Since we're talknig about Lit friendships...

[lilminx]

Are there people here who you used to be friends with, but you jsut kind of drifted apart? Who are they?

I used to be closer with many people here, but with a few of them, misunderstandings and fallings out have disrupted the friendships. Even though we have tried to talk afterwards, things just weren't the same- there was a wall up that neither of us seemed able to breach.

Then there are others where we just drifted... either I got busy, or the other person did, and we stopped communicating so often.

Some of them I'm glad I'm not close with anymore, as they may not have been the person I thought they were, but most of them I miss.

 

[Azwed]

Yeah I have a few of thoes. Me and Vixenshe chatted for almost a whole night on MSN not long after she got here I think. I never use MSN and I only ever get online if someone here asks to talk to me so I just don't really chat with her anymore.

There are a few others too.

 

[Bob Peale]

Some.

For me, things come in waves. I'll have unlimited time online, then I'll go months away. But I always check email; I realize its not fulfilling, but its a way to keep up.

I guess one of the things I've always liked about Lit is that it's easy to fall back in a rhythm.

 

[Shaq]

I haven't been here long enough to experience the drift but I've had it happen on other boards...it hasn't happened to much....2 posters and I had a falling out...one over a misunderstand another out of psychosis...and some just drifted....*shrugs*.....sorta sad but it happens...

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

lilminx do you think this was a good idea?

dont know about you but if i see someone post my name here casue of the way of the wording i'd be mad or sad.

the second part would be a good way of saying we've drifted apart cause i'm busy and I miss you

but the first part seems....


"we got i an argument I think your a bitch and this is my way of telling people I DON'T LIKE YOU"

Your probly didn't mean that though and I'm reading more into what's not there....
but on wiht the thread...

You got busy and we have drifted.
Miss you

 

[patient1]

Obviously, I haven't been active here as long as others.

I'm not generally one to let misunderstandings fester, or lose a friend for lack of an appollogy or foregiveness on my part.

Most of the people that have drifted away have drifted away from here(LIT) rather than from myself, as far as I've noticed.

In Real Life I've tended to define a friend as "someone whose purpose is to understand."

It helps a lot with listening, advising, & keeping confidences.

Sometimes a friend is somebody very much like ourself, sometimes a friend is somebody in similar circumstances.

I think we find that we grow apart from most of our circumstantial friends as our lives change.You may still care about your friends from high school, or college or the old job, or the old neighborhood, but you have a challenge understanding one another's present situation.

Then there are buddies like a guy I've known since 6th grade, but seen little of . However, when I write or use the phone we can pick up where we've left off, because we're indepently drawn to the same hobbies, books, & other experiences as we grow.

I think these things apply here, too. Our paths diverge, it doesn't mean we've failed each other or gone astray.

 

[Rambrat]

Yeah...me and lilminx drifted apart...I don't know why?

 

[sabbathstorm]

There are a few people I've drifted apart from but that was really for the best.

 

[Ukin]

Not been a member that long..but I have made a "special friend" whom I thought I had lost....but glady (for me) the friend is back. No doubt I will lose contact with people..but then that happens, be it on here and real life...***** goes on, smiles must happen.

 

[Ice Cold]

Can't say I've drifted from anyone... sometimes it might be a few days, but usually a pm will come or go just to say hi and keep in touch, so far.

 

[patient1]

Bumping for folks that can afford the time to PM someone who understands them.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Laurel]

Yes.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Are there people here who you used to be friends with, but you just kind of drifted apart? Who are they?

I'm not a good friend in any sense of the word, anyone who I care about who needs me, they can find me, but I'm never in a desperate need to talk to someone ever.

As such my messenger services are littered with people I wont interact with for weeks or months.

One sich example I guess is a lilminx, and if she felt she needed something that noone else was able to give her, me being the dispassionate prick that I am. She could find me if she needed too I guess.

 

[juicygirl]

Yes, but for those who drifted, I fine with any that come back cause I still love them.

 

[Xander]

Yeah it happens after a while. So yes there are several that I used to talk to all the time, that I dont talk to that often anymore.

 

[Wiggles]

<snip>I think we find that we grow apart from most of our circumstantial friends as our lives change.You may still care about your friends from high school, or college or the old job, or the old neighborhood, but you have a challenge understanding one another's present situation.

<snip>

I think these things apply here, too. Our paths diverge, it doesn't mean we've failed each other or gone astray.

Exactly! I've drifted away from a few people that I've met through Lit. but that's just the way it goes sometimes.

To those people, feel free to PM or whatever, anytime. That's the cool thing about friendships, in most cases they're very easy to pick up again.

 

[MissTaken]

Yes.

It happens.

Fortunately, for me, it has never been the result of misunderstandings or bad feelings (at least, not that I am aware of.)

I am always here and always eager to rekindle old friendships.



And oddly enough, I started doing this last week wiht one of my first friends.