Sexy neighbor watching

[BeeTeeTiger]

I have a sexy neighbor who doesn't work. She's home every day I'm off. Sometimes seems like she's extra friendly. Does anyone have any advice on how to approach her about whether she's interested in being a FWB without her going apeshit if she's not?

 

[amofiga]

I have a sexy neighbor who doesn't work. She's home every day I'm off. Sometimes seems like she's extra friendly. Does anyone have any advice on how to approach her about whether she's interested in being a FWB without her going apeshit if she's not?

IF you're married and she's married, you're skating on very thin ice. Like you said, she could go apeshit but the apeshit could also hit the fan and your respective spouses could end up with it all over them.

IF on the other hand you and she are not married, just ask her over for a few drinks, see where it goes. Nothing to lose.

Back to the married scenario. Again, you could suggest that she join you for lunch. Perhaps you have something that you like to prepare or perhaps you'd like to call out for a pizza but it's too much for one person to eat. IF she's married and IF she is willing to come into your house alone with you for lunch, it's a pretty good clue that she'd like some alone time with you. Of course you can break out a bottle of wine. If she refuses, she may want to just keep it "platonic". If she accepts, you're 80% there. If things get really friendly or even REALLY friendly, you don't have to bring up the FWB part till later. If you're both single, she might be pissed if all you want is FWB but what's the worst that happens?

IF she's married and you're married and the pizza invitation is refused but gets back to her husband or your wife, you can just say, "Hey, I didn't mean anything by it. It was just a pizza." There will be some negative feelings and words, but probably not at the "apeshit" level. You may look like a sleazy asshole stupid scumbag, but you really haven't gone too far over the line with just the offer of an "innocent lunch and some conversation." However, like I said at the outset, it's probably NOT a good idea to mess around in general and especially with a neighbor.

 

[BeeTeeTiger]

Both married

Yes we're both married. I work a swing shift ad she's a stay at home mom. She is outside almost all day, everyday.. Working in flower beds, and is always asking me over about gardening tips (I was a former greenhouse worker). Sometimes she seems really friendly, and seems her husband and she aren't always on te greatest of terms..

 

[SmileyGirl]

"Never shit on your own doorstep" as the saying goes.

 

[CBM514]

Yes we're both married. I work a swing shift ad she's a stay at home mom. She is outside almost all day, everyday.. Working in flower beds, and is always asking me over about gardening tips (I was a former greenhouse worker). Sometimes she seems really friendly, and seems her husband and she aren't always on te greatest of terms..

No judgement, but if you are married why the interest in her? What's to be gained from a relationship (sexual or otherwise) with her your spouse isn't aware of or part of?

 

[BeeTeeTiger]

Doorstep

What if I shit on hers?? LOL

 

[BeeTeeTiger]

Maybe just the thrill of, what if? Maybe just a little curious to what shear be interested in.. I thought this was a lit thread, not a Catholic confessional?!

 

[Emerson40]

Maybe just the thrill of, what if? Maybe just a little curious to what shear be interested in.. I thought this was a lit thread, not a Catholic confessional?!

Nothing wrong with curiousity. What does this being Lit have to do with you seeking advice or approval to cheat on your spouse. Do you equate appreciation and enjoyment of sex and sexual ideas with cheating and dishonesty? If not, I don't understand your last statement / question.

 

[SmileyGirl]

What if I shit on hers?? LOL

Hilarious!
But I like Emersons question. Why "I thought this was a lit thread" Do you think a lit thread would condone cheating? Because it's a sex site?

 

[butterfly_flip]

Hilarious!
But I like Emersons question. Why "I thought this was a lit thread" Do you think a lit thread would condone cheating? Because it's a sex site?

Everyone who uses Lit cheats, Smiler, come on!!

 

[SmileyGirl]

Everyone who uses Lit cheats, Smiler, come on!!

Ohhhh dammit I forgot flutterby silly me

 

[Eilan]

Yes we're both married. I work a swing shift ad she's a stay at home mom. She is outside almost all day, everyday.. Working in flower beds, and is always asking me over about gardening tips (I was a former greenhouse worker). Sometimes she seems really friendly, and seems her husband and she aren't always on te greatest of terms..

If she's a SAHM, she's likely taking care of her kids during the day unless they're in school. Contrary to popular belief, SAHMs don't sit on the couch, eat bonbons, and watch stories all day. What makes you think she has time to be your FWB? I think you're reading too much into her friendliness, and you're not in a position to know what her relationship with her husband is really like.


Lit may be a ''porn board,'' but that doesn't mean everyone here condones cheating.

 

[amofiga]

Yes we're both married. I work a swing shift ad she's a stay at home mom. She is outside almost all day, everyday.. Working in flower beds, and is always asking me over about gardening tips (I was a former greenhouse worker). Sometimes she seems really friendly, and seems her husband and she aren't always on the greatest of terms..

Has she "volunteered" the personal intimate data that she and hubby aren't on the best of terms or have you inferred it from something you've observed? If she's told you outright and unsoliscited, then there's your invitation. As I said, I'm NOT recommending messing around especially with a neighbor. I nearly lost my marriage by messing around. However, I will tell you that women that start telling you that they aren't getting along with hubby or that hubby doesn't seem to give them what she's looking for or that he's more interested in his job or watching TV or whatever than her........that's almost like saying "I'm POSSIBLY in the market for another guy to give what I'm longing for." That does NOT necessarily mean the same thing you want to hear, but it could. Sometimes women are just looking for an understanding ear and validation of their needs and loneliness. They want to feel valued. SOMETIMES that can also mean FWB. Be careful, it can also sometimes mean either "I'm looking for a sincere platonic friend" or it can mean "talk me into leaving Harry and I'll run off to Mexico with you."

Women have to be extremely careful when flirting because they don't like looking like sluts. However, most women won't tell people (except perhaps their girlfriends) about "trouble at home". I've found in talking with women at parties, at work, and such if they start talking about how great their husbands are at this, that, and whatever, that's the signal that says "I'm married, back off, not interested in anything you might have to offer." If they start telling you things like, "Sometimes I wonder why I ever got married." "Marriage can be a prison." "I wish hubby and I got along better." "My husband is clueless when it comes to women," Etc. That's carrying a message. Especially if it's in a relatively personal one-on-one private setting. However, trying to figure out women's messages is a bit like trying to read Chinese blindfolded.

 

[Bramblethorn]

"Never shit on your own doorstep" as the saying goes.

Yeah, even aside from the ethics, this seems like a recipe for disaster. Cheating often leads to fallout and an angry neighbour is a Bad Thing.

 

[123Josh]

Walk up to her and say hello with a raging boner!!

 

[satindesire]

Maybe just the thrill of, what if? Maybe just a little curious to what shear be interested in.. I thought this was a lit thread, not a Catholic confessional?!

SERIOUSLY!?

Just because this is a sex forum, does not mean we will encourage you to cheat on your wife.

C'mon. Think with your BRAIN instead of your dick for like, three and a half seconds. Liking sex does not equal no morals. And it has NOTHING to do with religion.

FFS.

 

[BeeTeeTiger]

Guess I should quit using my dick as my moral compass dial as well? WOW

 

[satindesire]

Guess I should quit using my dick as my moral compass dial as well? WOW

Yeah, that would be a great idea, actually. It's a pity that you said it sarcastically, though, because that would have meant you're actually evolving a li'l bit.

 

[angie33]

someone's been reading too many stories.

 

[twister947]

Old cartoon...two guys walking down the street come to a dog busily licking his dick.

First guy: Geezus, I wish I could do that!

Second guy: I think you should pet him first.

My point is, get to know her, first. The married issue has already been covered.

 

[BeeTeeTiger]

So if its just a fantasy, is it still cheating? Just asking. And maybe I have read a few too may stories on here..

 

[CBM514]

So if its just a fantasy, is it still cheating? Just asking. And maybe I have read a few too may stories on here..

Well anyone can have a fantasy about anyone, but any activity towards making it a reality would be cheating in my opinion (and probably most spouses too)

 

[subwannabe]

Sounds to me like you are wanting to play with fire around a can of gasoline. Your chances of pulling off a FWB without getting blown up are very slim, especially in your scenario.

 

[Bramblethorn]

So if its just a fantasy, is it still cheating? Just asking. And maybe I have read a few too may stories on here..

My rule of thumb: in a consensual relationship, cheating is whatever your partner thinks it is. Each couple decides for themselves what they're willing to give and take.

For some people, just fantasizing about a neighbour (or a porn actor) would be 'cheating in your head'. Others are more easygoing.

IOW, don't ask us, ask your partner

 

[mysteriousme82]

My neighbor is married, but i know she listens to me jack off. I've heard her cum several times while listening. I see no harm in it. It's hot to me to know she gets off that hard on my sounds.