Sexless with an increasing libido

[Sweet_N_Kinky_BBW]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and live together. Due to some health issues on his end, our sex life has become almost nonexistent. He’s working with his doctors so for now I just have to be patient…and I’m trying so fucking hard, but I feel like I’m slowly going insane.

I’ve always had a really high sex drive and as I get older (40 this year) it’s only getting stronger. Every day I find myself lost in fantasies that involve random people - strangers, coworkers, the You Tube guy from a show we watch, hot guy at the grocery store….I think about these sexy strangers/acquaintances taking me in various ways. I want it hard and rough, slow and passionate, and everything in between….toys, teasing, role playing, and LOTS of oral. What I wouldn’t give for a man who wants to devour my pussy….I get so turned on and have no outlet for sweet relief. I’m in horny hell and thinking about sex constantly!

I’m not sure why I felt the need to post this. Maybe to finally get it off my chest in some way. I’m distracted on a daily basis at home and at work, and it’s getting worse. I can’t talk to my friends as it’s way too personal. I’m not open to cheating or naughty chats (cyber has never been my thing, single or not). I guess sending my frustration out into the internet void is the best I can do at the moment.

 

[13Fantasies]

While my sexless voyage is not entirely medically induced, my wife has no interest. And I'm finding my level ebbs and flows, but is generally higher.

Good luck on the condition resolving. I hope it happens for you

 

[maveric74]

I think you'll find there are a lot of ppl here in a similar situation so rest assured you are not alone.
For various reasons including her health issues, my wife and I sleep separately. No sex for a couple of years. I am constantly horny. Wanting sex. Have cheated twice and loved every second of it and wanted more but time/situation/circumstances meant both occasions were short lived.
Can't leave her. It would cripple us financially with 2 young kids. But it's also mentally and physically excruciatingly challenging to have to deal with this on a daily basis.
Glad your partner is working with doctors/medication to resolve the issue. Good luck with it.

 

[gregy70]

You are lucky you arn’t my wife as I would be encouraging you

 

[raiderzgirl]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and live together. Due to some health issues on his end, our sex life has become almost nonexistent. He’s working with his doctors so for now I just have to be patient…and I’m trying so fucking hard, but I feel like I’m slowly going insane.

I’ve always had a really high sex drive and as I get older (40 this year) it’s only getting stronger. Every day I find myself lost in fantasies that involve random people - strangers, coworkers, the You Tube guy from a show we watch, hot guy at the grocery store….I think about these sexy strangers/acquaintances taking me in various ways. I want it hard and rough, slow and passionate, and everything in between….toys, teasing, role playing, and LOTS of oral. What I wouldn’t give for a man who wants to devour my pussy….I get so turned on and have no outlet for sweet relief. I’m in horny hell and thinking about sex constantly!

I’m not sure why I felt the need to post this. Maybe to finally get it off my chest in some way. I’m distracted on a daily basis at home and at work, and it’s getting worse. I can’t talk to my friends as it’s way too personal. I’m not open to cheating or naughty chats (cyber has never been my thing, single or not). I guess sending my frustration out into the internet void is the best I can do at the moment.

Let me first just PROMISE you that you are not alone. Similar circumstances brought me to Lit, and this has become a necessary outlet for me. I have found that writing is a great release, putting my fantasies into words that others can enjoy is very satisfying for me. But if you’re not into doing that (it’s not for everyone), at least find someone you can talk to about it honestly. If not your real life friends, someone here. Feel free to message me, I am a good listener and I understand a thousand percent how you feel right now!!

 

[babyface23]

Let me first just PROMISE you that you are not alone. Similar circumstances brought me to Lit, and this has become a necessary outlet for me. I have found that writing is a great release, putting my fantasies into words that others can enjoy is very satisfying for me. But if you’re not into doing that (it’s not for everyone), at least find someone you can talk to about it honestly. If not your real life friends, someone here. Feel free to message me, I am a good listener and I understand a thousand percent how you feel right now!!

I second this. While I know men dominate this site, and most of us are here because we are far more sexual than our partners, finding the right outlet is key to mental health.

My wife and I have had sex once in last 18 months. Once. She’s never been very sexual, and she blamed me for a job less last year (I’m fine now with a better job and much better pay/benefits). She still seems to hold it against me.

I know guys are supposed to slow down as we get older, but my libido is through the roof right now. I’m talking about jacking off a minimum time of twice a day.

Writing has helped be an outlet for me. Taking some realities and turning them into fantasy has been great. I write for me. If others like it, and I’ve had good feedback, that’s just a bonus.

These forums are great for talking to others that might be in same boat too.

 

[Imperfect_Guy]

I second this. While I know men dominate this site, and most of us are here because we are far more sexual than our partners, finding the right outlet is key to mental health.

My wife and I have had sex once in last 18 months. Once. She’s never been very sexual, and she blamed me for a job less last year (I’m fine now with a better job and much better pay/benefits). She still seems to hold it against me.

I know guys are supposed to slow down as we get older, but my libido is through the roof right now. I’m talking about jacking off a minimum time of twice a day.

Writing has helped be an outlet for me. Taking some realities and turning them into fantasy has been great. I write for me. If others like it, and I’ve had good feedback, that’s just a bonus.

These forums are great for talking to others that might be in same boat too.

I know exactly what you mean about off the charts libido. Since I've retired I've been hornier than ever. I frequently find myself edging for hours on any given day. I've always been horny but I guess I just have more time on my hands now and therefore my penis is also in my hands more. A sexless marriage doesn't help either.

 

[babyface23]

I know exactly what you mean about off the charts libido. Since I've retired I've been hornier than ever. I frequently find myself edging for hours on any given day. I've always been horny but I guess I just have more time on my hands now and therefore my penis is also in my hands more. A sexless marriage doesn't help either.

I can so relate. I’m not retired, but I work from home. I’m on session 3 in last 10 hours!

 

[Imperfect_Guy]

I can so relate. I’m not retired, but I work from home. I’m on session 3 in last 10 hours!

I know the feeling well!!

 

[14ALL]

Let me first just PROMISE you that you are not alone. Similar circumstances brought me to Lit, and this has become a necessary outlet for me. I have found that writing is a great release, putting my fantasies into words that others can enjoy is very satisfying for me. But if you’re not into doing that (it’s not for everyone), at least find someone you can talk to about it honestly. If not your real life friends, someone here. Feel free to message me, I am a good listener and I understand a thousand percent how you feel right now!!

I second this completely.

Also, I too have found writing to be a great release. It puts the energy somewhere useful and actually seems to make a lot of people happier, besides just me.

 

[babyface23]

I second this completely.

Also, I too have found writing to be a great release. It puts the energy somewhere useful and actually seems to make a lot of people happier, besides just me.

Agreed

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Agreed

That is why we have jo buddies, I guess.

 

[PMarky2]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and live together. Due to some health issues on his end, our sex life has become almost nonexistent. He’s working with his doctors so for now I just have to be patient…and I’m trying so fucking hard, but I feel like I’m slowly going insane.

I’ve always had a really high sex drive and as I get older (40 this year) it’s only getting stronger. Every day I find myself lost in fantasies that involve random people - strangers, coworkers, the You Tube guy from a show we watch, hot guy at the grocery store….I think about these sexy strangers/acquaintances taking me in various ways. I want it hard and rough, slow and passionate, and everything in between….toys, teasing, role playing, and LOTS of oral. What I wouldn’t give for a man who wants to devour my pussy….I get so turned on and have no outlet for sweet relief. I’m in horny hell and thinking about sex constantly!

I’m not sure why I felt the need to post this. Maybe to finally get it off my chest in some way. I’m distracted on a daily basis at home and at work, and it’s getting worse. I can’t talk to my friends as it’s way too personal. I’m not open to cheating or naughty chats (cyber has never been my thing, single or not). I guess sending my frustration out into the internet void is the best I can do at the moment.

If you reverse the roles, I am in the same boat. My wife finds vaginal penetration painful and the continuous itching/pain from her two chronic autoimmune diseases mean that she doesn't feel like 'the old lick and tug' very often. This leaves me up the creek with a very hard paddle. The autoimmune issues make her crabby - understandably so - so sometimes I do not feel like going near her as nasty comments are a turn off - and they do not have to be aimed at me. If some takes the piss out of people it makes them unattractive to me.

I had expected advancing years (I am 55) and lack of practice might do something to reduce my libido but no such luck. If anything, I am hornier now than I was at 25, and I get some pretty lurid fantasies about a couple of women - mum and daughter - that I know. It can be very difficult having a rational conversation with someone when what you really want to do is bend them over the table, lift their skirt, eat their ass, then given them a good seeing to.

 

[RoanMtn]

It's been 20+ years since I've had sex, and I find myself masturbating more and having kinkier fantasies.

 

[GoodnessO]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and live together. Due to some health issues on his end, our sex life has become almost nonexistent. He’s working with his doctors so for now I just have to be patient…and I’m trying so fucking hard, but I feel like I’m slowly going insane.

I’ve always had a really high sex drive and as I get older (40 this year) it’s only getting stronger. Every day I find myself lost in fantasies that involve random people - strangers, coworkers, the You Tube guy from a show we watch, hot guy at the grocery store….I think about these sexy strangers/acquaintances taking me in various ways. I want it hard and rough, slow and passionate, and everything in between….toys, teasing, role playing, and LOTS of oral. What I wouldn’t give for a man who wants to devour my pussy….I get so turned on and have no outlet for sweet relief. I’m in horny hell and thinking about sex constantly!

I’m not sure why I felt the need to post this. Maybe to finally get it off my chest in some way. I’m distracted on a daily basis at home and at work, and it’s getting worse. I can’t talk to my friends as it’s way too personal. I’m not open to cheating or naughty chats (cyber has never been my thing, single or not). I guess sending my frustration out into the internet void is the best I can do at the moment.

I put it off for a long time. I remained monogamous with my long-time husband, until slowly, I was less & less concerned about monogamy, & more concerned about going without partnered sex for the rest of my life (due to his condition). I'm still completely committed to him, & wouldn't want to be anything but a wonderful wife to him. But some nights, I don't come home. And daytime sex... I love that, anyway.

 

[Britva415]

some nights, I don't come home

Is that with his blessing or… ?

My spouse and I have an agreement about my extramarital sex.

 

[alwaystheguy1983]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and live together. Due to some health issues on his end, our sex life has become almost nonexistent. He’s working with his doctors so for now I just have to be patient…and I’m trying so fucking hard, but I feel like I’m slowly going insane.

I’ve always had a really high sex drive and as I get older (40 this year) it’s only getting stronger. Every day I find myself lost in fantasies that involve random people - strangers, coworkers, the You Tube guy from a show we watch, hot guy at the grocery store….I think about these sexy strangers/acquaintances taking me in various ways. I want it hard and rough, slow and passionate, and everything in between….toys, teasing, role playing, and LOTS of oral. What I wouldn’t give for a man who wants to devour my pussy….I get so turned on and have no outlet for sweet relief. I’m in horny hell and thinking about sex constantly!

I’m not sure why I felt the need to post this. Maybe to finally get it off my chest in some way. I’m distracted on a daily basis at home and at work, and it’s getting worse. I can’t talk to my friends as it’s way too personal. I’m not open to cheating or naughty chats (cyber has never been my thing, single or not). I guess sending my frustration out into the internet void is the best I can do at the moment.

What kind of health issues is he going through, if you don't mind me asking? Pm me if you don't feel like airing it out, or not. Just wondering

 

[Dw313]

If you reverse the roles, I am in the same boat. My wife finds vaginal penetration painful and the continuous itching/pain from her two chronic autoimmune diseases mean that she doesn't feel like 'the old lick and tug' very often. This leaves me up the creek with a very hard paddle. The autoimmune issues make her crabby - understandably so - so sometimes I do not feel like going near her as nasty comments are a turn off - and they do not have to be aimed at me. If some takes the piss out of people it makes them unattractive to me.

I had expected advancing years (I am 55) and lack of practice might do something to reduce my libido but no such luck. If anything, I am hornier now than I was at 25, and I get some pretty lurid fantasies about a couple of women - mum and daughter - that I know. It can be very difficult having a rational conversation with someone when what you really want to do is bend them over the table, lift their skirt, eat their ass, then given them a good seeing to.

Wait till you’re 71 I still feel the same. Living with a cold fish with no sex finally killed off all civility so parted I am so much happier but being alone is harder than I thought. Trying to build a new network of friends so happy to pm anyone in the same boat .

 

[Imperfect_Guy]

That is why we have jo buddies, I guess.

Definitely. They're much needed!

 

[Dw313]

I couldn’t agree more

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I put it off for a long time. I remained monogamous with my long-time husband, until slowly, I was less & less concerned about monogamy, & more concerned about going without partnered sex for the rest of my life (due to his condition). I'm still completely committed to him, & wouldn't want to be anything but a wonderful wife to him. But some nights, I don't come home. And daytime sex... I love that, anyway.

How does he respond to that?

 

[Erosfan]

I know exactly what you mean about off the charts libido. Since I've retired I've been hornier than ever. I frequently find myself edging for hours on any given day. I've always been horny but I guess I just have more time on my hands now and therefore my penis is also in my hands more. A sexless marriage doesn't help either.

I'm about to retire. I have a lady friend that enjoys sex and sexual play as much as I do. I'm hoping retirement will give us more time to explore and experiment.

 

[Dw313]

Good on you

 

[Imperfect_Guy]

I'm about to retire. I have a lady friend that enjoys sex and sexual play as much as I do. I'm hoping retirement will give us more time to explore and experiment.

I hope it works out for you! I belong to a group with some amazing ladies who have been extremely helpful.

 

[GoodnessO]

Is that with his blessing or… ?

My spouse and I have an agreement about my extramarital sex.

I don't / we don't have any particular rules. But that leaves it up to me to be sensitive to my husband's feelings, & not leave him potentially worry about me. Though honestly, I don't think he normally worries about me. My open marriage arrangement is new, but me being an independent person, going when & where I like, is not new.
I asked him if he'd like to meet anyone I'm seeing... should I invite them over, bring them home... unfortunately he said, "no", he doesn't want to meet them.