sexual inuendo's

[sexycurvez]

hello Im new and idk if im postin this on the right section



I have known my friend for about 4 years now.

Recently her husband decided to say how good looking

he thinks I am, and offering to have sex with me : | and

he even texts me dirty things he would do, and i do not

appreciate what he is doing. Now the thing would be to

tell my friend.... but i do not want to lose the friendship

we have over him..how do i tell her? or what do i do?

 

[Pleasure_Fan]

Hey SC -
I think the first thing you should do is to tell HIM to stop. I don't want to ruffle any feathers here, but sometimes... well... guys just read the wrong signals. It's possible that you are having fun with your friend when you visit them, but he reads that as attraction to him - or insert some other scenario here where he is either misreading signals or has even built up fantasies about you over the years.
So, tell him first. Be firm. Insist that he stop. Let him know that you will tell your friend. HOWEVER! Please know that if you do tell your friend, she is more likely to dump you than to dump him or fix the problem. She could even be aware, somewhere in the dim recesses of her mind, that something is going on, and may be unwilling to face up to it. But from her side it would be easier to get rid of a friend than to go through the pain and hassle of getting rid of a husband. Sad, but true that she would probably see dumping you as the easy fix.
This has been my very painful experience. Friends for about 5 years, and then my friend got a new boyfriend. Wow was he a sleazy loser. I was sleeping at her place (she lived about an hour away) when I was woken up by HIM crawling on top of me. I told him to get off or I was going to scream. When he didn't get off me right away, I took a VERY deep breath as though I was going to scream at the top of my lungs. It worked. He left.
The next day I didn't say a word about it to my friend, and I felt terrible... After I left her house she called me - my bed had a bunch of HAIR in it, and he was very hairy, so she knew he had been in my bed. EEEEEWWWW!!! No matter what I said, I was a threat.
She never spoke to me again, and she went through many years of hell chasing women away who had no idea that he even had a girlfriend. Then she married him.
Sorry to make this into a book... Approach him VERY firmly and tell him to get his act together and leave you alone!

 

[rod43]

hello Im new and idk if im postin this on the right section



I have known my friend for about 4 years now.

Recently her husband decided to say how good looking

he thinks I am, and offering to have sex with me : | and

he even texts me dirty things he would do, and i do not

appreciate what he is doing. Now the thing would be to

tell my friend.... but i do not want to lose the friendship

we have over him..how do i tell her? or what do i do?

I agree with the good advice from PF
Tell him to get fucked....or that you will tell your friend.
Either that, or have a threesome!!!

 

[sexycurvez]

Hey SC -
Ii Approach him VERY firmly and tell him to get his act together and leave you alone!

Yes, I have told him to stop and I always bring up his wife asking him " don't you love your wife and two kids".....

But he is a hard head, and admitted everything he has been feeling and I know its just sex what he wants and nothing else....now I have not led him on, I'm glad I don't see the guy, because that would be just weird.

 

[sexycurvez]

I agree with the good advice from PF
Tell him to get fucked....or that you will tell your friend.
Either that, or have a threesome!!!

Yea, I can tell he is desperate and I even told him he can go look for other girls just not me : |... he asked my friend for a 3some but he didnt tell her he wants me to be part of it

 

[rod43]

Yea, I can tell he is desperate and I even told him he can go look for other girls just not me : |... he asked my friend for a 3some but he didnt tell her he wants me to be part of it

What would be your response if your GF said yes to having a 3some? Would that be something you'd like to do with them? Or if you are bi, would you like to make out with her?

 

[sexycurvez]

What would be your response if your GF said yes to having a 3some? Would that be something you'd like to do with them? Or if you are bi, would you like to make out with her?

its not the first time i have been asked if i wanted a 3some

but from them idk, she seems a bit too conservative and shy

im not bi but i like to try new things and it would be tough to

say yes if she agreed to do it..

 

[rod43]

its not the first time i have been asked if i wanted a 3some

but from them idk, she seems a bit too conservative and shy

im not bi but i like to try new things and it would be tough to

say yes if she agreed to do it..

Maybe........say to him that he is to fuck off, UNLESS he talks to her and she makes the next move to you?
Would that appeal to your sense of adventure, to you your sexual appetite?
Incidentally, would he turn you on if it was out in the open with his wife?

 

[Lior2006]

Tell him "no, I am not interested at all" and block his texts.

If he persists ask him what part of no did he not understand.

 

[viper2000]

This does not seem to be sexual innuendo at all seems like out right harassment. I think tell your friend and show her the texts to prove your point. I would do this so my friend knows whats shes dealing with and go from there.

 

[twister947]

What woman in her right mind would want a threesome or whateversome with this jerk?

You're in a lose/lose situation here. No matter what you do, it is unlikely to end well.

There's a very bad side of me that thinks you should post his # here on Lit.

 

[Pleasure_Fan]

I also think a threesome is a really bad idea. Not just because he seems like a jerk, but because once you've had a threesome he will probably just take that as freedom to come after you for whatever he wants, whenever he wants.
I think this one will end badly as well... If the guy has any decency, you might tell him how much your friendship with his wife means to you, and see if he will back off because of that. Personally I don't think he will, because he is already disrespecting his wife, but you might try to appeal to him that way and see if it works. I just think the LAST thing you want to do is tell your friend. I would try everything else first.

 

[Luna_Bella]

Like someone else mentionned, tell him to bug off and block his texts.

you are friends with his wife not him. it is surprisingly easy to avoid someone, you can still see your friend without him, invite her out to your place for girls night, have lunch with her and rid yourself of the bastard. If your friend asks why you seem to be avoiding her husband just tell her you guys don't see eye to eye and that she means a lot to you so that it is easier for you to see her but not him.

 

[Lust Engine]

It almost sounds as though you just might need some big burly guy to scare the hell out of this chump. Obviously he's not listening to your stern NO.

Take your friend out of this equation. This d-bag is a being a jerk to you. You have every right to demand that he stop. If he doesn't threaten to expose him- take it public. You've got the evidence so you're the one that should be the one holding the power over this chump.

 

[subwannabe]

I think you should tell her. Isn't she your friend? She should know what a dickface her husband is.

 

[mtwain4u]

Honestly, tell your friend.

Tell her you don't want to lose her as a friend, but as a friend you just have to tell her about her husband's behavior. Show her the texts, emails, etc.

Tell her you've told her husband to F-off countless times but this just continues.

Tell her you appreciate her friendship but think - for her sake - you should only see her when he's not around.

He's an ass if he's been told "no", and at this point (sorry for the bluntness) your not being a very good friend if you don't let her know.

 

[TheHorseshoe]

Pleasure_Fan

I don't really post here too much, if at all, but I just wanted to say that your post (post #2 in this thread) was full of truly outstanding advice. Sometimes we're all thinking things but we're not quite sure on how to put "pen to paper," you did an excellent job of assisting the OP in seeing through somebody else's eyes which is something that when there is a problem, we often don't take into account until an error has already been made. Anyways, I like seeing stuff like that so good job.

I'm sorry about your old friend.

As for the OP, there isn't much more I can add that hasn't been said better by others. You're getting some rather good counsel here, I'd take it.

 

[Pleasure_Fan]

Pleasure_Fan

I don't really post here too much, if at all, but I just wanted to say that your post (post #2 in this thread) was full of truly outstanding advice. Sometimes we're all thinking things but we're not quite sure on how to put "pen to paper," you did an excellent job of assisting the OP in seeing through somebody else's eyes which is something that when there is a problem, we often don't take into account until an error has already been made. Anyways, I like seeing stuff like that so good job.

I'm sorry about your old friend.

As for the OP, there isn't much more I can add that hasn't been said better by others. You're getting some rather good counsel here, I'd take it.

Thanks Horseshoe
I wish it wasn't such a painful journey in arriving at that advice... so I always try and spare those who will listen! Even if it works out for the OP differently, I believe that enabling a buffet of optional ideas for someone else is always worth the pain of reliving and sharing! And thanks for the sentiment on my lost friend... I still miss her occasionally

 

[ThetaPrime]

Couple of things.

1st- If you are not sexually attracted to him why are you even entertaining a 3-some? Are you attracted to him or not?

2nd- Tell your friend. If I were married and my wife was doing this behind my back I'd want my "friend" to tell me. If I found out it was happening and they didn't tell me, they wouldn't be my friend any more. Be a true friend and tell her.