is what two friends do with each other, not how people become friends.

 

[willywanker]

Well, I think all the above are true.

Yes, definatly, sit him down, talk it thru. I'm sure the folks above are correct. He's wondering the same things.

That said, why not use each other it it was any good? Just have an understanding going in, we are just friend, it's just sex and there are no commitments. It will take some work to keep it that way but why pass up a chance for good sex just because of what might happen?

 

[Young Knave]

I agree with the previous poster.

This doesn't have to be an important event in your relationship. It doesn't have to change anything. I think that's a myth that sex has to end friendships. In my experience, I've known otherwise.

 

[ZshadeZ]

Yeah, really... Any unattached guy who has an unattached girl for a friend who wants to have sex sometimes is pretty damned lucky. Thats all most of us look for in life.