Sexual Frustration

[Clitorasmic]

I'm looking for advice, insight, opinions, etc.

My husband and I have been going through a major dry spell. He is horny and turned on all of the time but I'm having a hard time getting into the mood to do anything. This is causing frustration for him and for myself because we used to have very active sex life and I used to be the one that he couldn't come up with.

We have been trying to come up with ideas to help us overcome. We just made a list last night but I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas to add to our list. We discussed creating a sex menu with options for the partner to choose, watching dirty movies/porn together, masturbation (for me) more often - although I do have trouble getting into it when I'm masturbating too, full body massages with oils.kbk

Having an open relationship - My husband is totally open to this idea - I am hesitant for many reasons (accidental pregnancy, safe sex, feeling like it is wrong, being able to open myself up, doing it with someone I know or a stranger, etc) Has anyone done this and had either positive/negative outcomes?

Any ideas, suggestions, insight from anyone that may have gone through something similar. I'm open to hearing any ideas. Thanks!

 

[Lancecastor]

Where's perg?

 

[hashtag24]

I'm looking for advice, insight, opinions, etc.

My husband and I have been going through a major dry spell. He is horny and turned on all of the time but I'm having a hard time getting into the mood to do anything. This is causing frustration for him and for myself because we used to have very active sex life and I used to be the one that he couldn't come up with.

We have been trying to come up with ideas to help us overcome. We just made a list last night but I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas to add to our list. We discussed creating a sex menu with options for the partner to choose, watching dirty movies/porn together, masturbation (for me) more often - although I do have trouble getting into it when I'm masturbating too, full body massages with oils.kbk

Having an open relationship - My husband is totally open to this idea - I am hesitant for many reasons (accidental pregnancy, safe sex, feeling like it is wrong, being able to open myself up, doing it with someone I know or a stranger, etc) Has anyone done this and had either positive/negative outcomes?

Any ideas, suggestions, insight from anyone that may have gone through something similar. I'm open to hearing any ideas. Thanks!

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Thank you, and good day.

 

[HisArpy]

Try the How-To forum. Best place to ask for advice for this type of thing.

http://forum.literotica.com/forumdisplay.php?f=6

Beyond that, check with your doctor to be sure there's no hormonal or physical issues. Then, stress reduction. It sounds like you're stressed and burnt out and that's interfering with your desire.

Also, you don't need a list but it's ok if you make one up because it helps get your fantasies out there so you can do things that you think are sexy.

But, the thing is, sex is a mating act. Normally you have to be attracted to the other person involved. What we do when we're looking is make a game of it. That increases the attraction and eventually we get to choose who to mate with.

So, go back to playing the game. There are no rules. No playbook. No plan. Just the game. You. Looking for Mr./Mrs. Right. Who happens to be right over ----->.

Except they're watching TV instead of you. So, whatcha gonna do about that?

 

[Clitorasmic]

Thank you for the feedback!

 

[Ms_Ann]

Nothing more sexy than a list.

 

[Debbie]

You could go and have a chat with your dr and discuss the possibility of your hormones being part of what is going on with you.

Relax, meditation, long baths together with bubbles, a loofah and just enjoy each other.

A dirty weekend.

Something a little risque like opening the door for him with nothing but a red ribbon on.

Hubby used to work long hours so I'd get up early and surprise him with coffee and something sweet. Shower together - life can get so busy we forget to make time for each other even if its just to wash each others hair or be intimate.

 

[Ms_Ann]

Nothing more sexy than a loofah.

 

[Boxlicker101]

Are you into oral sex? It is, or can be, a great help if your sex lives are not happening.