Should Fantasy stay Fantasy?

[Stickitbill]

Removed.

 

[Chicklet]

I love my wife dearly and will more than likely never fulfill any of them for fear of her finding out, as I know it would crush her. Even if the opportunity were ever to arise (which it probably never will), would it be as good as I imagine, or would it be a disappointment followed by guilt?

For now I believe I’m better off being content to read the erotic stories and fantasize. Is there anyone out there who feels the way I do?

I don't think many things live up to our imaginations. There's always some slight imperfection that we didn't count on. Does that mean it wouldn't be good? No. It would still be good, if the situation ever arose, but I think afterwards the guilt would cause more problems than the experience would be worth.

Nobody's going to scoff at your fantasies. But you should keep them as such. Like you said, you love your wife, and having that happen would crush her. It's still infidelity even if it's not with the opposite sex.

If, god forbid, anything ever did happen to your marriage and she was permanently out of the picture (not just rocky marriage, in my opinion, but full fledged divorced and moved away) then would I recommend trying to get-it-on with a guy? Yeah, why not. But as you may have read in some of the other posts on this forum, some fantasies are better left as fantasies. Especially when it's going to destroy something or someone you care about.

And are there people out there who feel the same way? I'm going to say YES. A big huge yes. People want that exact same thing, and people also want things they can't have. And I know a lot of times I fantasize about things I would never do because I don't want to hurt the person I love.

 

[PredatorSmile]

Fantasy doesn't have to always stay fantasy ! My boyfriend is bisexual and always kept it secret, even from me. Well, one day, like the nosy girl that I am, I discovered his secret. Know what I did ? I kissed the bugger and held him tenderly. So he's bisexual ? I don't care. I love him anyway. Guess what ? We recently had an encounter with another bisexual guy in a hotel room. It was a lot of fun ! Feel no shame for what you are.

 

[binary1980]

im in the same category as you stickitbill. ive had fantasies since i was a teenager and a few close encounters since ive been married. but im not sure i could do it. would i like to? absolutely. but i dont think i could.

 

[deadlock32]

Well, I'll let you know how it all goes then tonight, if I have the courage to go through with it of course. I met a nice couple who wanted a threesome and I agreed. I am a single guy and won't be hurting anyone, that I know of. Well all be trying out some fantasies and seeing how/if we like it at all.

I do have to say I am nervous as hell though. Any encouragement or reassurance that it is ok to do this would be great. I am not sure why I am conflicted about it though.

PredatorSmile you seem to have experience in this from your other posts I've seen. What do you think? Do you have any advice?

Thanks

ps (never been with a guy, consider myself straight, but want to experiment)

 

[PredatorSmile]

Well, I'll let you know how it all goes then tonight, if I have the courage to go through with it of course. I met a nice couple who wanted a threesome and I agreed. I am a single guy and won't be hurting anyone, that I know of. Well all be trying out some fantasies and seeing how/if we like it at all.

I do have to say I am nervous as hell though. Any encouragement or reassurance that it is ok to do this would be great. I am not sure why I am conflicted about it though.

PredatorSmile you seem to have experience in this from your other posts I've seen. What do you think? Do you have any advice?

Thanks

ps (never been with a guy, consider myself straight, but want to experiment)

Well, I'm not that experience. I've only got one MMF threesome under my belt. What I can tell you is that you are meeting strangers so please be careful. Get tested for STDs and/or use condoms for EVERYTHING while y'all are playing together. Also, understand that you are with a couple and that boundaries need to be set, for both you and them.


When my man and I hooked up with Ted, we found out this bi stud was versatile and very open-minded, however, my bf was a total top. See what I mean ? Everyone needs to be clear on what they want, what's okay to do and not okay to do. Other than that, be patient, be hygienic and be SAFE.


Oh, and tells us what happens.

 

[Alex NRN]

For me, to have a fantasy remain as just a fantasy is way too frustrating.

A fantasy is borne out of a genuine desire to want to act on it, so to not carry it through is, as I say, too frustrating.

I feel there comes a time when you have to stop talking about it and just get on with it. Put up or shut up kind of thing. Actions speak louder than words. Anyone can talk a great scenario, but how many actually make it happen?

OK, some fantasies can never happen because of their extreme nature, granted. Try and execute the realistic ones to keep frustration away.

 

[Eilan]

I don't think many things live up to our imaginations. There's always some slight imperfection that we didn't count on. Does that mean it wouldn't be good? No. It would still be good, if the situation ever arose, but I think afterwards the guilt would cause more problems than the experience would be worth.


Nobody's going to scoff at your fantasies. But you should keep them as such. Like you said, you love your wife, and having that happen would crush her. It's still infidelity even if it's not with the opposite sex.

If, god forbid, anything ever did happen to your marriage and she was permanently out of the picture (not just rocky marriage, in my opinion, but full fledged divorced and moved away) then would I recommend trying to get-it-on with a guy? Yeah, why not. But as you may have read in some of the other posts on this forum, some fantasies are better left as fantasies. Especially when it's going to destroy something or someone you care about.

And are there people out there who feel the same way? I'm going to say YES. A big huge yes. People want that exact same thing, and people also want things they can't have. And I know a lot of times I fantasize about things I would never do because I don't want to hurt the person I love.

Good points, Chicklet.

My husband and I had the MFM fantasy, and we managed to turn it into reality with three different people. While I'll never regret the experience, I wish certain things had happened differently.

However, one of our fantasies recently backfired in a big way. I won't get into specifics here, but it's been a trying experience for both of us.

Really, though, it depends on the fantasy and the person/people involved. It's a good idea to have realistic expectations. Yeah, the reality might be as good as or better than the fantasy, but it might be a lot worse.

 

[rcuhljr]

Good points, Chicklet.

My husband and I had the MFM fantasy, and we managed to turn it into reality with three different people. While I'll never regret the experience, I wish certain things had happened differently.

However, one of our fantasies recently backfired in a big way. I won't get into specifics here, but it's been a trying experience for both of us.

Really, though, it depends on the fantasy and the person/people involved. It's a good idea to have realistic expectations. Yeah, the reality might be as good as or better than the fantasy, but it might be a lot worse.

Man how was I not there Sorry you had a bad experience on the one though.

 

[Eilan]

Sorry you had a bad experience on the one though.

Eh, live and learn, I guess. We'll do things differently if there's a next time.

 

[puppyluv]

Fantisys

I fantisis that I could spell too. I feel a close kinship with you but like you I have a spouse that I would die rather than hurt. I would think it wise to make the ground rules while you still have your cloths on. Be sure rubbers are used libraly. I would think it would make it last longer anyway. I am giveing myself two fingers in the ass when ever I shower. It is the best I can offer for any worth while advise.

 

[bi_asian_guy]

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