Shameless Plug Alert

[RisiaSkye]

Hey all,

I ducked into the degradation and humiliation thread today, and saw people talking about the very stuff I just submitted an essay about, which gives me a *tiny* shred of plausible deniability about plugging my own work here.

In any case, for those of you who don't often go to the story section (Oh, okay, I admit it...really I mean anyone who'll *do* it), please go check out "Safe, Sane & Consensual" and let me know what you think, okay?

Votes are great, feedback is wonderful. And, I promise, no more shameless plugs from me for a while.

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=41133

 

[Guest]

Risia,
Wonderful essay! Please continue these shameless plugs.
I'm going to include the link in various clubs that I participate.

bright blessings~

 

[Merelan]

Excellent. Simple and to the point. May get some of those to read that feel we are "sick, perverted and twisted. Who only desire degradation and such because we are less then human, and should not be allowed to breed."

I quote that from an email I got awhile ago. Wish I had kept the senders address, would send that to them.

 

[SweetBrat73]

Very informative. I've never really been into the BSDM lifestyle like ya'll are, but I do like to read about it and have seen how ppl mistake it for an abusive relationship. I think that essay would be a good thing for ppl to read so they will understand the difference.

Job well done RisiaSkye!!!


Brat

 

[MissTaken]

Thank you , Risia!


Never underestimate the beauty of your shameless plugs. You have a mind I would love to slip into, explore and savor your thoughts.


But, only for a while!

 

[cymbidia]

Unsurprisingly...

You have another winner here, my friend.
In an earlier age, you would have been a bard.
(A bardess? Certainly not bartered, though!)

 

[RisiaSkye]

Such kind comments, I can already feel my head beginning to swell.

Seriously, though, it's a great relief to hear that I've done alright by our little community. I feel like a tremendously hypocritical imposter whenever I attempt to speak for "the lifestyle" as a whole; it's nice to know that I haven't stepped in it too badly here.

rain--blessings to you as well, sister. Any plans for the Vernal Equinox?

And Merelan? The person who sent you that email is a hideously mean-spirited creature, and unworthy of your emotional investment. Such hurtful words serve noone, please don't take them to heart. From all I've seen, you're a warm & giving person; the fact that one person misunderstands, while frustrating, cannot diminish who and what you are unless you give it the power to do so.

Thanks again, everyone.

Risia

 

[Merelan]

You are so wonderful, all of you. Geesh. I got that email months ago. The person who sent it was so new, and no longer even around. I never took it to heart, even then. It was directed at me and my interests here, and my two husbands.
Okay, it panged a little. But only that.

Only shared it to show the people who need to read your essay, though, now that I think of it, they are the ones that won't.
Their loss.

 

[Guest]

Greetings Risia,

I do have plans for the Equinox.
I have a suncircle ritual in the works with my own stone circle.
And there's a Pow Wow I'll be attending, as well.

May Spring bring forth rebirth and new beginnings full of warm wishes to you.

Be well!

 

[pierced_boy]

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[DRxBlue]

Dear Lady of the Happy Heavens

i read "Safe, Sane and Consensual" pretty recently and it opened my eyes to a world of beauty i'd never seen before.

Since that happy night (i'm nocturnal) i've been voraciously gobbling all the input i can get on this subject.

It seems to me now, that this expression of sexuality is more "erotic" <in the purest sense> than any other. It's the contact between minds that drives a relationship and not JUST physical urges and sexual attraction.

i've always loved and respected discipline in music and literature, now i can see that the discipline in BDSM is exactly the same structuring force.

i'll be reading in this forum from now on, i think, but i REFUSE to "lurk" <jk>

for the Knowledge, for the Beauty, i thank you

 

[RisiaSkye]

Blue,
Like you, I'm drawn to the meshing of the physical and mental elements. I too think that the mind is the sexiest of all forces, and BDSM, due to the constant communication and negotiation, tends to emphasize that aspect of sexuality more than most other ways of loving. Thank you for the excessively flattering praise. You're a gem, and I'm glad you've decided to join us.

pierced boy: The phrase sub-drop refers to the emotional crash that some subs experience shortly after a scene in which they've been deeply immersed in sub-space, that emotional and mental state in which time ceases to exist and all gets subordinated to the moment, the lingering touches between Dom/me and sub, and the commands to be enacted. For some, the time after a deep immersion in that place can be scary, even emotionally devastating. Cellis and myself, among others, discussed this in the Mother thread some time ago. If you're interested in more info, you might want to run a search (above, on the right), and enter a search for "sub-drop" in the text. It should get you to the conversation. I hope that helps answer your question.

Be well,
RS

 

[pierced_boy]

Sub drop

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[DRxBlue]

"Other Ways of Loving"

Oooh...what a tasty phrase

i'll be looking for a place to display THAT little jewel.

If you find my appreciation "excessively flattering" i'll TRY to tone it down.<i'm doomed to failure there>

It's just that i feast on beauty and like a bee who lives on nectar in a world of flowers, i can't help but produce honey.

Bitter, bland and sour you can find in great supply anywhere in this world. My offering is what it is. What can i do?

You really have earned the praise i think. It seems i'm not alone in my opinion.

P.S.
Merelan--is anyone writing your biography? This sounds like a story i'd LOVE to hear.

 

[James Blandings]

Plug away It was a good essay.
I am new to this. Can somebody please explain the term "Sub drop"
thankyou

RisiaSkye did a fine job of describing sub drop, but I'd just like to jump in to talk a little bit about the importance of aftercare. The state of mind of a sub after a scene can be very scary, as she pointed out. And physically, they can be very shaky and need help just getting around. My former submissive would linger in subspace sometimes for hours, in which time she was practically helpless. Myself, when I have played hard as a sub, feel very woozy and disoriented afterwards. Without a guiding hand it is easy to plunge into a feeling of emotional exhaustion that can be very painful. A good dominant understands their sub's state of mind and acts accordingly. Just because you are dom doesnt mean you cant cuddle.

 

[pierced_boy]

Sub drop

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[RisiaSkye]

James, thank you for developing that further. I didn't mean to give short shrift to the importance of aftercare. Thank you for covering my oversight so graciously.

Blue, if I tease you, it's only because I like you. ~~

pierced_boy: You're welcome. I look forward to reading your story. Be sure to link it in the forum when it goes up, okay?

Be well, all.
RS