NemoAlia
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Last night my ex-boyfriend came over unexpectedly. I didn't answer the door, because I had company over (ahem... company...). He rang the bell again, and then sat outside on the steps for 15 minutes before he decided to remove the screen from my kitchen window, reach around, and let himself in the locked door. I met him in the living room and told him to leave, which he pretty much did. He says he was worried that I was hurt, since my light was on and I didn't answer the door. However, I heard him say, "fucking bitch" while he was fiddling with the screen. I did not hear him say, "Hey (name), are you all right in there?"
Anyway, when he left, I called the police, who responded quickly. I was concerned for my own safety, and the safety of my guest, since the ex is definitely armed (damn me for dating a ROTC freak). Anyway, the cops say I can charge this guy with burglary if I want to.
What do you think? Should I press charges? It would ruin his career, especially since he already has a few complaints against him for fighting and for domestic abuse stuff. I kind of think it's about time one of his ex-girlfriends actually stood up for herself.
On the other hand, I will probably still have to see him. Would it be better just to let this blow over? The fact that I did call the cops hopefully sent the message that I'm willing and able to take action against him if he fucks with me. Maybe he'll think to himself, "Damn, I'd better not do anything else, or she'll press charges." I mean, it's nice to have this leverage.
Grrr... he's young and stupid. Don't ask me why I got involved with him. I guess I'm attracted to his strength of character. Too bad it's such a negative character. And it's not like I didn't know it all along. Last night was not particularly a surprise, although he's never done this before. Hm. Maybe my desire to press charges is just a vengeance thing -- a desire that just once, he should lose. He has patronized me all along, treating me like his property in the classically southwestern tradition. The only good thing about that is I get the feeling he won't hurt me, since I'm not really worth the trouble. Y'know, women are inherently weak and not worth the effort of changing them. But I'm sort of concerned for the guy who was in the apartment with me. We weren't exactly caught "in flagrante delicto," but it was obvious what had been going on before the ex got there.
Anyway... suggestions?
Anyway, when he left, I called the police, who responded quickly. I was concerned for my own safety, and the safety of my guest, since the ex is definitely armed (damn me for dating a ROTC freak). Anyway, the cops say I can charge this guy with burglary if I want to.
What do you think? Should I press charges? It would ruin his career, especially since he already has a few complaints against him for fighting and for domestic abuse stuff. I kind of think it's about time one of his ex-girlfriends actually stood up for herself.
On the other hand, I will probably still have to see him. Would it be better just to let this blow over? The fact that I did call the cops hopefully sent the message that I'm willing and able to take action against him if he fucks with me. Maybe he'll think to himself, "Damn, I'd better not do anything else, or she'll press charges." I mean, it's nice to have this leverage.
Grrr... he's young and stupid. Don't ask me why I got involved with him. I guess I'm attracted to his strength of character. Too bad it's such a negative character. And it's not like I didn't know it all along. Last night was not particularly a surprise, although he's never done this before. Hm. Maybe my desire to press charges is just a vengeance thing -- a desire that just once, he should lose. He has patronized me all along, treating me like his property in the classically southwestern tradition. The only good thing about that is I get the feeling he won't hurt me, since I'm not really worth the trouble. Y'know, women are inherently weak and not worth the effort of changing them. But I'm sort of concerned for the guy who was in the apartment with me. We weren't exactly caught "in flagrante delicto," but it was obvious what had been going on before the ex got there.
Anyway... suggestions?
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