Sexually Conservative Men?!?

[SeXy ReDHeD]

It seems that lately all the men I meet are just plain boring in the bedroom. They only want to do it with the lights off in the missionary position, for like five minutes. When I bring up other things that are even a little non-conventional, like changing positions or trying anal sex, they look at me like I'm retarded or something. God forbid I ask for anything I'd really want like a threesome. I'm so frustrated.

So, my question is this:
Are most men actually pretty conservative in the bedroom??

 

[Ambrosious]

Anal sex? Threesomes? How drab. How boring. Try to come up with something interesting like riding naked on horseback into the bedroom, or maybe a miner's cap while going down. Now that's more my speed.

Don't even get me started with what we could do with chickens. WOOHOO!

 

[SeXy ReDHeD]

See that's what I mean! Those things aren't even all that "kinky!" But these guys think I'm strange! I've even been called "obsessed with sex!" I tend to think I'm more on the normal side, but hey... maybe I've just been spoiled by all these "literotica guys "

 

[Jeff726]

There is really only one thing I won't do sexually, and that is "toss the salad". Not that I find it wrong or anything, but I just am grossed out by licking a girl's asshole. Simple matter of taste is all. Otherwise I wanna get wild!

 

[Flagg]

Simple matter of taste is all

LOL muchly!!!

 

[Jeff726]

Awwwww damn.....

You got me there Flagg, lol!

I seriously think if something makes you happy, go ahead and do it, but I am just not turned on by that kind of thing is all.


-Jeff

 

[Skibum]

My experience has all been with sexually conservative women.

 

[CreamyLady]

Could it be you are being pushy or deliberately shocking?

Could, perhaps, your partners want to know you a little better before letting the bars down?

And to answer your question: it depends a great deal on what is comfortable for you both.

 

[SimplySouthern]

time will tell

I have to agree with Creamy Lady on this one. How you approach them determines their responses. For instance, I would think that you would want to get fully comfortable with someone before you introduced anal sex and threesomes with someone.

Everyone becomes comfy at their own pace...so perhaps the men you are/have been with are only waiting to get comfortable with you before they delove into the more "fun" things!

 

[RonG]

The company picnic will never be the same!

This is really the classic Two Person Sack Race, as near as I can tell. My experience is that if one person tries to go too fast or without getting some amount of buy-in first, you end up going ass over teacup into disaster. Generate some sort of trust first and move with some progress over a communicated and accepted goal and good things will result.

Legitimately, some people do set boundaries that require respect. But if you are talking, you find out what those are along the way and find something else to enjoy.

 

[Oliver Clozoff]

Wonderful analogy, Ron! It's all about communication, communication, communication.

And if you keep practicing 'til you and she get it perfectly right, it's less like the sack race and more like that silly race where you put your head on the bat and spin around until you're wonderfully goofy and tripping over your own feet.

 

[Wizard]

I'll second that too , well put RonG.

 

[Guest]

Hi there ...

Seems like you and me both are in the same li'l 'ol boat ... doesn't seem like I am able to find a fem in this damn country ... South-Africa ... that ever nearly tickles my fancy ... that is so fcukin' unfair ... why do all the good ones always have to be in another country?

If you would like to talk a little more ...

aidia@netactive.co.za or pieter@ihscpt.co.za