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So I just got off the phone with Mister, and I'm shaking, teary and smiling at the same time.
I never really thought I'd ever find someone or be in a relationship so close to perfect that I can't often think of anything I'd change, and I have to say I am truly blessed to be with that man.
He has the most uncanny ability to explain himself to me so that I can always understand what he says, what he does, and why he feels the way he feels. Communication is such a rare gift, self awareness is so uncommon that being with a man that can actually TELL you what he wants and what he feels has been one in a million for me. My past relationships have suffered from a lack of communication really badly, almost all of them ended because of a failure to talk with each other openly and honestly...among other things, of course, but I never felt as though I 'knew' the person I was with until I met Mister.
We didn't start out like this...believe me when I say we have had our share of problems. Enough to make an entire season on Dr. Phil! Once we worked through them though, it was like a light at the end of the tunnel that turns out to be heaven, for reals this time!
Long story short: My parents are in a slight financial crisis. My mother is a spendthrift and terrible with money. My dad has been sorta emasculated by her over the years and won't say no to her, even though she often spends his money on things they can't afford and don't really need. In order to pay their bills, they've gone to payday advance loan companies and the like in order to pay their bills. Mister and I have been giving them money off and on, but my father and Mister agreed amongst themselves that if something ever happened to us, they'd probably lose the house and be homeless due to their large debt. Mister has been giving my dad money over the last few weeks so that he can pay off the debt without renewing the loans. However, when I spoke to him earlier about the amount that my dad needed this pay period, he was pretty upset.
With a baby on the way, he was extremely worried that we wouldn't be able to put back anything for our baby. I reminded him that it was agreed that he would help my parents out like that, (it was his idea!) and that I understood he was worried and upset, but I still had months to go before the baby would arrive and most of the more expensive items such as furniture and clothes would be given to me by friends and family whose children are older now, etc.
I also told him that I appreciate how hard he works to take care of me, and that I love him and care so much about him that it was heartbreaking to hear that he was so upset about the money. Instead of blowing up or getting too frustrated to talk, he calmly and lovingly explained that he wasn't blaming me or upset at my parents, he was just mad at the terrible situation my mother had put them in, and how it was hard for him to see an end to the debt. I let him know that I understood exactly how he felt and even agreed with him, but doing this charity for them would end up making sure that they kept their home and got out of debt, which is a wonderful moral thing to do. Our faith really helps us get through times like this, always reminding us of how to stay on the path to being a good faithful Christian.
Makes for great karma, anyway. And it feels really good knowing my parents will be better off once they are out of debt.
Anyway, during this entire conversation, never once did he raise his voice, use profanity or be disrespectful to me. He stayed so calm and so polite, showing how much he cared about me in every word he used to explain why he was so upset. And once we talked about it, he said that in reality, he was probably just tired and frustrated by being gone so much, and didn't really think he had a good reason to be upset in the first place. It made me fall so much more in love with him to see him so rational during such an upsetting moment...to see a man of that caliber and know that he's MINE really makes me think I must have been a really cool person in my past life to deserve him.
So enough with my mindless dribble. What situations have you and your partner gone through lately that have shown you how awesome your PYL/pyl is? What have they done to make you fall more in love with him than you ever have before? Lots of details would be appreciated! Go ahead...shamelessly brag. You know you want to!
I never really thought I'd ever find someone or be in a relationship so close to perfect that I can't often think of anything I'd change, and I have to say I am truly blessed to be with that man.
He has the most uncanny ability to explain himself to me so that I can always understand what he says, what he does, and why he feels the way he feels. Communication is such a rare gift, self awareness is so uncommon that being with a man that can actually TELL you what he wants and what he feels has been one in a million for me. My past relationships have suffered from a lack of communication really badly, almost all of them ended because of a failure to talk with each other openly and honestly...among other things, of course, but I never felt as though I 'knew' the person I was with until I met Mister.
We didn't start out like this...believe me when I say we have had our share of problems. Enough to make an entire season on Dr. Phil! Once we worked through them though, it was like a light at the end of the tunnel that turns out to be heaven, for reals this time!
Long story short: My parents are in a slight financial crisis. My mother is a spendthrift and terrible with money. My dad has been sorta emasculated by her over the years and won't say no to her, even though she often spends his money on things they can't afford and don't really need. In order to pay their bills, they've gone to payday advance loan companies and the like in order to pay their bills. Mister and I have been giving them money off and on, but my father and Mister agreed amongst themselves that if something ever happened to us, they'd probably lose the house and be homeless due to their large debt. Mister has been giving my dad money over the last few weeks so that he can pay off the debt without renewing the loans. However, when I spoke to him earlier about the amount that my dad needed this pay period, he was pretty upset.
With a baby on the way, he was extremely worried that we wouldn't be able to put back anything for our baby. I reminded him that it was agreed that he would help my parents out like that, (it was his idea!) and that I understood he was worried and upset, but I still had months to go before the baby would arrive and most of the more expensive items such as furniture and clothes would be given to me by friends and family whose children are older now, etc.
I also told him that I appreciate how hard he works to take care of me, and that I love him and care so much about him that it was heartbreaking to hear that he was so upset about the money. Instead of blowing up or getting too frustrated to talk, he calmly and lovingly explained that he wasn't blaming me or upset at my parents, he was just mad at the terrible situation my mother had put them in, and how it was hard for him to see an end to the debt. I let him know that I understood exactly how he felt and even agreed with him, but doing this charity for them would end up making sure that they kept their home and got out of debt, which is a wonderful moral thing to do. Our faith really helps us get through times like this, always reminding us of how to stay on the path to being a good faithful Christian.
Makes for great karma, anyway. And it feels really good knowing my parents will be better off once they are out of debt.
Anyway, during this entire conversation, never once did he raise his voice, use profanity or be disrespectful to me. He stayed so calm and so polite, showing how much he cared about me in every word he used to explain why he was so upset. And once we talked about it, he said that in reality, he was probably just tired and frustrated by being gone so much, and didn't really think he had a good reason to be upset in the first place. It made me fall so much more in love with him to see him so rational during such an upsetting moment...to see a man of that caliber and know that he's MINE really makes me think I must have been a really cool person in my past life to deserve him.
So enough with my mindless dribble. What situations have you and your partner gone through lately that have shown you how awesome your PYL/pyl is? What have they done to make you fall more in love with him than you ever have before? Lots of details would be appreciated! Go ahead...shamelessly brag. You know you want to!
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