Sharing your fantasies

[Cumonunow123]

Hello all.

We have recently become empty nesters for part of the year while our youngest os away at college. I asked my wife (who was a virgin when we married) about any sexual fantasies she had. She has not really been able to tell me as she says she doesn’t think she has any. She has some a history of some abuse by her father that I just recently found out the extent of. Are most women unable to describe or tell their fantasies, or is it more likely due to the abuse which she is seeking counseling for?

Secondly, I opened up and told her of a few of my fantasies. She seemed ok with the idea, but about a week later threw something up in my face about it that I felt hurt me to my inner-most self. She knows I am pissed about it and knows that she hurt me. How do I go about trusting her with any more of my fantasies?

 

[Dreamer110]

While my wife was certainly no virgin when I met her we started our fantasies early. Lucky me we've accomplished most of them.

 

[PrincessPillowHump]

Not all women are as open as us lit lot. It may be that her abuse us the reason or it may be that she's just not a sexual person.

 

[Erosfan]

Hello all.

We have recently become empty nesters for part of the year while our youngest os away at college. I asked my wife (who was a virgin when we married) about any sexual fantasies she had. She has not really been able to tell me as she says she doesn’t think she has any. She has some a history of some abuse by her father that I just recently found out the extent of. Are most women unable to describe or tell their fantasies, or is it more likely due to the abuse which she is seeking counseling for?

Secondly, I opened up and told her of a few of my fantasies. She seemed ok with the idea, but about a week later threw something up in my face about it that I felt hurt me to my inner-most self. She knows I am pissed about it and knows that she hurt me. How do I go about trusting her with any more of my fantasies?

I shared a few fantasies with my first wife and she told me I was a pervert. I never discussed them with her after that. My wife now enjoys hearing my fantasies and has helped make a few of them become reality. Those are some incredible memories. She says I am quite normal. She says she doesn't have any fantasies. I have a hard time understanding this because she is amazingly sexual and has a deliciously wicked mind in all things sexual.

 

[Cumonunow123]

I shared a few fantasies with my first wife and she told me I was a pervert. I never discussed them with her after that. My wife now enjoys hearing my fantasies and has helped make a few of them become reality. Those are some incredible memories. She says I am quite normal. She says she doesn't have any fantasies. I have a hard time understanding this because she is amazingly sexual and has a deliciously wicked mind in all things sexual.

I just felt hurt that the person I trust most, kind of put me down for it. We have talked a bit about it, and I think I can understand why. She says she doesn’t have any fantasies either. Part of it for me is being empty-nesters and the fact that I was on opioids for quite awhile for pain, but have since moved to more “natural” treatment which has increased my libido exponentially.

 

[JohnCash123]

Hello all.

We have recently become empty nesters for part of the year while our youngest os away at college. I asked my wife (who was a virgin when we married) about any sexual fantasies she had. She has not really been able to tell me as she says she doesn’t think she has any. She has some a history of some abuse by her father that I just recently found out the extent of. Are most women unable to describe or tell their fantasies, or is it more likely due to the abuse which she is seeking counseling for?

Secondly, I opened up and told her of a few of my fantasies. She seemed ok with the idea, but about a week later threw something up in my face about it that I felt hurt me to my inner-most self. She knows I am pissed about it and knows that she hurt me. How do I go about trusting her with any more of my fantasies?

My situation is very similar. My wife says she has no fantasies. When I've tried to share mine, I feel somewhat crucified. My hope was to find someone as a partner not only in life but to be able to share everything and not be judged.

 

[IsItBad]

My situation is very similar. My wife says she has no fantasies. When I've tried to share mine, I feel somewhat crucified. My hope was to find someone as a partner not only in life but to be able to share everything and not be judged.

Unfortunately, the sad reality is that there are many people - actually both male and female - but predominately female - who actually have no fantasies.....they have shut off their curiosity and many have little to no sex drive to start with......it is always frustrating in the many sexually mis-matched couples where one has a normal sex drive and normal fantasy life and the other has none and thinks that anyone who does is a pervert ……..the subject is convoluted by someone who has been abused and of course there are exceptions to it all......but many a person has been hurt just like this post.....baring one's soul to the person who is supposed to be closest to them......and then getting persecuted for it.

i guess this is why we are here......here in LIT...….attempting to assuage the missing part of our life with no hope of it happening on the Homefront...…

 

[CuttingEdge]

My wife has confessed some pretty wild fantasies, but we have not really been able to play them out.

Girl-girl bi-sexual experience
Rape Fantasy
Prostitution Fantasy (High end call girl)

She was sexually assaulted as well, but I just think some women are more prone to sexual fantasies than other women.

 

[PFWilly]

Interesting to me that some partners are unwilling to share, or say that they don’t have fantasies. I can understand the frustration, but my frustration comes from a different source. We’ve been married a very long time, and started sharing fantasies very early in our relationship.

Over the years we’ve discussed a number of scenarios, some were pretty wild. But eventually these fantasies centered on the possibilities of a MMF threesome. These shared thoughts usually center around a couple of guys that have been in our lives. The first was a gent many years ago, we both (independently) had sex with him. The other was her co-worker, they had an affair that went on for a year or so. The first guy and I had several encounters, she just had one very wild night with him.

We often talk about various scenarios with these guys. She really, really gets off big time when we’re talking through these fantasies. Especially when she ponders watching me suck cock, or even more watching me getting fucked. I’d love to suck a cock while she watches, and though I’ve never had a cock in my ass, I’d seriously consider that for her benefit...lol. (At this point I’ll confess I fantasize about getting fucked).

So, where is the frustration? She won’t seriously consider making our shared fantasy a reality! The second guy mentioned is still around, and I think he’d be interested. And based on her description, I’d love to suck his cock. Even if she wasn’t watching!

But, at least we still share fantasies...

 

[Jada59]

Most women I know hate men, hate sex and have no fantasies.

I love men, sex and fantasies. That's why I'm here.

 

[Erosfan]

I just felt hurt that the person I trust most, kind of put me down for it. We have talked a bit about it, and I think I can understand why. She says she doesn’t have any fantasies either. Part of it for me is being empty-nesters and the fact that I was on opioids for quite awhile for pain, but have since moved to more “natural” treatment which has increased my libido exponentially.

I understand that hurt! It sounds like you still have a chance to move on together. Keep talking and see where it goes. It's time to enjoy your "alone time" together.

 

[ericandshannon]

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[SluggerOToole]

Totally with the majority here. It hurts being labeled when all you are trying to do is trying to be honest.

 

[Mtnmike]

Most women I know hate men, hate sex and have no fantasies.

I love men, sex and fantasies. That's why I'm here.

Glad to hear that at least 1 lady still likes it.

 

[JohnCash123]

I hear ya

Totally with the majority here. It hurts being labeled when all you are trying to do is trying to be honest.

Honesty is most the time shamed when all your looking for is understanding or acceptance.

 

[mortis]

How I confessed

I get up very earl. Wife tends to sleep in. I confessed that I spend that time reading literotica stories and looking at pictures on tumblr. She was curious about tumblr so I added it to her iPad. She would then stay up late looking at my blog learning my fantasies/fetishes.
She started getting her pussy waxed.
Allowed me to lick her for hours.
Fed me her creampie.

Now just need to find that redhead.

 

[tasteyourthighs]

Yes

My ex wife and I never had a chance to discvover these but I know she had some. My girlfriend now has sparked alot of things and after a split from my wife its crazy how fun these could be.

 

[mywife4othermen]

While my wife was certainly no virgin when I met her we started our fantasies early. Lucky me we've accomplished most of them.

http://forum.literotica.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=2080434&stc=1&d=1568994922

 

[Dreamer110]

http://forum.literotica.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=2080434&stc=1&d=1568994922

Lol. Maybe not that one yet.

 

[ADogWithABone]

Secondly, I opened up and told her of a few of my fantasies. She seemed ok with the idea, but about a week later threw something up in my face about it that I felt hurt me to my inner-most self. She knows I am pissed about it and knows that she hurt me. How do I go about trusting her with any more of my fantasies?

Hard to do, but I'd keep foremost in my mind not to take these things personally. Being that she is a victim of abuse from someone close to her that she trusted (her father), this probably has nothing to do with you. If you can trust her to be good to you on other topics and not attack your vulnerabilities, then instead think about how to live with it or help her out of it. If you can't trust her to not attack your vulnerabilities, then I'm sorry to tell you, but you're married to an unpleasant person.

 

[ShagTimes]

I have a few different fantasies in my head, and for many of them they're better off left there as I have found that the nitty gritty reality of them is a bit infra-dig to be honest.

 

[gtnlynn]

We started dating in high school, but she dated others in college and had sex with them. After we married, I asked about her fantasies and she said she didn't have any. I pressed a bit, and it finally came out that she fantasized about being forced to have sex with a man with a huge cock.

 

[LekaSveta]

I shared my fantasies with my wife a few months after we started dating, I thought she was going to think I was some horrible pervert, turns out I didn't know what perversion was XD

 

[muycurioso]

Hello all.

We have recently become empty nesters for part of the year while our youngest os away at college. I asked my wife (who was a virgin when we married) about any sexual fantasies she had. She has not really been able to tell me as she says she doesn’t think she has any. She has some a history of some abuse by her father that I just recently found out the extent of. Are most women unable to describe or tell their fantasies, or is it more likely due to the abuse which she is seeking counseling for?

Secondly, I opened up and told her of a few of my fantasies. She seemed ok with the idea, but about a week later threw something up in my face about it that I felt hurt me to my inner-most self. She knows I am pissed about it and knows that she hurt me. How do I go about trusting her with any more of my fantasies?

That is where I am with my wife on a lot of personal things.

 

[Cumonunow123]

My situation is very similar. My wife says she has no fantasies. When I've tried to share mine, I feel somewhat crucified. My hope was to find someone as a partner not only in life but to be able to share everything and not be judged.

We got a kind of sexy Truth or Dare game and have been sharing more “pillow talk” and different scenarios. She still has trouble sharing though. Luckily, we have begun to be more open with each other and talk more which seems to have helped some. I know your pain JohnCash123. Communicating more has helped some too.