Sexual Fantasy Origins

[Rick1243]

As we all know people's sexual fantasies are all over the place but I've always been curious as to what is the reason we are turned on by a particular thing.

For me my favorite fantasy developed over many years and it centered on my best friend's mom. Now I know that being attracted to a friend's mom is nothing unusual for a young guy. She had a great body, pretty face, the whole package.

The difference is along with having a lust for her body I got turned on thinking about her wrestling with other women. In my fantasies these were always one sided matches with the other woman totally dominating her. No punching the face or blood or anything like that.

Over the course of 30 plus years the matches became more erotic in nature with the other woman often forcing my friend's mom to pleasure her after the match.

My favorite scenario was at the end of the match the other woman would face sit her and have her lick her pussy. While she did that I would but my dick between my friend's mom's breasts and slide it back and forth until I blew my load all over her breasts.

The thing is this woman is one of the sweetest nicest people you'd ever want to meet and in real life I'd never want to see her harmed.

I use to feel bad about these thoughts but realized it's just a fantasy.

Still curious though if anyone had any thoughts on how this became such a turn on for me.

Any feedback would be appreciated.

 

[CandK_inSE]

While these are very mild "fantasies", I think they both come from something that I wanted but couldn't have.

I have always wanted to fuck a cheerleader. Sure, all guys do, but I think the reason why for me is because when I was in school, there was absolutely no way I was ever going to get a date with any cheerleaders. It's probably just manifested itself into a "fantasy" of this would be so fucking incredible. Now, my wife has a cheerleader outfit that's been brought out for roleplay and it has been a lot of fun!

The other one is maybe a little weird, but along the same lines. I've wanted to fuck a girl named Jennifer. That's not ever going to happen, but it's still a "fantasy". Why? I think it has to do with the fact I got treated like shit by three girls named Jennifer back in college.

 

[Escierto]

While these are very mild "fantasies", I think they both come from something that I wanted but couldn't have.

I have always wanted to fuck a cheerleader. Sure, all guys do, but I think the reason why for me is because when I was in school, there was absolutely no way I was ever going to get a date with any cheerleaders. It's probably just manifested itself into a "fantasy" of this would be so fucking incredible. Now, my wife has a cheerleader outfit that's been brought out for roleplay and it has been a lot of fun!

The other one is maybe a little weird, but along the same lines. I've wanted to fuck a girl named Jennifer. That's not ever going to happen, but it's still a "fantasy". Why? I think it has to do with the fact I got treated like shit by three girls named Jennifer back in college.

It’s not too late, dude. You can still bang a chick named Jennifer. Bend her over. Fuck her every which way but loose.

 

[Dendeze]

The other one is maybe a little weird, but along the same lines. I've wanted to fuck a girl named Jennifer. That's not ever going to happen, but it's still a "fantasy". Why? I think it has to do with the fact I got treated like shit by three girls named Jennifer back in college.

Have you been binge watching Friends re runs again?

 

[EdEc]

Two fetishes.
1. A neighbor girl did a standing piss for me while we were in her father's garage.
2. A Latina who was a couple of years older than I was, always dressed very well and she wore eyeglasses, which knocked me off my feet.

 

[NickCarraway12]

I love this question as it's deep.

I think that erotic humiliation from women comes from my dad bullying my mom. I never wanted to be one to hurt a woman. Strong women turn me on.

Cuckolding happened to me when I was in my early 20s. A GF broke up with me and went right to her male "friend." Kissed him at a party while I was there. Right in front of everyone.

When I had a job in high school, I bagged groceries for rich bitches in town, sometimes really sexy, older women. They'd be called MILF's now. These were country club women. I wanted to have sex with them as sort of a milestone.

 

[JadeSteed]

I don't really know where my primary sexual fantasy comes from. Almost all of my fantasies center around impregnation. I didn't *know* I had this kink until my spouse and I were actually trying to have a baby, and, holy shit, I learned what an orgasm really could be. Let's just say I was somewhat happy it took longer than expected to actually get pregnant with our second and third children, because holy moley, when I'm fertile, non-protected with the intention of impregnation, I just about turned into a sex fiend and loved every second of it. Literally, my orgasms were directly triggered by deep cumpies, and little else would work.

Ever since, sex resulting in pregnancy, or the legitimate possibility thereof (without planning to take a Plan B pill or an abortion) and impending motherhood is a massive turn-on for me, whether it's me doing it, or someone else.

The downside is that we stopped at three (very much wanted) children (for medical reasons) and if I'm aware I'm on birth control, or my partner has has a vasectomy, etc, it totally killed the sex. I could still orgasm, but I had to create an inner that I could get pregnant, but it was never the same again. Now I'm post-menopause, and I lost interest in actually taking part in sex at all. Everything is fantasy now, and I write about the fantasies I can no longer make real for myself.

 

[ComatoastTX]

Not sure where most of my fantasies originate from but I would definitely have to say that my sexual perversions have to stem from a very early experience I had when I was sexually abused by my babysitter. A fact I have not mentioned but to only a few people but it feels good to let that knowledge out there.

 

[screwher]

My sexual fantasy/fetish is married women having sex with other men. Particularly my Mrs. Screwher. It was sparked years ago by my wife’s first tryst with another man. At first I was furious. It almost ended us. But we worked through it togetber. Soon after though it started to arouse me. Something so hot about my wife in that hotel with him. My wife sucking his cock! Him licking her pussy! Then sliding his cock in her! Fast forward years later and I still had the desire for my wife to do it again. When she did, it started us in the path to the hotwife lifestyle we’re currently enjoying!

 

[FantasySharer1]

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[CuttingEdge]

While these are very mild "fantasies", I think they both come from something that I wanted but couldn't have.

I have always wanted to fuck a cheerleader. Sure, all guys do, but I think the reason why for me is because when I was in school, there was absolutely no way I was ever going to get a date with any cheerleaders. It's probably just manifested itself into a "fantasy" of this would be so fucking incredible. Now, my wife has a cheerleader outfit that's been brought out for roleplay and it has been a lot of fun!

The other one is maybe a little weird, but along the same lines. I've wanted to fuck a girl named Jennifer. That's not ever going to happen, but it's still a "fantasy". Why? I think it has to do with the fact I got treated like shit by three girls named Jennifer back in college.

You never know my friend...

I was the same way in high school and never had a chance with the cheerleaders, but years later I ended up marrying the head cheerleader.

Like you having a thing for "Jennifer's", I had a thing for Amy's, and she was an Amy!!

As I said, you never know. I never thought I would date a cheerleader, let alone be married to the Head Cheerleader named Amy!!

 

[Crownvic]

You never know my friend...

I was the same way in high school and never had a chance with the cheerleaders, but years later I ended up marrying the head cheerleader.

Like you having a thing for "Jennifer's", I had a thing for Amy's, and she was an Amy!!

As I said, you never know. I never thought I would date a cheerleader, let alone be married to the Head Cheerleader named Amy!!

How’s that experience been for you?

 

[Justfantasies]

While these are very mild "fantasies", I think they both come from something that I wanted but couldn't have.

I have always wanted to fuck a cheerleader. Sure, all guys do, but I think the reason why for me is because when I was in school, there was absolutely no way I was ever going to get a date with any cheerleaders. It's probably just manifested itself into a "fantasy" of this would be so fucking incredible. Now, my wife has a cheerleader outfit that's been brought out for roleplay and it has been a lot of fun!

The other one is maybe a little weird, but along the same lines. I've wanted to fuck a girl named Jennifer. That's not ever going to happen, but it's still a "fantasy". Why? I think it has to do with the fact I got treated like shit by three girls named Jennifer back in college.

I also have a thing for Jennifers. I wonder how many of us there are. I only fucked one, but knew a lot. It has always seemed to me that Jennifers are especially sexy. This isn't actually true, but seemed that way

 

[mywife4othermen]

Erotic Fantasies originate when young

I really do believe that sexual and erotic fantasies have their origins in events ( sometimes good, sometimes bad) that occurred when you are young.

In my case, two very vivid things happened which have shaped my entire sexuality, right up to the present day.

The first was when I was in my very early teens and I stumbled across an adult couple caressing each other in a pine forest among the sand dunes of a wide beach. We were on a family vacation. I had taken myself off and was exploring. I saw the two of them holding each other, standing. I watched as he removed her bikini, letting her bikini panties slip halfway down her thighs. Se put her hand in his swim trunks and pulled out his cock ( which seemed enormous to me). They were obviously mastubating each other when he looked in my direction. I ran as fast as I could but to this day remember the intense thrill I got from seeing the two of them naked and enjoying each other. My desire to be both a voyeur as well as an exhibitionist must have started there.

The second event was when I was about 17. I had a slightly younger semi-girlfriend. She was quite beautiful in that short-haired sort of gamine way i.e. a slim, elegant young woman who is, or is perceived to be, mischievous, teasing or sexually appealing. She'd wear very short mini dresses and skirts and boys and men were immediately attracted to her. She'd often tease and even taunt me when other guys were around. I put up with it because I couldn't let her go. To cut a longish story short, we were out on a walk one hot day and passed a country pub ( this was England). She had one of her thin very short dresses on. A group of much older guys ( 30's??) was outside the pub. One thing led to another and my girlfriend was fucked by three of them while I had to watch and put up with their intimidating tactics. I was simultaneously horrified, ashamed, humiliated and extremely aroused.

My life-long desire to share my women with other men ( or have my woman taken by other men) started there.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

For most of my life I have fantasized about sex with the women I encounter every day. A woman across from me on the train, the barista making my coffee, a co-worker, or whoever else I see that day. Nothing unusual, I'm sure most guys do the same thing.
Lately, however, I have been fantasizing about these women and their partners. Not me with them, but just the two of them. How do they fuck? How often? Does she suck him? Does she swallow? Does he fuck her doggy style, or does she like to ride on top. I can be talking to a woman and I am picturing her sucking her husband's cock, or taking it from behind, or whatever. Does she make a lot of noise when he's eating her pussy? What does she sound like?
I don't know exactly where this came from. I have always been a voyeur, and I guess that goes back to watching the lady next door from my second story bedroom window while I was growing up.

 

[CandK_inSE]

You never know my friend...

I was the same way in high school and never had a chance with the cheerleaders, but years later I ended up marrying the head cheerleader.

Like you having a thing for "Jennifer's", I had a thing for Amy's, and she was an Amy!!

As I said, you never know. I never thought I would date a cheerleader, let alone be married to the Head Cheerleader named Amy!!

Good for you! I think with me, the cheerleader thing was exacerbated because I was on the football team, still in the time frame where it was expected that football players dated cheerleaders. The fantasy came from an unattainable "expectation". Now, being married it is what it is, although we do role play with my wife as a cheerleader.

I also have a thing for Jennifers. I wonder how many of us there are. I only fucked one, but knew a lot. It has always seemed to me that Jennifers are especially sexy. This isn't actually true, but seemed that way

The Jennifer thing with me is because three of them, back to back, through my junior year into the summer before senior year of college did things to absolutely destroy my confidence around girls/women, that I actually didn't/wasn't really even able to date for a few years after college.

First one made me believe I had a chance with her. She was a friend of a girl I knew from one of my classes. One thing led to another and we started walking to class together, eating lunch, etc. Three weeks in, I ask her out. She says yes. Going to go somewhere on a Friday night. That afternoon, she calls me, and says, "I have a boyfriend. I'm not going out with you!" I heard laughing in the background. The next week, the girl I knew from class apologized, told me that she loves to fuck with guys' heads.

Second one, claimed she was afraid of a "big guy", like 6'3", 205 lbs. with some body definition is a "big guy". Of course, she never said anything to me after spending an evening with me having a great conversation and then having lunch the next day. I find out through a friend that she's scared of my size, and she was going to call the police on me. WTF? Just tell me you aren't interested. Bye.

Third one actually lived near me, but we both went to school two hours away. Out with a friend of mine and we happen to bump into her and her friends. We hang out a little bit. She starts leading me on thinking that I have a chance and fucks my buddy. Ok, no big deal. Find out later that she basically fucks everyone. Make me feel about three inches tall.

Once I got over all the bullshit and was able to mentally date, part of me wanted to find a Jennifer and basically just fuck the shit out of her and get all that anger out. I wouldn't actually do something like that, but it's the whole "revenge" crap that goes on in your head.

It seems like now, there's no girl/woman named Jennifer under the age of 40. No girls in my daughter's class, while it seemed like at least 5% of the girls at college were named Jennifer.

 

[GD88]

I've always had fantasies about older sisters. Everybody else seems to go for Mom, but Big Sis is where it's at for me.

The first reason is because I don't have an older sister and this helps intensify things from a "Fantasies of things I don't have".

The second reason is a real life friend of mine's older sister. She came into the house looking all worldly and mature in office clothes got changed, and joined us wearing t-shirt and short shorts looking all casual and closer to our age than what I first thought. But most definitely she was very beautiful and sexy in both outfits.

I think the dynamic is intriguing for me. An older woman but that not much older, someone who has seen more of the world but without the generation gap, has the outward appearance of someone who is responsible and mature but still with a sense that she can have some fun and go wild.

Nothing ever happened but I credit this "Big Sis" as the origin of my older sister fantasies.