Signs of progress?

[Pure]

Teens are by all accounts getting into a variety of practices. Is it a good thing?

NYU Dept of Journalism

http://journalweb.journalism.fas.nyu.edu/portfolio/leupold/Abstinence_Programs.html

According to U.S. News and World Report, the percentage of teens having anal sex because of abstinence groups has risen to 15 percent.

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from a blog:

http://fafblog.blogspot.com/2004_10_17_fafblog_archive.html

Giblets has fallen asleep in the onion dip watchin Larry King Live!, where Dr. Phil is explaining to me about the epidemic of oral sex in our middle schools. “Thousands of blowjobs every day!” says a visibly upset Dr. Phil. “Thousands upon thousands of pert teen lips! Can’t you see it, Larry? Can’t you see it?” There is genuine hurt on Dr. Phil’s face, just like there’s genuine hurt on the faces of children orphaned by the mass murderers in Darfur. I wish I could take away Dr. Phil’s hurt.

 

[Guest]

I think this is a worrying thing.

To me, anal sex is quite an "advanced" sexual practice, i.e. something that should only be practised with a partner who is willing to take the time to get it right. It isn't something that happens straight away, and it can be incredibly painful, as a lot here probably know.

Aside from the "comfort" element of anal sex, there is the health aspect. Ok, so you can't get pregnant from having anal sex, but the risk of contracting an STD (particularly HIV) is greatly increased with anal sex, and that is a very bad thing.

I was quite a "wild" teenager, but I was pretty sensible when it came to sex (always insisted on a condom - even in the most drunken fumblings), but anal sex never entered my mind as something I'd like to try until I was well into my twenties. I must be getting old, but I am surprised that so many teenagers are now experimenting with it.

There are just so many ramifications to it, which just aren't there with "normal" penetrative sex, with protection. Hygiene being one of them - even if condoms are used. I have to question whether they would feel the need to use a condom, as they know there would be no risk of pregnancy. That, in itself, is worrying.

Lou

 

[Songcatcher]

According to U.S. News and World Report, the percentage of teens having anal sex because of abstinence groups has risen to 15 percent.

In Catholic Italy, premarital anal sex is a norm.

I don't know about Southern Ireland.

 

[Songcatcher]

So far, one vote.

Opposite attract.

 

[Guest]

I was unsure which way to vote, so chose not to. I guess I could've put "Don't know" but I do know. It's just that none of the options reflect my view well enough.

I suppose, with care and with a condom, ok, yeah, maybe, but I have reservations. And I wouldn't say I find it "awful and offensive" but I do think it's risky.

Lou

 

[Guest]

Three votes.

The youngest one, please.

 

[shereads]

Youth is wasted on the young.

An entire generation of girls have reduced fellatio ~ an event of incomparable intimacy and trust ~ to the level of a first-date grope.

The fine art of worshipping the Object of Desire is now the thing you do when you're not ready to have sex, but you want him to ask you out again. What awful little people. I'm so glad I'm not a teenager.

 

[SlickTony]

Considering all the yow and ki-yi we're hearing about the terrible, the awful, etc., etc., about "alternative" sex, surely there must be some young person saying, "Well, they didn't want us to get pregnant...ferchrissake, what do they want?"

 

[dr_mabeuse]

This is kind of like shooting heroin so you'll avoid the dangers of pot-smoking.

--Zoot

 

[SlickTony]

I'm so glad I'm not a teenager.

I would only go through with it again on the condition that I knew what I know now.

 

[shereads]

If teenagers are allowed to define what is and isn't kinky, there will be no need for dirty stories. Saturday morning cartoons will feature anal sex between consenting mice and four-fingered ducks in white gloves and neckties.

It's up to us adults to protect the sanctity of deviant sexual practices, particularly fellatio.

We can lick this thing. We must.

 

[rikaaim]

I would like to chime in my 2 cents if I may. I must speak from 2 different forms though.

This is the form that is 22 and just missed out on all the fun. I want it back!!! I was only a few years away from all of the oral and anal and rainbow parties and all the good stuff. I missed out and I'm pissed!!!

Okay, now for the more mature and mostly controlling side. I think it's awful what the youth is doing now. Horny 22 year old aside, where's the love? It's terrible that when these teens grow up they'll have nothing to look forward to and sex will be boring and mundane because they already did it all with everyone. I've only ever had 1 partner. She's my wife now. We were active when she was 16 and I 17, got married 2 years later, and I regret how active we were. We did it all before we got married and now there's not much left to spark a kinkyness in the bedroom. What we do is great, but if we would have waited it would've been much better. But it's so hard to do anything when your young and hormones take over and you see on TV and hear from friends that everyone is doing something. Even masturbation at a young age can lessen the joy of being with somone for the first time. I only wish there was a switch for the sex drive that didn't turn on until you're with someone that you really care about and that you have a commitment made. I'm not saying marriage or even a long term relationship, just something that knows that this relationship is real and not just a game or plaything. Then after that first time, whatever. Go have promiscuous fun. I agree that sex is being reduced and at times almost seems like a drug type addiction or power play tool for 1 person to control another. With teens both aspects become even more powerful and hard to resist. A female can get a man to do just about anything between ages 14 and 16 with the promise of a blowjob. My opinion of course.

 

[shereads]

It's terrible that when these teens grow up they'll have nothing to look forward to and sex will be boring and mundane because they already did it all with everyone.

On a serious note, that does seem to be inevitable and it's sad. Without taboos, we'd never have the delicious experience of indulging in the forbidden. Without sexual repression, we'd never have the thrill of bending and eventually breaking the rules. Where will kids who've tried everything look for their forbidden thrills? What's forbidden?

 

[rikaaim]

On a serious note, that does seem to be inevitable and it's sad. Without taboos, we'd never have the delicious experience of indulging in the forbidden. Without sexual repression, we'd never have the thrill of bending and eventually breaking the rules. Where will kids who've tried everything look for their forbidden thrills? What's forbidden?

Exactly. To these kids nothing is because they are breaking the rules in the first place by defying their parent's wishes. They already no what they are doing is wrong, so they are just going to do all that they can get away with. The mentality from what I have observed is that as long no intercourse takes place most teens still think they have their virginity and that's why they do everything else.

 

[RobertEdwardLee]

The lack of romance is the problem.

 

[rikaaim]

The lack of romance is the problem.

It's not the lack of romance that bothers me. What gets me is how much pleasureable can it be after you cheepen the whole meaning of the act? The thing is that they probably don't even know what they are really doing. How many teens can be expected to realize the importance of the act and that after doing it so regularly for so long that it becomes routine and has no meaning? That's my concern. It almost becomes expected after a certain point. I do agree that romance needs to be instilled and that personal connections need to be made. In the end THAT is what really makes the act special. It all does become the same, but if the person you do it with is special, then the act is special.

 

[Pure]

What gets me is how much pleasureable can it be after you cheepen the whole meaning of the act?

sounds like you've got something against 'cheep' sex

as woody allen said, 'the thing about sex is that even bad sex is very good.' (ok, ok, a male pov)

 

[shereads]

The need for new forbidden thrills will lead to limb amputation as a replacement for body piercing; or worse yet, a second resurgence of ABBA.

 

[Pure]

What no one yet has commented on is the fact--assuming it is such-- that the (increased) anal sex practice comes apparently in reaction to 'abstinence' programs and commitments (Official US gov policy)! Ya can't fool Mother Nature.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Yeah, it's terrible to think that some people are actually doing things that we only write about.

As for the abstinence programs, I just find it hard to believe that you could so dumb that you'd be afraid of vaginal sex but think that anal is a-okay. I mean, it used to be called sodomy, didn't it?

---dr.M.

 

[SlickTony]

I thought the whole rationale behind it was that you could avoid pregnancy that way.

 

[amicus]

With no intention to change the direction of anal sex as the thread topic..but upon reading the thoughts posted thus far a thought came to mind...

Morality, sexual issues, rights and wrongs, were once upon a time the province of religion. That is to say that a code of conduct was supplied by the church, whether it was followed or not.

As the influence of religion has waned, people have looked elsewhere for guidance concerning sexual issues.

Many will groan and roll their eyes as Amicus once again suggests a quest for an objective perusal of what is moral and what is immoral in terms of sexual activity.

I applaud several here for enlightening and thought provoking comments thus far. I suggest when referring to these rotten teenagers...we might consider them as our own sons and daughters and rethink what we have passed on both by thought and deed.

amicus...

 

[Songcatcher]

amicus...

Hiya'.

 

[rikaaim]

I applaud several here for enlightening and thought provoking comments thus far. I suggest when referring to these rotten teenagers...we might consider them as our own sons and daughters and rethink what we have passed on both by thought and deed.

amicus...

That's exactly why I'm worried about this. In about 3 years I'll have my own children. Then 13 years later I'll have to think about the changing trends and what my own children will want to be doing. My wife disagrees with me on this, but I feel if my child is going to defy me and do it anyway, I want to know and take the best precautions that I can. My wife still believes guilt is the best tatic to avoid this growing trend. I just don't see that as feasible when we ourselves defied our parents and was active at a fairly young age. Well, 16 for her and 17 for me. The problem seems to be the age now is more like 13 and 14. My wife's cousin was pregnant at 15 and that almost seems old to be pregnant now a days. I do agree that the point of anal sex seems to be two fold. One: to avoid pregnancy and thus continuing to be active. Two: to still have the illusion of maintainign virginity.

The are many downsides to anal sex that I wonder if these teenagers even know about. If done for too long or incorrectly, from what I've heard from medical sources, then the muscle tissues controlling that area can break down and then it's Depends for the rest of your life. That is just aside from all the aforementioned negativities of STDs and everything else.

 

[carsonshepherd]

The are many downsides to anal sex that I wonder if these teenagers even know about. If done for too long or incorrectly, from what I've heard from medical sources, then the muscle tissues controlling that area can break down and then it's Depends for the rest of your life. That is just aside from all the aforementioned negativities of STDs and everything else. [/B]

Not true. Check your sources, sweets. But the STD risk is much higher because these kids think since there's no pregnancy risk they don't need to use condoms. THAT is what scares me!