showing off submissive feelings

[tomtomtim]

so I have been wondering how people who don't have a partner to play with "show off" their submissive feelings in their daily life. Is there something that makes you feel submissive simply by doing it, even if no one else can see or experience it with you? I was thinking along the lines of:

* sleep naked
* walk around naked all days long in your house
* masturbate, cum all over your body, rub cum into the skin
* masturbate, cum over your face or into your mouth
* always eat your cum after you masturbate
* drink lots of water, not allowed to go to bath room
* pee over yourself
* pee into your face and mouth
* spank yourself
* take pictures, record video while doing above
* post pictures or video on internet

needless to say that i have done that

anything else that any of you have experienced or do (to) yourself? eager to learn and become even more submissive and humiliated.

 

[liqueur]

so I have been wondering how people who don't have a partner to play with "show off" their submissive feelings in their daily life. Is there something that makes you feel submissive simply by doing it, even if no one else can see or experience it with you? I was thinking along the lines of:

* sleep naked
* walk around naked all days long in your house
anything else that any of you have experienced or do (to) yourself? eager to learn and become even more submissive and humiliated.

Sleeping naked or walking around the house naked (in summer) are just normal parts of my daily life, so they don't really bring out the sub in me (unless someone else is present, fully clothed, But that's not what you're talking about here.)

Along the lines you're speaking: drinking pee helps. (it works best if I can maintain the fiction that it's someone else's). I especially like strong morning pee mixed with my tea. Something magical about that blend. I love to go out and mow the yard, and have a cup of tea-and-strong-pee with me on the tractor. Wave to the neighbors. Try to imagine which ones might like to know me as I truly am. Wearing a butt plug at these times helps, too

 

[CandiCame]

I'm all about that substyle, but our lists don't line up.

I just kind of really need a dom around. I can't really do like... literally anything to help myself. If I'm alone and want to do a scene I'm just fucked.

I've always been like... weirdly dependent on others for sex stuff. It's probably not super healthy.

I just can't get into the space by myself. I've tried and it's just not how I'm wired, I guess.

 

[Soraya1]

Doing my housework either completely naked, or better yet, wearing only my collar and cuffs, definitely does help to reinforce my submissiveness. As a side benefit, it also seems to make that boring task go much more easily.

 

[liqueur]

I just kind of really need a dom around. I can't really do like... literally anything to help myself. If I'm alone and want to do a scene I'm just fucked....

No, I can't do a "scene" either (although it's very hard to define what is or isn't a scene). But that's not what this is about, if I understand it properly. It's more like evoking an unfulfilled feeling—a tease; sort of like edging.

That said, it's a very fragile headspace, for me. A single phone call can cause it to crash. Or if one of those neighbors I mentioned actually stops to talk to me. Sometimes that can heighten the feeling—squeezing my ass, and wondering "what if s/he really knew..." Other times, a bit of mundane conversation can, again, simply crash the mood. Once crashed, it's gone. No getting it back again.

 

[CandiCame]

No, I can't do a "scene" either (although it's very hard to define what is or isn't a scene). But that's not what this is about, if I understand it properly. It's more like evoking an unfulfilled feeling—a tease; sort of like edging.

That said, it's a very fragile headspace, for me. A single phone call can cause it to crash. Or if one of those neighbors I mentioned actually stops to talk to me. Sometimes that can heighten the feeling—squeezing my ass, and wondering "what if s/he really knew..." Other times, a bit of mundane conversation can, again, simply crash the mood. Once crashed, it's gone. No getting it back again.

Oh! Ok, wait, yeah I get what you're talking about.

Then the thing for me is literally anything tight around my neck, especially if it's weighted. I know that it comes from wearing collars in subspace, but if I wear a tie I'll feel myself drifting sometimes- especially if people tug on it WHICH FOR SOME REASON PEOPLE DO.

Like... don't... do... that... I'm at work... not time for...

But I can be fully clothed and if I get something too heavy or tight around my neck it does kinda set that off.

Also if anyone pulls my hair, but I'm adult now and most people don't just do that but they will pull on ties and I don't know why that's acceptable.

I tend to just do the button-up thing most days because I legit like, can't deal with it. I don't know how I got that so fucked up in my head.

 

[twister947]

I'm envious of y'all's abilities to do this. Subscribed.

 

[liqueur]

Oh! Ok, wait, yeah I get what you're talking about.

Then the thing for me is literally anything tight around my neck... if I wear a tie I'll feel myself drifting sometimes- especially if people tug on it WHICH FOR SOME REASON PEOPLE DO.

Like... don't... do... that... I'm at work... not time for....

hee-hee! That's perfect!

 

[sub2femdom]

I will dress up in womens clothing or lingerie, sometimes sleep in it.

Once I caged my cock and slept the night in it.

I often use a wand to masturbate myself while in the lingerie

Other than that, it's not easy to fulfill my desires without a Dom there to push me.

My wife sometimes plays along and it's a world of difference.

 

[sluttyjulia]

I always sleep naked when I am alone and am always naked when at home and alone.

 

[LupusDei]

so I have been wondering how people who don't have a partner to play with "show off" their submissive feelings in their daily life. Is there something that makes you feel submissive simply by doing it, even if no one else can see or experience it with you? I was thinking along the lines of:

* sleep naked
* walk around naked all days long in your house
* masturbate, cum all over your body, rub cum into the skin
* masturbate, cum over your face or into your mouth
* always eat your cum after you masturbate
* drink lots of water, not allowed to go to bath room
* pee over yourself
* pee into your face and mouth
* spank yourself
* take pictures, record video while doing above
* post pictures or video on internet

needless to say that i have done that

anything else that any of you have experienced or do (to) yourself? eager to learn and become even more submissive and humiliated.

Let me tear apart your list a bit.

I'm myself, in BDSM terms, I'm pure primal-hunter. Not a good dominant, but nothing submissive for sure. Then I'm also a quasi-nudist in a culture (probably wildly) different from stereotypical American.

Sleeping naked is my default. Not even necessarily sexy, just very normal.

Walking around naked isn't quite as normal as I would like to pretend it to be, and it's a sadly rare occasion, due to many factors; but I totally love it. I especially love to be nude when I do voyeur on unsuspecting folks (experimenting with outdoors nudity for the very first time, ideally, shy, nervous and embarrassed). It does add on the 'wrongness' of it, and up the perceived risk of bring caught, adding adrenaline, but it is all in very much the predator mode; and I guess nudity also plays with the primal aspect of it.

The perception change a bit when I play with my very own alt-female side. She's totally a shy slut, but does that make her submissive, I don't think so.

By the way I also know folks that drink their own pee claiming health benefits through whatever new-age-ish bullshit arguments, and thus it definitely must be their own, and its supposed benefits a testament to their notoriously careful diet. Nothing necessarily submissive in that either, just shows off self-discipline to the extreme (while I guess, submissiveness has something to do within the source of the discipline to be outside of self, what clearly isn't the case for them).

Well, but if you're just telling what works for you, without pretense of it being universal, I do see where you're coming from and how it might work.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I always sleep naked when I am alone and am always naked when at home and alone.

I’d love to drop by...

 

[sluttyjulia]

I’d love to drop by...

You are welcome

 

[hex2112]

so I have been wondering how people who don't have a partner to play with "show off" their submissive feelings in their daily life. Is there something that makes you feel submissive simply by doing it, even if no one else can see or experience it with you? I was thinking along the lines of:

* sleep naked
* walk around naked all days long in your house
* masturbate, cum all over your body, rub cum into the skin
* masturbate, cum over your face or into your mouth
* always eat your cum after you masturbate
* drink lots of water, not allowed to go to bath room
* pee over yourself
* pee into your face and mouth
* spank yourself
* take pictures, record video while doing above
* post pictures or video on internet

needless to say that i have done that

anything else that any of you have experienced or do (to) yourself? eager to learn and become even more submissive and humiliated.

I do almost of all of this. I'm a big sub. Having my buddy treat me like a fem is wonderful. But for my wife I am normal. Weird

 

[liqueur]

By the way I also know folks that drink their own pee claiming health benefits through whatever new-age-ish bullshit arguments, and thus it definitely must be their own, and its supposed benefits a testament to their notoriously careful diet. Nothing necessarily submissive in that either, just shows off self-discipline to the extreme..

Actually pee-imbibing for health reasons isn't really "new age bullshit"; it is an old Hindu practice. That said, I've never encountered any evidence that it actually works. For me, it's purely a sexual perversion (in the finest sense of that term  )

 

[Jing83]

Sleeping naked, as other posters have mentioned, is fairly mundane. In my younger days though, when I was once in college and leaving behind a trail of hostels, it was a little more.