sexless marriage

[scotsgal]

Just wondering if anyone else is in my situation? I am still in my 40s but my husband and I have not had sex in well over 2 years. He is ill and we cannot have sexual relations any more so it is what it is.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Just wondering if anyone else is in my situation? I am still in my 40s but my husband and I have not had sex in well over 2 years. He is ill and we cannot have sexual relations any more so it is what it is.

What's he sick of?

 

[scotsgal]

He has heart failure, diagnosed 2 years ago and is genetic (got gene tested and his mum has the gene). As it is affects the blood circulation it stops him from getting an erection.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

He has heart failure, diagnosed 2 years ago and is genetic (got gene tested and his mum has the gene). As it is affects the blood circulation it stops him from getting an erection.

That's too bad. Are you going to cheat on him?

 

[parodyluvr75]

I'm sure if you look in the playground forum you'll find other posters in your situation. Sorry to hear about your husband's illness.

 

[scotsgal]

That's too bad. Are you going to cheat on him?

Haven't yet but finding things difficult and can't contemplate the rest of my life without sex. What would you do?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Haven't yet but finding things difficult and can't contemplate the rest of my life without sex. What would you do?

Honestly? That's a tough call. I believe everyone has a right to be happy, but then, you swore an oath before God to stay together. Have you talked about it? How does he feel about you finding other sources to take care of your needs? At 40, I doubt he would think that's acceptable. Do you still like him?

 

[Dimples62]

Haven't yet but finding things difficult and can't contemplate the rest of my life without sex. What would you do?

It's not penintration but does his tongue and finger still work I would also talk with him about

 

[scotsgal]

Honestly? That's a tough call. I believe everyone has a right to be happy, but then, you swore an oath before God to stay together. Have you talked about it? How does he feel about you finding other sources to take care of your needs? At 40, I doubt he would think that's acceptable. Do you still like him?

Yes I still like him and I know for a fact he would NEVER accept me going elsewhere. Getting my kicks from online porn once he has gone to bed.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Yes I still like him and I know for a fact he would NEVER accept me going elsewhere. Getting my kicks from online porn once he has gone to bed.

That won't fulfill your needs in the long term...what is the term? Is he on a transplant list?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

.....You didn't actually say you've talked about it.

 

[Noor]

He has heart failure, diagnosed 2 years ago and is genetic (got gene tested and his mum has the gene). As it is affects the blood circulation it stops him from getting an erection.

Sex is not just PIV, how are his fingers, tongue?

 

[scotsgal]

.....You didn't actually say you've talked about it.

I did suggest to him alternatives but he is definitely NOT up for it.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I did suggest to him alternatives but he is definitely NOT up for it.

You might be surprised. How does he feel about watching girl on girl? You could maybe kill two birds with one stone. Or three, depending on how excited he gets.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

I did suggest to him alternatives but he is definitely NOT up for it.

Does he feel like he's missing out on sex, too?

What about reading some stories from Lit to him? Would be be game for that?

Welcome to Lit, by the way.

 

[Wok]

Just wondering if anyone else is in my situation? I am still in my 40s but my husband and I have not had sex in well over 2 years. He is ill and we cannot have sexual relations any more so it is what it is.

Just fuck somebody else. That will solve all your problems.

 

[Mropietaylor69]

"I'm dedicated to hope, when there is no other choice"

I'm willing to do it for the team!!

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Well, I thought we were making progress.

 

[Noor]

How long will he live with this condition?

Does his dr say there is no way for him to get an erection? Have you talked to his dr?

Did you ask him how he would suggest you get your sexual needs met?

 

[warrior queen]

I did suggest to him alternatives but he is definitely NOT up for it.

He's not up for it because he's too unwell, or he's not up for it because he doesn't give a shit about your needs, or he's not up for it because he's a prude???
Which is it?

Sorry to be so blunt, but the whole 'honour until death do you part' thing includes doing everything possible to make the marriage work, in health and in sickness, BOTH people.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

He's not up for it because he's too unwell, or he's not up for it because he doesn't give a shit about your needs, or he's not up for it because he's a prude???
Which is it?

Sorry to be so blunt, but the whole 'honour until death do you part' thing includes doing everything possible to make the marriage work, in health and in sickness, BOTH people.

You're just bitter.

 

[warrior queen]

You're just bitter.

I'm not bitter
I just don't understand why people think it's ok to neglect their partners needs.

I always say, don't get married until you have seen your intended partner unwell. It's a sure-fire way to know how selfish they really are.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I'm not bitter
I just don't understand why people think it's ok to neglect their partners needs.

I always say, don't get married until you have seen your intended partner unwell. It's a sure-fire way to know how selfish they really are.

Is that why he left you? Because you're sick all the time?

 

[warrior queen]

Is that why he left you? Because you're sick all the time?

Um, hello? I left him.....

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Um, hello? I left him.....

So the whole "Sorry to be so blunt, but the whole 'honour until death do you part' thing includes doing everything possible to make the marriage work, in health and in sickness, BOTH people" doesn't really apply to you?