Sexless Marriages

[Norman107]

I would be curious to know how many men or women are in marriages where their partner has no interest in sex.

 

[JHorn]

My partner likes sex once every two weeks but there is no passion. No foreplay, no making out, no frantic grouping, no rending of garments. Its more like roles that we are locked into than lovemaking. Its predictable and boring.

 

[done_got_old]

I know of several marriages in that state. In all but one case, it is the woman who has lost interest. I hope I never lose interest.

 

[Norman107]

For what its worth, i am 57 and my wife lost interest over 10 years ago.

 

[done_got_old]

For what its worth, i am 57 and my wife lost interest over 10 years ago.

I'm 56. My grandmother was having sex well into her late 70's. The only reason my great-grandmother stopped having sex is because my great-grandfather died. I have 80-year-old relatives still going strong.

 

[Missingmeds]

I'm 56. My grandmother was having sex well into her late 70's. The only reason my great-grandmother stopped having sex is because my great-grandfather died. I have 80-year-old relatives still going strong.

I am in the same boat with you done got old. I have a great grandmother that is still having sex and I have noticed that once I got rid of the ex-husband, my sex drive is now back to where it is was before him. I know now that the problem wasn't me, it was him and the best thing that I ever did was to get out of the marriage.

 

[tonitits]

Well I have not been in a marriage in almost 23 years. But when I was it was awful. He would not work, run around on me. And yes I lost interest in sex. It was never good, I was a virgin when I got married so I had nothing to compare it to. I thought that maybe there was something wrong with me. He would tell me that too. But to be quite honest. He made me feel dirty. He made me feel like a whore, and I just wanted to get rid of any signs of sex afterwards and always showered and clean up immediately. I never even got completely undressed, even during sex! Towards the end of the very bad marriage. I never even wanted him to touch me. But after I got rid of him and the marriage I did not rush out and into the arms of other men. I took a long time to heal and to recover from that experience, or so I thought, I later realized that even though I though I was over, the relationship with him affected my relationship with other men. And to all those guys I am so sorry, because looking back they would never have worked. My heart was not ready. I was not willing to accept that men can have faults and still love you and be a good partner. I have experience some great sex and relationships since. I have had my heart broken several times and don't know how much more it can take. When I was younger I never wanted to fall in love again, it was just too hard and hurt too much. And even recently have had my heart broken. But there is now a part of me who longs to find love and commitment and marriage, something I thought I would never want. I want to be someone's wife and share my life with them. So I am hopeful that that man is out there somewhere and that someday we will meet and my life will be complete. It is very full now, with my son and building a life by myself. But even though I feel complete I think it would be much fuller and more complete to have a loving husband too!

 

[MT_Pitcher]

Well I have not been in a marriage in almost 23 years. But when I was it was awful. He would not work, run around on me. And yes I lost interest in sex. It was never good, I was a virgin when I got married so I had nothing to compare it to. I thought that maybe there was something wrong with me. He would tell me that too. But to be quite honest. He made me feel dirty. He made me feel like a whore, and I just wanted to get rid of any signs of sex afterwards and always showered and clean up immediately. I never even got completely undressed, even during sex! Towards the end of the very bad marriage. I never even wanted him to touch me. But after I got rid of him and the marriage I did not rush out and into the arms of other men. I took a long time to heal and to recover from that experience, or so I thought, I later realized that even though I though I was over, the relationship with him affected my relationship with other men. And to all those guys I am so sorry, because looking back they would never have worked. My heart was not ready. I was not willing to accept that men can have faults and still love you and be a good partner. I have experience some great sex and relationships since. I have had my heart broken several times and don't know how much more it can take. When I was younger I never wanted to fall in love again, it was just too hard and hurt too much. And even recently have had my heart broken. But there is now a part of me who longs to find love and commitment and marriage, something I thought I would never want. I want to be someone's wife and share my life with them. So I am hopeful that that man is out there somewhere and that someday we will meet and my life will be complete. It is very full now, with my son and building a life by myself. But even though I feel complete I think it would be much fuller and more complete to have a loving husband too!

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[tonitits]

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