Sharing My Girlfriend (not by choice)

Timaki

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I am a 21 year old American sailor stationed in Japan. I have been looking for a place to express myself and my feelings - I hope I've found the right forum.

I met my GF, Akiko, at a concert in Tokyo. For me, it was love at first site. Akiko is a 20 year old college student attending Chiba University. She is beautiful - and dresses very conservatively because of her major and status in school. I live about an hour away from her college, so most of our meetings are planned well ahead of time. Akiko is very sensual - built perfectly - and with the most beautiful skin and dark silky hair you can imagine.

In the past, we've had outstanding nights together. We party, we come home, we fuck. Her body is extremely tight - in every way imaginable. Her conservative demeanor in public really covers her "behind the door" animal behavior. She enjoys getting fucked - plain and simple. I was her second boyfriend that she had sex with - the first was a Japanese guy she was dating when we met. We had a wonderful thing going for about six months - then I made my mistake.

I invited her to a party where many other Americans, many of my coworkers, would be present at a military hotel in Tokyo. I wanted to show her off, because I truly was over my head with this sexual doll. The party is where I made a mistake. I noticed Akiko was getting a LOT of attention by a couple of guys - older men. I wasn't worried too much about it because of their age - as a matter of fact, I laughed it off. Later, I would see her dancing with these guys and even going outside to smoke with them - something I had never seen her do.

I drank too heavily and passed out. When I woke up - I couldn't find her. I kept getting "looks" from my coworkers - smirks even. I later found out from a friend that he saw her get into the elevator with one of the men. At that point - I lost my mind - I was going door to door trying to find her. We were all staying on one floor.

The man she left with had a roommate - the roommate found me in the hallway looking for her. He was brutally honest - he said "Tim - I am sorry, but your girl is with "him" in our room". I went to the door and started banging. Hotel security came and removed me - told me to get in my room or they would call the MP. I went to our room - alone. Around 9am the next day - Akiko made her way back to me.

To say I was heart broken is an understatement. I was crushed - I am in love with her - deeply. The thought of her with another man is more than I could bear. I broke down. To my surprise, she was rather cold hearted about the whole situation. Her response to me was "I am young - I want to enjoy being young". I asked her what this meant for us - she told me that we could remain "friends" and see each other but she also wanted this older man in her life. In other words - she wanted to date both of us.

Currently, I am playing along. I want her to remain in my life and maybe she will come to her senses and understand there is no future for a 20 year old and an almost 50 year old man. Now, when she comes down for the weekend or to visit - she always goes to his apartment first - and if there is time she will drop by and see me. He and I live in the same apartment complex.

There are days when I see them together - coming back to his apartment after he picks her up at the train station. As they disappear into his apartment, I know what he is getting and it hurts. I wait for her to drop by and say hello to me - but we haven't had sex since that night. I lone for her - I want her back. I love and miss her.e0c44a7e70.jpg
 
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Sorry that you feel hurt but the real problem is a larger social issue. Mainstream society has invented a standard of monogamy that runs against our human nature. You, me, your girl friend and just about every human that is in their "sexual years" wants variety. It is in our DNA. I love my husband and he loves me. But we both understand the "call of the wild." That is, what our human nature craves. We have biological sexual urges that are relentless. Even if we don't want to reproduce the desire to fuck is part of being human. Your "girl friend" may or may not love you. But that is a different issue. Regardless of that, she still wants to fuck a variety of men. Be honest, don't you want to be with lots of different women? So why fight nature. Roll with it. Let her know that you love her and understand her needs. Invite her to live with you and assure her that you fully support her sexual freedom. My husband and I had this talk a long time ago and it works for us.
 
Tim; I feel your pain. Most of us have been through this, although probably not as brutally in your face. It’s called a broken heart and time is the only cure. Truth is she cares more about her wishes than your feelings. She’s not “the one”. And you won’t be receptive to “the one” unless and until you move on.

The good news is, you do have control over your feelings. A wise friend once told me, when I was in this situation, “You’ll never be free until you don’t care.” And he was right. It’s difficult and takes inner strength & discipline, but you can do it. You’ve overcome tougher obstacles already.

Brah, you got off cheap. Her affair with this older dude won’t last and then, as the Eagles say, “she’ll have to eat her lunch all by herself. But by that time you should be down the road ….

What worked for me was to look for other people to cultivate an interest in and pursue that. You are in what I believe is called a “target-rich environment”. Go get some! 💪🏼
 
Sorry that you feel hurt but the real problem is a larger social issue. Mainstream society has invented a standard of monogamy that runs against our human nature. You, me, your girl friend and just about every human that is in their "sexual years" wants variety. It is in our DNA. I love my husband and he loves me. But we both understand the "call of the wild." That is, what our human nature craves. We have biological sexual urges that are relentless. Even if we don't want to reproduce the desire to fuck is part of being human. Your "girl friend" may or may not love you. But that is a different issue. Regardless of that, she still wants to fuck a variety of men. Be honest, don't you want to be with lots of different women? So why fight nature. Roll with it. Let her know that you love her and understand her needs. Invite her to live with you and assure her that you fully support her sexual freedom. My husband and I had this talk a long time ago and it works for us.
Exactly, polyamorous behaviour is human's basic instinct, it's in our genes since the stone age. Earlier human copulated only to reproduce but over time the need for sexual curiosity emerged.
 
Exactly, polyamorous behaviour is human's basic instinct, it's in our genes since the stone age. Earlier human copulated only to reproduce but over time the need for sexual curiosity emerged.
Years of forced societal standards and belief structures can make people move against nature, but it nearly always fails.

Of course, there are the random asexual people though...
 
And now that birth control exists females can answer the call of the wild without fear of having a baby with no man to care for them. It levels the playing field. Without birth control women need to be sexual conservative. Men can just go about and share their seed anywhere that it is open to them. But the urge for sex is just as great for a female human as for a male. Guys need to understand that. If guys would stop fighting nature and instead nurture female sex instincts they would all be getting a lot more pussy. Don't shame us for wanting to fuck.
 
Definitely, the invention of birth control has open up a new dimension in the sex life of female. Now they can afford to cherish the hidden curiosities what was once suppressed by the fear of social judgement.
 
And now that birth control exists females can answer the call of the wild without fear of having a baby with no man to care for them. It levels the playing field. Without birth control women need to be sexual conservative. Men can just go about and share their seed anywhere that it is open to them. But the urge for sex is just as great for a female human as for a male. Guys need to understand that. If guys would stop fighting nature and instead nurture female sex instincts they would all be getting a lot more pussy. Don't shame us for wanting to fuck.
Although in some countries, the choices are being stripped from women regarding their sexual freedoms. So it might swing back the other way sadly, but definitely something more men need to acknowledge about women
 
Jesus, dude, at least get him to fuck her in front of you so you can watch and jerk off. Welcome to Cuck City!
We have all been in the same room together. I have seen them intimate - but when it comes down to the "act" they have gone to the bedroom. I have listened - it invokes emotions in me I can't describe.
 
Sorry that you feel hurt but the real problem is a larger social issue. Mainstream society has invented a standard of monogamy that runs against our human nature. You, me, your girl friend and just about every human that is in their "sexual years" wants variety. It is in our DNA. I love my husband and he loves me. But we both understand the "call of the wild." That is, what our human nature craves. We have biological sexual urges that are relentless. Even if we don't want to reproduce the desire to fuck is part of being human. Your "girl friend" may or may not love you. But that is a different issue. Regardless of that, she still wants to fuck a variety of men. Be honest, don't you want to be with lots of different women? So why fight nature. Roll with it. Let her know that you love her and understand her needs. Invite her to live with you and assure her that you fully support her sexual freedom. My husband and I had this talk a long time ago and it works for us.
Thank you for your perspective. I grew up in Alabama - a southern baptist. I think its part of my hang up. I am not used to the fast world of Tokyo.
 
Tim; I feel your pain. Most of us have been through this, although probably not as brutally in your face. It’s called a broken heart and time is the only cure. Truth is she cares more about her wishes than your feelings. She’s not “the one”. And you won’t be receptive to “the one” unless and until you move on.

The good news is, you do have control over your feelings. A wise friend once told me, when I was in this situation, “You’ll never be free until you don’t care.” And he was right. It’s difficult and takes inner strength & discipline, but you can do it. You’ve overcome tougher obstacles already.

Brah, you got off cheap. Her affair with this older dude won’t last and then, as the Eagles say, “she’ll have to eat her lunch all by herself. But by that time you should be down the road ….

What worked for me was to look for other people to cultivate an interest in and pursue that. You are in what I believe is called a “target-rich environment”. Go get some! 💪🏼
Thank you sir. I appreciate your input.
 
And now that birth control exists females can answer the call of the wild without fear of having a baby with no man to care for them. It levels the playing field. Without birth control women need to be sexual conservative. Men can just go about and share their seed anywhere that it is open to them. But the urge for sex is just as great for a female human as for a male. Guys need to understand that. If guys would stop fighting nature and instead nurture female sex instincts they would all be getting a lot more pussy. Don't shame us for wanting to fuck.
Thank you - I grew up in Alabama where I was raised as a southern baptist. Living in Tokyo around a fast pace life and really opened my eyes. I never knew someone who looked like her and behaved like her - could be as sexual as she really is... i got hit with a wake up stick.
 
Although in some countries, the choices are being stripped from women regarding their sexual freedoms. So it might swing back the other way sadly, but definitely something more men need to acknowledge about women
She told me she saw sex as a "bodily function" just like eating or drinking or going to the bathroom
 
She told me she saw sex as a "bodily function" just like eating or drinking or going to the bathroom
If you view this as “her body and her choice” it is who she is. If you want to share experiences together, take the journey together as long as it lasts.
 
She was your one true love at first site. But to her, you weren't. You were Number Two of her future sexual experiences.

It happens to most people, often as a teenage love which falls apart, or the one you long for who never seems to see you. Then everyone moves on after high school graduation, and you get over it.

In your case, it's culture shock to find that not everyone in the world is raised to believe and feel the same way about sex. What you found in your GF's culture (or possibly just her personality) is an attitude at one extreme of the spectrum. Consider the other end of the spectrum in other cultures where a girl must cover her entire body, face, and hair, and never leave the house or be alone with any man who is not her father, brother, husband or other trusted relative.

You're thinking the way you were raised is the "right" way to behave. Get over it or carry the scars.

Some people never get over it and 1-bomb to hate the fun sex stories on this web site. That's what many do after a lost love or divorce from a cheating wife; wallow in pity and hate those who aren't feeling the same.

The stories are in the "Loving Wives" category, or you can search the stories for the tag "BTB". Those lost-love haters really like the "Burn The Bitch" (BTB) stories, where the cheating wife/girlfriend is destroyed, divorced and living in poverty with regrets of contracting an STD, and her lover meets a violent end. They rate those stories a 4 or 5, with the ones ending the worse way for the girl getting the highest rating.


Or, ... you can get over it and look around for other fun girls. Heck, your GF is even telling you that it's just a biological function, so just fuck her every chance you get! But I wouldn't recommend marrying her until and unless you are BOTH on the same page as far as those biological exploration rules are concerned.
 
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She was your one true love at first site. But to her, you weren't. You were Number Two of her future sexual experiences.

It happens to most people, often as a teenage love which falls apart, or the one you long for who never seems to see you. Then everyone moves on after high school graduation, and you get over it.

In your case, it's culture shock to find that not everyone in the world is raised to believe and feel the same way about sex. What you found in your GF's culture (or possibly just her personality) is an attitude at one extreme of the spectrum. Consider the other end of the spectrum in other cultures where a girl must cover her entire body, face, and hair, and never leave the house or be alone with any man who is not her father, brother, husband or other trusted relative.

You're thinking the way you were raised is the "right" way to behave. Get over it or carry the scars.

Some people never get over it and 1-bomb to hate the fun sex stories on this web site. That's what many do after a lost love or divorce from a cheating wife; wallow in pity and hate those who aren't feeling the same.

The stories are in the "Loving Wives" category, or you can search the stories for the tag "BTB". Those lost-love haters really like the "Burn The Bitch" (BTB) stories, where the cheating wife/girlfriend is destroyed, divorced and living in poverty with regrets of contracting an STD, and her lover meets a violent end.


Or, ... you can get over it and look around for other fun girls. Heck, you GF is even telling you that it's just a biological function, so just fuck her every chance you get! But I wouldn't recommend marrying her until and unless you are BOTH on the same page as far as those biological exploration rules are concerned.
yeah i was sheltered - and this world is new to me. I am trying to adjust... i realize people are different and I like how you said - get over it or carry scars.. I am scared but I am trying my best to learn from it. I still want her in my life.
 
We have all been in the same room together. I have seen them intimate - but when it comes down to the "act" they have gone to the bedroom. I have listened - it invokes emotions in me I can't describe.
I am telling you, dude. You need a Filipina who will make it her life's work to drain your balls every chance she gets. I am not kidding about this and some of them are so smoking hot you would forget Japan completely.
 
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