Should I do it?? What do you think?

[Jade]

I like him... we've gone out a few times... but maybe he is asking me out as just a friend??? I am really starting to wonder now b/c he hasn't kissed me... and dammit I need that assurance.

The thing is, he is from another country.

The only indication I had that perhaps it was a date or that he liked me was the compliments he has given me and this response he gave to a guy at a party who asked if we were just friends or not... he responded with "we came together actually." WTF does that mean?

Wow, this feels sooo high school, but since I probably won't meet any of you, this feels sort of a like a "safe to be silly" envinronment, you know?

(If you really want details see my thread on the How to board, otherwise, just go with me on this, thanks.)

Anyway... we have gone out two or three times and have spent HOURS and HOURS and HOURS talking on the phone... so my question is... should I try to kiss him? I have NEVER made the first move and I am worried I am setting myself up for being hurt... probably so eh?

ANY suggestions?
What would you do?

 

[genderbender]

I am really starting to wonder now b/c he hasn't kissed me... and dammit I need that assurance.

The thing is, he is from another country...

I have a very lovely woman friend from Germany who recently ended a three year relationship. As soon as the men in the area learned she was available they swarmed to her. She found the attention very difficult. She said that in her country people will hang out together in groups, only after long friendships begin dating. Your friend from another country may have learned very different ways of dating and showing affection. Don't set yourself up with expectations. From you comment it seems he's interested. Give the relationship some time to unfold. In my experience, the relationships that have mattered most to me have been those that have flowered from friendship. Good luck.

 

[Isabella Thorne]

heyyyyy Jade.... long time no see .... you know what? i had no idea you were single again ... dumb, eh?

well ... that guy ... it sure sounds like you are really, really interested in him ... i can tell because you are analyzing every little thing to death ... ha ha ... that's what i do ... and yes it sounds so high school ... but dating always does ... lol ...

well i think if you "talk for hours" on the phone, etc. ... there is definitely chemistry there, right? why not try to talk to him before attacking him with one of your wicked angel kisses? ....

something like ... "Well I have no clue what we are supposed to be doing together ... any ideas spring to mind?" ... kind of make it like a joke ... so that if he does not respond positively, you won't look too stupid ... lol ... no seriously ...

In my humble opinion, that's what i would do, dear ....

Good luck! he sounds great! <hugs>

 

[willfulbrat]

It's hard when you're crazy about someone and afraid of doing something that might cause them to pull away, isn't it? You didn't give much information about your beau, but I find with most people the direct approach works best. I would suggest asking him about dating customs in his country, and how he feels about those customs (maybe he finds them too old-fashioned?). That might help you realize whether or not he would find a kiss at this point to be something he would be open to.

Of course, if it were me, I'd just wait for a happy moment, and playfully say "Kiss me, ya big stud, or lose me forever!"

 

[Jade]

WOW you people are AMAZING!!!

This was some fabulous advice... I really mean that!

I really think it helped... I will update you all on how it goes... I need to find out when I am seeing him next... um.. hopefully soon.