Slave Squabbles and the Like...

[LadyAndrivete]

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[soapstar]

Wow! I've never met a typical 21 year old sub/slave before.

Lovely to meet you however

 

[Evaleastaristev]

It is not unusual at all. I'm sypathetic with you because of a vanilla relationship I was in, so I know how that is. Even though you are submissive, you still feel a little bit of possesion over your Dom. Or maybe it's that you're hurt and it comes out as jealousy.

There can be many reasons for your jealousy, but it's not at all unusual. It's part of being human.

 

[AvaAdore]

Did you know that him marrying another sub was a possibility when you entered a relationship with him?

I'm just curious.

 

[LadyAndrivete]

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[SBroadB9]

Very interesting, Eriyanna! I hope everything works out for you. I'd like to get to know you better myself. Maybe I could help.

 

[Learn Humility]

Two Points

It is not at all unusual for a submissive to develop an emotional attachment to her/his Master/Mistress, as in a true D/s relationship the submissive relys on the Dominant for so much.

And, as in so many respects a D/s relationship is similar to any other in many ways, jealousy can certainly rear its ugly head.

If you fear falling in love with a future Master, then I would suggest to you that you seek a 24/7 long-term, one-on-one relationship with a man who can also be your Dom.

you fall in love with him, he falls in love with you, and everthing will be wonderful.

 

[LadyAndrivete]

*sigh* Only in my dreams... lol

Thanks for the advice! Very helpful!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Welcome to the board It is possible to find that one and on the understanding it is permanent. I figured long before looking, I was not going to survive giving myself over to a Dominant or Master, then it ending and moving on to the next, and the next, etc....so I decided I would not submit to anyone until I found him. I would play casually and experiment, but no more....LOL, as he just reminded me, I not only got what I dreamed of and more, but a romantic, sadistic, passionate, younger, Spanish Master who never leaves any doubt in my mind as to how much he wants me in his life always. It is a fantasy come true and with more trimmings than I dreamed possible.

Catalina

 

[A Desert Rose]

... I figured long before looking, I was not going to survive giving myself over to a Dominant or Master, then it ending and moving on to the next, and the next, etc....so I decided I would not submit to anyone until I found him. I would play casually and experiment, but no more...

Catalina

This is good advice.

 

[Quint]

For awhile though, he started being gentler with her than myself and the other girls. I found this rather disturbing, because usually in our world (or what little I know of it), I'm used to a dom being more agressive or favoring the punishment of one slave when emotion starts to be involved.

This may be the case, but I've read one lovely lady here, Shadowsdream, say repeatedly that she finds love complicates a D/s relationship and often not for the more aggressive. In her experience, a loving Master commonly chooses like the one you described and will lighten up on the sadistic/punishment side of their relationship. This does seem pretty counterproductive, assuming the bottom partner wants/craves/enjoys pain...but that is how she's often seen life play out. Me personally, don't have enough experience with relationships outside of my own to draw a conclusion one way or the other.

I'm not normally wired for jealousy in a monogamy sense but I'd still get pissed if I saw T strolling with someone else and knowing that I would never get that courtesy again. Sharing is one thing, losing is another. I hope you find peace soon.