Should I let him shag me?

[Lovepotion69]

Ok, tomorrow (probably) I've agreed to go out for a drink with a guy I went on a few dates with last year. Then I stopped going out with him as he could be a bit moody. We've kept in touch sporadically and the other texted me saying he was doing his driving test. If he passed he thought we should go for a drink to celebrate. I thought about it carefully and thought, "Ok, what the hell."

So, I've promised to buy him a beer to celebrate that he passed (we spoke on the phone today). Now, horny as I've been for the past couple of weeks I'm contemplating letting him end up in bed with me. I could do with a shag. And no, I don't want a relationship with him at all, but a shag is mighty tempting right now...

What do you guys think? Should I do it or not?

 

[Guest]

Just now getting his drivers license!!!! You been cruising the high schools again LP? Going to encourage him to drink and drive on a new license?

OK, kidding aside...moody...will he consider a shag the start of something and make it hard get rid of him later? \

On the other hand a guy you know is more trustworthy than a pickup and your need sounds great. No other friend you'd like to extend benefits too at a time like this? Is he your best/only opportunity?

No answers for you, just questions.

 

[3113]

I agree with Ted. "Moody" sounds to me like someone who might take a shag to be more than a shag. Is he that kind of moody? The last thing you want is him calling you up and saying, "But I thought..." and when you try to explain that you were just horny and using him to sate those urges, he calls you a cunt and slams down the phone

 

[Nirvanadragones]

. . . he calls you a cunt and slams down the phone

That's kinda sexy . . .

Edited to add: I'm not sure . . . even if he reacts that way, if you're honest with him from the start, and you make it clear that you want sex, and he wants the same, then why not?

I'd say - trust your instincts. Do what feels right. Are you attracted to him enough to really enjoy the experience? If so - go for it, and enjoy.

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

Yeah, go ahead and bang the hell out of him. Get your gun off, then kick his ass out before he get his nut. Teach him a lesson

 

[Lovepotion69]

Just now getting his drivers license!!!! You been cruising the high schools again LP? Going to encourage him to drink and drive on a new license?

OK, kidding aside...moody...will he consider a shag the start of something and make it hard get rid of him later? \

On the other hand a guy you know is more trustworthy than a pickup and your need sounds great. No other friend you'd like to extend benefits too at a time like this? Is he your best/only opportunity?

No answers for you, just questions.

He He He's getting his license late. He's my age, around 27. Think he's actually 1-2 years older than me.

Hm, I have no clue if a shag would make it hard to get rid of him. I have told him in a text once though that if we ever do have sex it'll be just sex, not the start of a relationship. It'd be a booty call...

I don't have any other male friend to extend this type of benefit to right now. Yeah, so he's pretty much my only opportunity right now. lol My "special" friend won't be around to visit until in April.

 

[3113]

if you're honest with him from the start, and you make it clear that you want sex, and he wants the same, then why not?

Honesty is always best...but if you've got that particular kind of moody guy...it never works In the back of the moody guy's mind is something like this: "She says she only wants sex, but she doesn't really mean it. Once we have sex, she'll realize how much there really is between us...and that we should be back together."

 

[Guest]

Hm, I have no clue if a shag would make it hard to get rid of him. I have told him in a text once though that if we ever do have sex it'll be just sex, not the start of a relationship. It'd be a booty call...

Then I'd give a qualified "go for it"! As long as you're tough enough to give him the boot if he doesn't want the boot, or take a hint.

<sigh>Where were booty calls in the 80's?? Sex was regarded as a friendship killer then. Now...those friends are gone into the dust of time, and I don't have the memories of them that I could have had.

 

[3113]

<sigh>Where were booty calls in the 80's?? Sex was regarded as a friendship killer then. Now...those friends are gone into the dust of time, and I don't have the memories of them that I could have had.

Dude, that's glass-half-empty thinking. Consider, you also don't have the disappointing memories either, the ones of sex so awful you wish you could scrub it from your brain You can continue to think well of all those folks and how wonderful sex would have been without nasty reality to sour it

Think positive thoughts!

 

[Lovepotion69]

Hehe We've already done the whole slamming phone thing...as well as angry text messages and MSN messages. All that was a year ago.

I dunno if I'm attracted to him enough. I have kissed him before, so I guess there should be SOME attraction there. I met him when he used to work in the local computer shop. He would always say the weirdest stuff to me and catch me off guard. I once asked how much I owed him for some service he did on my laptop, his reply was "A date". Then every time I met him he'd say some flirty stuff and I'd be caught off guard. Finally we began to email and then met over coffe. Think we made out in a coffe shop once.

Haven't seen him in a year though, so dunno if I'm attracted still...hmmm.....But I DO know I'm dying for some action in the bed...

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

Dude, that's glass-half-empty thinking. Consider, you don't have the disappointing memories either, the ones of sex so awful you wish you could scrub it from your brain

Think positive thoughts!

ROFL...reminds me of Robin Williams line in "Man of the Year" - "Yes, I had sex with a prostitute. I was so bad she gave me a refund."

 

[Guest]

Dude, that's glass-half-empty thinking. Consider, you also don't have the disappointing memories either, the ones of sex so awful you wish you could scrub it from your brain You can continue to think well of all those folks and how wonderful sex would have been without nasty reality to sour it

Think positive thoughts!

Hey, bad sex is still good (at least from the guys POV). Although the woman who demanded I tie her up on the first date gave me pause, it was still an memorable time.

I met him when he used to work in the local computer shop. He would always say the weirdest stuff to me and catch me off guard.

Shit! That was once me. Now I'm rooting for the guy.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Ok, tomorrow (probably) I've agreed to go out for a drink with a guy I went on a few dates with last year. Then I stopped going out with him as he could be a bit moody. We've kept in touch sporadically and the other texted me saying he was doing his driving test. If he passed he thought we should go for a drink to celebrate. I thought about it carefully and thought, "Ok, what the hell."

So, I've promised to buy him a beer to celebrate that he passed (we spoke on the phone today). Now, horny as I've been for the past couple of weeks I'm contemplating letting him end up in bed with me. I could do with a shag. And no, I don't want a relationship with him at all, but a shag is mighty tempting right now...

What do you guys think? Should I do it or not?

You know, I always say;

Shagging isn't something you let him do- it's something you do together...

so, decide if YOU want to shag HIM, first...

the mid-twenties is a pretty moody age, as I recall...

 

[Lovepotion69]

Hey, bad sex is still good (at least from the guys POV). Although the woman who demanded I tie her up on the first date gave me pause, it was still an memorable time.


Shit! That was once me. Now I'm rooting for the guy.

You tied a girl up on the first date? Geesh! The hottest thing I've had happening on a first date was giving and being given a handjob.

Well, the guy says he's willing to give me a full body massage and that'd be kinda nice...

 

[3113]

Shit! That was once me.

RUN, LP69! Run!

 

[Guest]

RUN, LP69! Run!

The me now would agree.






Although I have to wonder today. When a coed's laptop is full of viruses and trojans, and her term paper is due in two days, who's sexier Knight in Shining Armor, the Quarterback or the Computer Geek?

 

[Kintrub]

Hi.

I say tell him where youre at - what youre thinking. Be open with him - diplomatic, but open. I know it aint romantic, but at least he'll know the score and be able to express what he'd like and/or back out...

It fair.

Tell him you would love to play with him, but youre not in the place where you want commitnment, just fun.

 

[Liar]

Hm, I have no clue if a shag would make it hard to get rid of him. I have told him in a text once though that if we ever do have sex it'll be just sex, not the start of a relationship. It'd be a booty call...

Make that clear to him in person between four eyes. Then, if he doesn't object, jump him.

 

[Lovepotion69]

The me now would agree.

Although I have to wonder today. When a coed's laptop is full of viruses and trojans, and her term paper is due in two days, who's sexier Knight in Shining Armor, the Quarterback or the Computer Geek?

My laptop was full of Lit stories...

 

[vampiredust]

Ok, tomorrow (probably) I've agreed to go out for a drink with a guy I went on a few dates with last year. Then I stopped going out with him as he could be a bit moody. We've kept in touch sporadically and the other texted me saying he was doing his driving test. If he passed he thought we should go for a drink to celebrate. I thought about it carefully and thought, "Ok, what the hell."

So, I've promised to buy him a beer to celebrate that he passed (we spoke on the phone today). Now, horny as I've been for the past couple of weeks I'm contemplating letting him end up in bed with me. I could do with a shag. And no, I don't want a relationship with him at all, but a shag is mighty tempting right now...

What do you guys think? Should I do it or not?

go for it

 

[Kev H]

Yeah, go ahead and bang the hell out of him. Get your gun off, then kick his ass out before he get his nut. Teach him a lesson

I was going to stay out of this thread, but MY GOD, Jenny. You are one of the few who can make me laugh and wince at the same time.

"Moody" sounds to me like someone who might take a shag to be more than a shag. Is he that kind of moody? The last thing you want is him calling you up and saying, "But I thought..." and when you try to explain that you were just horny and using him to sate those urges, he calls you a cunt and slams down the phone

Umm, is it just me or does this sound like some topsy-turvy reality where the emotions/intentions of commitment have gotten mixed around? Any other older guy think that sounds eerily familiar to the advice we gave guys about girls? Most amusing on a turn-about-is-fair-play level.

As to the initial post, if you are asking that question here, and he's just getting his license, I'd say you were scraping the bottom of the barrel, but that's just judgemental ol' me. So promptly ignore that in favor of the "go for it" advice--just whatever happens, learn from the experience. Hope ya get lucky (in more ways than one).

 

[Lovepotion69]

Hey! Don't say anything about the license! My work mate (26 y/o) just got his and his girlfriend did as well. In Sweden a license isn't a neccessity the same way as in US (unless you live in the north...)

 

[Svenskaflicka]

"Hey man, I haven't had any sex for some time. Wanna fuck me tonight and never talk about it ever again?"

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Lovepotion... Your av has bugged me and bugged me. . .I finally figured out why! You (if that is you) remind me of Geena Davis! I love Geena and that AV is just outstanding!

Good luck with your decision... my sex life sucks, and I'm married. I'd shag a friend if I had one, then deal with fate as it falls. ( I think )

 

[Kev H]

Hey! Don't say anything about the license! My work mate (26 y/o) just got his and his girlfriend did as well. In Sweden a license isn't a neccessity the same way as in US (unless you live in the north...)

Aha! That explains alot--I had no idea that "On my hands and knees" was in Sweden. See, younguns? That's why you hold your judgements to yourself, lest you make an ass out of yourself. Heh, sorry about that bad assumption.