Sexual Assualt

[Alice_In_Chains]

I was assulted a couple of months a go by a stranger. Probably one of the scariest things I've experienced. It made me whenever I was in a relationship in the need to be in it even though the guy didn't want me anymore for security and that's probably I've stayed in this "go no where relationship" if you can call it a relationship.

Can this be some kind of weakness or the need to grieve?

 

[peachykeen]

I am confused - you say this was a few months ago, and then 'whenever I was in a relationship...' girl, how many can there have been, and how long could they have lasted?

oh and the answer to the question is, yes.

 

[Alice_In_Chains]

I've been in two since then. The first one moved the second one is too BUSY to talk to me.

The second one is a burden in my hand (to steal a line from Soundgarden) he every so often calls me and makes me feel guilty for not calling him. Which is initally not true because I do the exact opposite of what he should be doing. That is calling me.

I feel the reason why I still try to call him is I'm in fear of being in that situation again I'm in fear that if I don't have someone with me it will happen again.

 

[Blackbich]

I feel the reason why I still try to call him is I'm in fear of being in that situation again I'm in fear that if I don't have someone with me it will happen again.

Alice, honey...you need to talk to someone. I don't know the circumstances of your attack and I'm not asking for them. Feel free to PM me if you want. You need to grieve for what happened, sort out your feelings, realize that it wasn't your fault and dump your loser boyfriend if he's not willing to give you what you need.

Being in a relationship is no guarantee that you will not be assaulted. Women are attacked in all types of situations and attackers will use whatever scenario is necessary to complete their mission whether it's attempting to get you drunk, drugging your drink/food or snatching you off the street. This can occur if you are with your boyfriend or not. An attacker could, feasible, drug both of your meals then sexually assault you both. Get my point? Anyway...talk to someone who is not going to judge you and who will let you work everything out, even if it means going to a professional.

 

[Native Alien]

You might also want to read the thread titled "How do you Help someone Get over being Abused". It was started by Gil_T.

 

[Skitten]

You best option is probably going to be talking to someone, it will help you better cope with what has happened to you. The relationship is not important right now worry about yourself and helping yourself first. Then you can move on from there.

 

[lovechild27]

I think you have lost a lot of your self esteem and self respect. A of women often feel like they are no good after being sexually assaulted. Its common to feel like you deserve a crappy relationship. PLease, look into therapy. It will do wonders for you. There are a lot of issues being sexually assaulted brings up, and it sounds like you havent even seen the tip of the ice berg. I was raped five years ago and still have issues with it. Good luck dear!

 

[S.Daedalus]

I beg of you.....

Please, I beg you...deal with this issue as soon as possible or else you may jeopardize any further relationships. Being assaulted in any way shape or form, whether it is Sexual, verbal or physical is not something that you can forget!

I am just getting out of a relationship with a woman who was sexually assaulted, physically abused and mentally abused. She never took the proper steps to take care of herself before me and therefore our relationship, no matter how hard I tried, was always on shaky grounds. She abused me. She would take out her anger and frustrations of other boyfriends on me. You can read a little bit about my story on the 'Help someone get over being abused' thread.

I think the thing that hurt the most after she left me was that she NEVER EVER truly felt how much I loved her! She never saw how much I cared and loved her. And after giving so much to her it hurts me now to even begin to think that she never knew how much I loved her. She never felt how much I loved her. Because she was emotionally blocked to it. The men of her past had not only taken her self-esteem and her spirit, but also taken her ability to feel. Her ability to love and trust. And because of that two people are now suffering more then we ever should have.


So I beg of you, coming from a man who has loved and is still dealing with the loss, please seek out help and guidance. There is NO NEED to go threw this alone. You are not a worse person if you seek help and you are not a bad person because this happen to you. But what ever you do, do not allow this person to steal more of you then he already has.

You can private message me any time if you want to talk. I’m from Canada so I’m familiar with stuff around here=)

I'm sorry for rambling, but I am soo passionate about this situation. No woman should ever be abused. And those that are, should be cherished and nurtured so they don't in turn turn around and abuse themselves!

Take care,
I am only a few clicks away=)
Good luck and god bless you..you are stronger then you think.

Stephen Daedalus

--This was posted well listening to Morcheeba - Big Calm