Showing your/your SOs face in pictures

[DwayneDibley]

I don't think this has been posted before, tried doing a search but kept getting 'page can't be displayed' error messages!

I've been posting pictures of my girlfriend in the AmPics area, and so far have avoided showing her face in them to protect her anonomynity (sp?). However, I've looked at some of the other threads in that section, and I think often the best ones are those where you can see the other person's face, their beauty, and importantly, their facial expressions in the photos. Seeing this, and how turned on they are can really make a picture.

My point is, is it worth showing her face in future pictures? (assuming she agrees.) What potential risks would there be in doing that? Stalking? Anything worse? Is it a good idea, or is it better to stay safely anonymous?

Your thoughts please!

 

[LonelyNights]

Good question, I'm rather curious of it myself; think my biggest worry on that issue is posting your face and then bumping into someone on here somewhere in real life; like say, if for some bizarre reason you ended up working with someone on here, or bumping into someone on here in a weird coincidence...that's at least my paranoia factor.

 

[SweetErika]

I don't think this has been posted before, tried doing a search but kept getting 'page can't be displayed' error messages!

I've been posting pictures of my girlfriend in the AmPics area, and so far have avoided showing her face in them to protect her anonomynity (sp?). However, I've looked at some of the other threads in that section, and I think often the best ones are those where you can see the other person's face, their beauty, and importantly, their facial expressions in the photos. Seeing this, and how turned on they are can really make a picture.

My point is, is it worth showing her face in future pictures? (assuming she agrees.) What potential risks would there be in doing that? Stalking? Anything worse? Is it a good idea, or is it better to stay safely anonymous?

Your thoughts please!

As LN said, there's always the risk of someone recognizing you in real life. Stalking and someone tracking you down is also a possibility, but you can make that more difficult by not revealing your location (I'd go straight to Staffordshire if I wanted to find you, Dwayne) or a hint of your real name. You might consider creating another account that reveals nothing about either of you to be used just for posting pics (but then you can't link to it in your sig line). I'd imagine there could also be some problems if you had kids, had joint-custody, or lived in a particularly conservative area as well, but that's unlikely.

It's really personal preference, so if she wants to, go for it. I've toyed with the idea, and came to the conclusion that I'd rather save it for special people I talk to frequently (and would do it under an alternate identity if I did decide to post). I'd much rather look at pics with faces than just body parts though.

 

[DwayneDibley]

Thanks for your thoughts. Stalking is something that I'm a bit worried about, not sure if it helps but the majority of members here seem to be US-based, and as I'm in the UK it might make it harder for someone to do that, and with Staffordshire being a county it's quite non-specific.

You hear horror stories about people getting tracked down on the internet and raped, murdered or something like that, but that is comparatively rare, and there are lots of people here on Lit that do post facial pictures and don't seem to have had any problems. I do feel that seeing the face of the person helps, and can make a picture even more erotic or a turn on. I'm pleased with the pictures I've taken of my GF, but feel that they're more 'hardcore', and not particularly erotic. One of the great things about this site is seeing pictures of people, real people in photos obviously having fun, getting turned on, and not just posing and thinking of the paycheque at the end of it like in 'conventional' porn.

Next question - those of you that have posted pictures with your face in - have you had any problems at all?

 

[Eilan]

First of all, and this is a no-brainer, don't show her face without her consent. If she didn't know you were posting her pics on here in the first place, it would, at the very least, be a huge betrayal of trust.

My husband and I have taken some naughty pics, but I view them as something that's done for OUR enjoyment. I might consider putting pics up if our faces weren't in them, but my husband has a job that makes him quite visible in our community (and even our state, to some extent, because of the people he knows), and posting our faces on Lit could be potentially devastating to his career. Since he's set to retire this summer, we don't want to jeopardize that! People in his division have been fired for much less.

By the way, that's part of my face in my av; that's pretty much all that I feel comfortable showing. It doesn't mean that I'm ashamed for posting on Lit, because I'm not.

 

[DwayneDibley]

Don't worry, I'm posting with her permission, she rather enjoys the comments that people leave!

Perhaps I should have made this into a poll. In fact, I think I will, if I can work out how....

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks for your thoughts. Stalking is something that I'm a bit worried about, not sure if it helps but the majority of members here seem to be US-based, and as I'm in the UK it might make it harder for someone to do that, and with Staffordshire being a county it's quite non-specific.

You hear horror stories about people getting tracked down on the internet and raped, murdered or something like that, but that is comparatively rare, and there are lots of people here on Lit that do post facial pictures and don't seem to have had any problems. I do feel that seeing the face of the person helps, and can make a picture even more erotic or a turn on. I'm pleased with the pictures I've taken of my GF, but feel that they're more 'hardcore', and not particularly erotic. One of the great things about this site is seeing pictures of people, real people in photos obviously having fun, getting turned on, and not just posing and thinking of the paycheque at the end of it like in 'conventional' porn.

Next question - those of you that have posted pictures with your face in - have you had any problems at all?

Very true, I'm just extremely cautious. FWIW, when I've posted other bra pics, the only result has been a lot of explicit PMs and requests for more pics and chat. A few of the guys were extremely persistent, but I was polite and firm and they left me alone after a while.

 

[DwayneDibley]

yes, I've had a few expclicit PMs and comments, but my GF loved them! I didn't reply to the explicit ones, and they didn't pm again. Hopefully they would also get the message after a firm reply. Mind you, that hasn't really been a problem, they must know they'd get me and not the girl in the pictures.

 

[Eilan]

Don't worry, I'm posting with her permission, she rather enjoys the comments that people leave!

I remember a few threads from back in my lurker days where people who worked on computers took cybersex chat logs and naughty pics from their clients. One dude actually posted the chat logs on here--briefly; the guy with the pics wanted to know what he should do with him.

I assumed that you DID have her permission, but I know that some people out there can be less than scrupulous when it comes to stuff like this.

 

[SweetErika]

yes, I've had a few expclicit PMs and comments, but my GF loved them! I didn't reply to the explicit ones, and they didn't pm again. Hopefully they would also get the message after a firm reply. Mind you, that hasn't really been a problem, they must know they'd get me and not the girl in the pictures.

If I ever post more, it sounds like having my husband post them would be the way to go! It certainly is a great confidence booster, and it looks like you have a solid start (I took a peek...nice, but I'd much rather be able to see the face as well).

 

[The_Dem0n]

I am trying to remember now, if the photo's I posted of my wife and myself over here included our face. I guess I need to search. I know I have posted our faces elsewhere on smaller boards. Here though with so many people, you really could run into someone you know in RL.

 

[Eilan]

Here though with so many people, you really could run into someone you know in RL.

I don't see why people would get offended if they were to see someone they knew on Lit. After all, for them to see it, they had to be on here, too.

However, I know that some people are looking to make trouble for others if they can, even if they end up looking like hypocrites in the process.

Just to be on the safe side, my husband and I won't be putting up any pics until he retires, if we do it at all. I think that if we did start a thread over on AmPics, I'd use my husband's account. He registered back in 2002, but he's never posted. I'd let him handle all the fan/hate mail.

 

[Weird Harold]

My point is, is it worth showing her face in future pictures? (assuming she agrees.) What potential risks would there be in doing that? Stalking? Anything worse? Is it a good idea, or is it better to stay safely anonymous?

My face can be found on this site -- although nothing sexually explicit -- in my site profile.

Whether to post faces in erotic pictures is highly dependent on how paraniod you are or need to be -- as mentioned above, recogniseable pictures can have an adverse affect on a job or standing in the community if the become common knowledge.

The probability that pictures here would cause any serious problems like stalking or blackmail is very low, but not completley non-existent.

You'll have to assess the risks as they relate to your situation. The worst thing that is likely to happen is a friend or acquaintance might recognise you but even then they're unlikely to make a big deal of it -- because it would require they admit to coming here as well.