Silly hard limits?

[Freya_Gin]

I don't have that much in the way of hard limits-- nothing to do with kids or bestiality, nor I don't want hard anal penetration (because OW!). Nearly everything else is falls under "hell yeah" or is negotiable.

However, I've discovered that I have another hard limit (thanks to a guy on twitter who shall remain anonymous). And it is (drumroll, please)... Cosplay.

Yes, cosplay. I was asked about this recently. My immediate thought was, "Well, if you don't mind me giggling incessantly." Because I don't think I could do cosplay without laughing my ass off. Seriously, no. So I'll never wear a Star Fleet uniform in a session, I can't say anything like "Oh, Doctor, I want you so bad," while imitating a Dalek's voice, dress up like Bilbo Baggins or Gandalf the Grey, pretend that we're the protagonists in Twilight (I can't recall their names), or even anything out of an anime that I've never heard of. Sorry. I don't mean to insult anyone who is into cosplay but I just can't do it.

What about furries, you ask? As crazy as it sounds, I did once wear a cat Halloween costume with a guy. First and only time I've ever worn a costume like that. (I think he may have had some unresolved Catwoman fantasies). I didn't really enjoy it but I didn't find it too objectionable. A full-furred cat costume, on the other hand, would be too much for me. So no, I don't think I can do that either. Sorry again.

"What? You're happy enough to piss all over a guy's face but you can't wear a simple costume???" is what that particular guy wrote in a direct message to me. And I must admit, he kind of has a point. My limits on stuff like furry costumes and cosplay in D/s sessions may seem silly next to that. But that's just how I'm wired.

 

[cascadiabound]

Here is my thinking - your limits are your limits.
so there is nothing silly about the limits you have.
If it makes you uncomfortable and you don't want to do it - ever. It's a hard limit. Nothing about that is silly.
We are all wired the way we are wired and it is utterly unexplainable.

Stick to your guns (and ray guns too).
don't let anyone tell you your limits are weird or silly. If they do - run.

 

[IrisAlthea]

You ceraintly had me giggling with the Dalek costume and all.
I don't mind giggling mixed with sex and play though.

I don't think I have anything funny like that to bring up, but I definitely have things that I can see are out of proportion to the point that it's silly.
Like those holding someone down and tickling them scenes you sometimes see, mostly in girl's boarding school settings? Yeah, I'll kill you when I get loose.

I don't expect any grave and understanding faces about it, because it is silly and totally unreasonable, but if limits would need to be reasonable to everyone there wouldn't be much need for them.
I can definitely laugh about it with a partner and not feel that it will make it any less valid.

 

[Cumference]

"I don't want to do that" must be respected.
The partner can ask, but has no right to know "why".

There are things I will not do, that others would consider "just for fun", and things
I do, some would find disturbing.

 

[faithlessmaiden]

Limits are limits. It really doesn't matter how silly it seems, but if it's something you don't like, then it's a limit. We all have limits that might seem silly to someone else, but if it's truly something you don't like or enjoy, then there is no reason to push it.

 

[oOMinxOo]

Nothing wrong with limits. I think the imperator thing is to respect that people have limits and they should be respect and not chastised. I have had limits when it comes to pegging, sub men, trans, etc. my husband has recently divulged he is bi sexual and has a certain list toward pegging and teams women. This has obviously thrown a wrench in our sex life. I'm trying to accommodate in interim.

Hard lines, no matter what they are, should be respected and coddled. In my humble opinion.

Nothing makes me feel like less of a person than when my husband chastizes me for not wanted to role Play as a man. I simply cannot. It's put a strain on our marriage.

 

[lydia_kitty]

Limits are limits no matter what the activity may be.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[desertslave]

I hate having my feet touched, especially by strangers. The idea of going for a pedicure makes me want to cry.

 

[lydia_kitty]

I'm not into tickling at all.. being tickled or tickling. I knew a guy who just wanted to be tied up and tickled and I was like "nope".

 

[MeekMe]

The ketchup thing made me think of this one little thing I just can't stand. I really don't like when someone puts salt on their food before they've tasted it. I couldn't live with someone or be in a romantic relationship with someone that does that. It seems so insalting.




OMG, I punned.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[MeekMe]

In truth, all though the ketchup thing is very real, I suppose it's a symptom of the importance of sensuality in its many forms to me. The salt thing would annoy me too. ( although I have a rather tedious caveat, I usually opt not to cook with salt at all and so some repeat same old dishes I could understand being salted by habit..)

I'll admit to using ketchup on eggs.

It makes sense if it's a habit with a known food. I draw the line at dinning out and salting before trying.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]