Shocked!!!

[kerkri04]

My wife and I have had issues for years about our marital relationship. See thread in Playground - Is anyone "MARRIED BUT LONLEY".

Several times when we were arguing about our relationship she said I should look elsewhere for sexual satisfaction. Last weekend we were just talking, not arguing, and I asked her if she was serious about me going elsewhere for sex.

Much to my surprise she said she was serious. I really didn't believe it. But a few minutes later she said "Havn't several Presidents had lovers other than their wives?"

I never thought I would hear this from my wife. I can't believe our marriage has come to this. I don't want to tear our family apart and I don't think she does. Apprently her aversion to sex is so strong that she wants me to cheat.

I don't know what to think.

What should I make of this??? Any ideas???

 

[mrtnmoon]

not that I have any experience with this sort of situation, but it makes me wonder if she's already cheating on you...

 

[krazeekat]

not that I have any experience with this sort of situation, but it makes me wonder if she's already cheating on you...

My thoughts veered towards this too.

 

[Ray Roberts]

If your otherwise happy at home go for it youve got your ticket to RIDE!
I don't think it that unusual for a women to send an oversexed husband into the arms of another. It makes them feel less threatened by a desire for constant sex and shows that she is prepared to live with that to keep her marriage intact. If she has already got another lover, as others suggest - so what - we only live once and as long as other aspects of your living together are fine then be open to a proactive approach to solving this problem of sex between husband and wife. We can't all find and marry a perfect partner go with what you've got and be adult about compromise.

 

[Lyrical Fool]

On the other hand, as "weird" as it may seem to you, I wouldn't consider it cheating if you actually have permission . It might not fall into that "forsaking all others" category, but definitely not cheating.