Shy, but looking to open up to a friend.

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Hi everyone, before I go on about what I'm here looking for, I figured it would be best to give you guys some information about me!

My name is Laura, I'm 18 years old and from Ontario, Canada (EST time zone). I have a part time job at a local book store and I'm also working towards getting my high school diploma through online schooling. My goal is to be accepted into the University of Toronto and go from there. I'm a very shy person, especially towards strangers. Once I get more comfortable, I'm very quick to open up and have fun. Some of you may be tired of reading this, but yes, I'm submissive at heart, no doubt about it. That said, I'm not a yes Sir, no Sir kind of girl. I guess those kinds of details could be talked about individually, but I figured I would put that out there.

Now that that’s all out of the way, down to business. As I mentioned before, I'm very shy. Because of this, I feel like I've missed out on some pretty great experiences, especially because I don’t attend a typical high school. I have a few close friends, but none that I feel truly comfortable enough to open up to about my fantasies or sex in general, really. I want to make that kind of close friendship connection with someone here – I'm not looking for an online/real life romantic relationship. I’d like to be able to do friend things with this person, like watch movies together and help each other out through tough times. I’d also like to be able to discuss our deepest desires and possibly take things a step further to satisfy some of those needs.

Just to sum that all up, I'm looking for someone (preferably a somewhat dominant male, but I'm very open to chatting with some like-minded girls) to text chat with at first and if I feel comfortable enough, move to voice chats. At the moment I'm not open to cam chatting or sending pictures of myself, but that’s subject to change whenever I feel ready.

I'm also going to put it out there that if my identity is ever at question (my age or sex) I would be willing to send photo proof of some form of identification verification once I'm comfortable enough to do so.

Thanks to everyone who has read this and I hope you all have a great night/day! :)

Edit on 29/06/2014 - I've gotten tons of rude messages and even some threats calling out my gender, which is a little ridiculous. Seeing as I'm uncomfortable showing my face to a thousand possible dangerous strangers, I've came to the conclusion that posting a different kind of picture is something I am comfortable with. If I still get questioned and threatened after that, it's a lost cause :rolleyes: Here you all go - http://i.imgur.com/skWWPy9.jpg
 
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Hi everyone, before I go on about what I'm here looking for, I figured it would be best to give you guys some information about me!

My name is Laura, I'm 18 years old and from Ontario, Canada (EST time zone). I have a part time job at a local book store and I'm also working towards getting my high school diploma through online schooling. My goal is to be accepted into the University of Toronto and go from there. I'm a very shy person, especially towards strangers. Once I get more comfortable, I'm very quick to open up and have fun. Some of you may be tired of reading this, but yes, I'm submissive at heart, no doubt about it. That said, I'm not a yes Sir, no Sir kind of girl. I guess those kinds of details could be talked about individually, but I figured I would put that out there.

Now that that’s all out of the way, down to business. As I mentioned before, I'm very shy. Because of this, I feel like I've missed out on some pretty great experiences, especially because I don’t attend a typical high school. I have a few close friends, but none that I feel truly comfortable enough to open up to about my fantasies or sex in general, really. I want to make that kind of close friendship connection with someone here – I'm not looking for an online/real life romantic relationship. I’d like to be able to do friend things with this person, like watch movies together and help each other out through tough times. I’d also like to be able to discuss our deepest desires and possibly take things a step further to satisfy some of those needs.

Just to sum that all up, I'm looking for someone (preferably a somewhat dominant male, but I'm very open to chatting with some like-minded girls) to text chat with at first and if I feel comfortable enough, move to voice chats. At the moment I'm not open to cam chatting or sending pictures of myself, but that’s subject to change whenever I feel ready.

I'm also going to put it out there that if my identity is ever at question (my age or sex) I would be willing to send photo proof of some form of identification verification once I'm comfortable enough to do so.

Thanks to everyone who has read this and I hope you all have a great night/day! :)

hi, you seem like a very nice girl. i'm sure i'm way to old for you, so good luck and hope you find something good...
 
I guess I should have mentioned it in the original post, but age really doesn't matter! At least, for the chatting bit it doesn't. If age did become a problem and I felt uneasy with it, I'd let you know :)

Thank you both for your well wishes :D
 
hii

First up all welcome to lit from your post I can say that you are very talkative person
N interesting too job n schooling @ same time may be making your life real hectic
But I m sure you will real nice friends here

N I wanna one of them for sure
 
Hello and welcome! You seem like an amazing and wonderful person. I hope that you enjoy the community here and find some people to open up and share with. This is probably a big step for you, so congratulations!
 
We live in the same province, I love going to the movies and I will always listen to people when they need someone for that.
If you are interested you can contact me here, I check semi-regularly even though I am new to the forums.
 
The first thing I would tell you, is to do a correspondence course through a brick & mortar high school. "Alternative" forms of secondary education could actually work against you. The same way a Sears or Target credit card hurts your credit rating.

Post secondary education in Ontario and in general is really nothing more than a biased elitist minefield.

That said I get your post & needs...and being over 40 I am half jealous & half relieved I don't have to live my teenage years in the current Ontario. Just play safe, and remember that the bullshit of today is the stuff of laughs tomorrow.
 
Morning!

Not from Canada - but wondering...

In the states one can get a GED. With that a typical progression is into community college - and with good to great grades move into a regular four year college and graduate with a Bachelors degree.

Just a thought, may not be relevant or helpful to you.

Lots of people start out shy, especially at your age. But you are doing things to advance yourself - job, going to school, having a plan for some next steps. At your point in life that's more important than being vivacious and naturally glib!

And besides - posting for the first time in place like Lit? I don't think you need to worry so much about being shy - your PM inbox is going to be very full and you will have all the chances in the world to work on that...
 
Gotta show some love for the asocial and introverted! We enjoy expressing ourselves and seek connections on a more difficult level than outgoing people. :)
 
The first thing I would tell you, is to do a correspondence course through a brick & mortar high school. "Alternative" forms of secondary education could actually work against you. The same way a Sears or Target credit card hurts your credit rating.

Post secondary education in Ontario and in general is really nothing more than a biased elitist minefield.

Not from Canada - but wondering...

In the states one can get a GED. With that a typical progression is into community college - and with good to great grades move into a regular four year college and graduate with a Bachelors degree.

I've had countless meetings with different college based counsellors, all informing me of the crutch I've put on myself by attending an alternative form of schooling. They basically told me that I would have to attend a college, or maybe a less prestigious university if it was possible (York University), and then transfer over to UoT.

I've had several cousins go to UoT, I've been very fortunate to be able to visit the campus and sit in on a few different classes. I was extremely lucky to be able to talk to one of the administrators about admissions and they told me the same thing the counsellors did. However, he did say that depending on my grades, the time it took me to complete the courses, and with the right amount of outside social skills (job and a lot of community volunteer experience), the chance of getting accepted wasn't impossible.

So, I'm hoping for the best but preparing for if that doesn't happen. I'm still going to apply to York University and some safety collages, but I have a really good feeling about UoT.

But absolutely, it is ridiculously difficult for so many students trying to move forward in their education. A lot of my friends are struggling with financial aid, many of them are going to have to sit out a year or two to work full time. Which wouldn't be so horrible if they hadn't already been working for several years to try to build up their post secondary funds. I'm fortunate enough to not have to worry about how I'm going to be paying for school, but my heart really goes out to those that do.
 
You can always start out at a decent college for undergrad and then get accepted to a major university for grad. That happened to several friends. They went to Armstrong Atlantic State University (pretty much accepts anyone with a diploma) and then had amazing grades and got accepted to Mercer University/UGA.

On the contrary, I know of students who went to Mercer for undergrad and couldn't handle the workload.

Me, I was a complete boss in undergrad, but I did shitty on the PCAT. So I was stuck with a private school in Savannah. :/

Oh and you write really well. Your grades must be good, right?
 
For the most part, my grades are great. My toughest subject is math, there's just something about it I can't wrap my head around. I can get the basics, but after that... everything gets confusing. I have a tutor for math (and science, but that's not so bad) I excel at English and history :rolleyes:

Being an independent learner has really been difficult because I've had to set my own schedule and stick to it. I'm glad that I've experienced this heavy work load so that maybe when I get to college/university level I won't be so overwhelmed.
 
For the most part, my grades are great. My toughest subject is math, there's just something about it I can't wrap my head around. I can get the basics, but after that... everything gets confusing. I have a tutor for math (and science, but that's not so bad) I excel at English and history :rolleyes:

Being an independent learner has really been difficult because I've had to set my own schedule and stick to it. I'm glad that I've experienced this heavy work load so that maybe when I get to college/university level I won't be so overwhelmed.


Math never makes sense!
 
For the most part, my grades are great. My toughest subject is math, there's just something about it I can't wrap my head around. I can get the basics, but after that... everything gets confusing. I have a tutor for math (and science, but that's not so bad) I excel at English and history :rolleyes:

Being an independent learner has really been difficult because I've had to set my own schedule and stick to it. I'm glad that I've experienced this heavy work load so that maybe when I get to college/university level I won't be so overwhelmed.

Well, hang in there and keep on working hard.

I hope you enjoy your time in a bookstore. I worked at one for highschool/undergrad and on slow nights I basically got paid to do my homework :)
 
For the most part, my grades are great. My toughest subject is math, there's just something about it I can't wrap my head around. I can get the basics, but after that... everything gets confusing. I have a tutor for math (and science, but that's not so bad) I excel at English and history :rolleyes:

Being an independent learner has really been difficult because I've had to set my own schedule and stick to it. I'm glad that I've experienced this heavy work load so that maybe when I get to college/university level I won't be so overwhelmed.

Hard work and dedication can get you through 90% of life. Keep chugging and you'll get what you want.
 
Good luck in your search. I think you're going to find a lot of people will be wanting to chat with you... I hope you don't blush too hard when some of the naughty ones come filtering through!
 
Always looking for new friends. But I suspect I am a bit old for you as well. Good luck in finding some good friends.
 
Thank you all for your well wishes! The community all seems very nice, so that's really great! I'm a little disappointed I haven't gotten any message from any girls yet, but I guess that's to be expected.
 
I think if you want to find a girl to chat with, you're more likely to come across one by accident posting in the Playground as opposed to actively searching for one in the Personals.

Starting off at a smaller/easier school, getting pre-reqs out of the way and then transferring to a major school when you're ready to take upper-level courses is actually a pretty common plan. I think it especially makes sense in your case, because lots of people get overwhelmed in their first year at a big University if their education didn't prepare them for that (large classes, not knowing how to seek out the resources the University provides, etc.).
 
Disappointed elephants...

We can't have that now! Hi Laura! I'm a girl... err... woman... err... a tiny woman that looks like a girl still. lol! Welcome to the forums. I'm relatively new myself (joined a few months back) and have had good experiences thus far. Feel free to message me anytime :)

mowi
 
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