should I should'nt I ........

[jayuk_73]

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[emap]

Tell you the truth, I think the best way to do it is to just tell her. I mean seriously, sit her down and tell her, 'Honey i want to get a fleshlight, it's this flashlight looking thing that I insert myself into.' Show her a picture if you want, persoinalyl I find the things so dang funny looking, and then the idea of what you would do with it almost has me rolling on the floor.

Never know, she may want to watch you using it once or twice. Though I bet you wouldn't like it so much, you guys tend to go soft when someone starts laughing.

 

[Kylan]

I think you should definately tell her. I agree with emap that they look kinda funny, but I don't think this is a necessarily a minus.
Foreplay can be loving, passionate or tantalisingly cruel and I see no reason why humour can't be added to the equation.
You should see the look on my S.O.'s face when I produce one of my inventions/purchases

They have some pretty nice stuff over at http://www.knickerdrawer.com/ Perhaps you could purchase two presents, one of your choosing and her preference?

 

[done_got_old]

tell my wife about desire to get a fleshlght (google if you don't know).

She is very prudish about sex, and not really interested that much anymore. Good when we do it, just not enough for me. We have talked and we know we are different sex drives now.
She knows I satisfy myself when I need to - have tried asking her to 'help out' but not that keen most of the time.

Think this could be enjoyable for both of us, or should I keep it to myself as my own aid ??
How could I introduce the idea - she not ever into toys or anything - sexy lingerie is about the max.....

thanks jay (UK)

Yes, you should definitely tell her when it arrives.

 

[ima6uldv8]

That toy looks so nice, I almost wish I were a man so I could have some fun I agree about telling her about it. She shouldn't mind you getting this since she won't participate. Really sorry she's not into more fun. But, it's very admirable of you to choose this route instead of another woman.

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

what would rather have?Do you prefer it for your private joy,,,or do you want her to watch you?

 

[tNs]

You should definately tell her. No need to hide sucha thing. Like you said, she knows that your already doing the "Handy Andy", so what's the big stink about a toy?

 

[jayuk_73]

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[jayuk_73]

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[Kylan]

I don't think being honest with someone can possibly make things worse. It may make things difficult for a few days but in the long term, open, honest communication can only make a good relationship stronger.
If being honest destroys a relationship completely you normally find it was the foundation that was at fault.

I am genuinely sorry for the situation you find yourself in as you appear to be putting a lot of effort into building the relationship, but find myself wondering if your S.O. is as eager to save/build on what you have.
I wish you both well in the future of your choosing.