sex without intercourse

[sinopsis]

My girlfriend isn't ready to have intercourse yet which is fine by me. We still have sex alot, oral, hands, breasts etc. We are still being inovative and trying new things but I wanted to get some more ideas. Does anyone know some good things to try, or techniques, or a site that might suggest ideas. Anything really, just whip ideas in the air.

Thanks

 

[Krinaia]

A particular male I've been with would prop his knee up then make me ride his knee, bringing myself to orgasm... very erotic.

 

[midwestyankee]

My lover enjoys oiling up my lower back and ass and then riding me while giving me a massage. It's a technique that I remember reading was a favorite of Marilyn Monroe's, so that could be a nice add-on to your mental imagery as you lie there being humped and massaged.

 

[DuckLover]

I love straddling my gf while we're both naked. Then she can stroke my cock while I A) play with her tits, B) reach back and finger her pussy and/or ass, or C) both. We still get all the eye contact and can thus really adapt to what we see the other enjoying.

Adding toys to your relationship can be another fun way to spice things up. So can reading sex stories, co-posting/surfing on Lit, and watching erotica. I've also really enjoyed writing sex stories for/about my gf and then reading them aloud to her.

 

[Carnus]

It has bee a while, but I used to love her on her stomach as I slid between the cheeks of her ass. There is always the between the thighs, almost sex and if you do it right you rub her clit as well as get yourself off.

Carnus

 

[ldlarry52]

Try a lap dance. You wear boxer shorts she wears some sexy pants. With you sitting she sits with her back to you on your lap. While you fondle her tits, ass and whatever else you like. She humps you using the crack of her ass to rub your cock. You can finger her clit to get her off while her humping gets you off. It's the closest thing to actually fucking. The motion and contact feels great. LDLarry52

 

[WallyLlama]

Hmmm... since this is literotica

Try writing "stories" for each other...

Might even develop it into some roleplaying... change the foreplay so to speak.

To paraphrase my sig line... find some knew ways to get to getting off.

There might be a nice "fringe benefit" in that you'll be communicating at a different level... about things you like, don't like, etc.

 

[lovechild27]

tit fucking is also fantastic....

 

[James G 5]

In parts of Europe, especially Italy, it's common for people to engage in anal sex and keep vaginal virginity for marriage
Maybe your girl would be open to anal?

 

[Dr. Tentakelliebe]

tit fucking is also fantastic....

yes it is.

 

[Gravitino]

Well after reading thru all the options presented to you hear, if you try them all, i'll be dam surprised if she's not begging you to "put it in".

 

[GeorgeWBush]

Another thing to do is have your g/f atanding with her leggs closed thight an bent over you slide your
dick inbetween her leggs like you were fucking but not entering with her leggs tight it feels good and you can play with her clit and pussy at the sametime.

 

[Dr. Tentakelliebe]

Well after reading thru all the options presented to you hear, if you try them all, i'll be dam surprised if she's not begging you to "put it in".

also try kissing her to orgasim. either sex can do this but you need a lot of time. from the inner thigh around the knee or from the nipple and continue until you reach just next to the genitals hover there kissing some people go ahead and have oral then others prefer to really kiss the organs until orgasim. just see what works

 

[dollface007]

Well after reading thru all the options presented to you hear, if you try them all, i'll be dam surprised if she's not begging you to "put it in".

As a girl who was once in the situation, i can say that this will probably happen if you do "everything but." So act like a good little boyscout and be prepared

 

[lycanthropedude]

Great ideas one and all...but the obvious hasn't been said...

Currently my wife and i are in different states(A move that went to hell from the start) so we have been a part for a little over a month. we talk on the phone every day and when we are able (both of us having some privacy) engage in phone sex. i had a little trouble at first, but now she multiples up to 10 nearly every time. plus, as wally stated, we are communicating much better than ever before. ie...she never even considered anal, but after a particularly hot session she is greatly anticipating having me inside her ass.

then to the massage and kissing to orgasm idea...my wifes favorite "extra curricular" activity involves me tieing her arms down (if i don't she can't help but attack me) and blindfolding her. i start by giving her a sponge bath, then move to the massage mixed with kisses. from kissing each toe then moving slowly up her leg, safely skirting her genitals, and descending down the other leg, back to the belly, she loves having me rub her stomach while i kiss and tongue her belly button,...in general, i stay away from any sensitive areas until i have covered every other inch of skin on her body

also she enjoys when i use the head of my cock to rub circles around her clit, but unless your gf is very comfortable with you, she'll probaly be afraid that you could just pop it in from there if you really wanted to...

all in all, just talk to her...not about sex...just about her, what she wants out of life and out of ya'lls relationship (i'm not saying lie to her by trying to be sweet and a good listener, but honestly talk) , if you two are truly in love with each other then intercourse will come naturally, and some of the best orgasms i've had came from watching my wife get off... good luck

 

[DuckLover]

Wow! Great post Lycanthropedude! I wholeheartedly agree.

SG and I started out in a LDR and would often have phone sex. It got extremely hot and allowed us to try out fantasies in a safe way. You and your gf could even go all the way on the phone if you wanted.

Anything that encourages communication in your relationship will be good. That can be phone sex, cybersex, or writing each other stories. It can (and should) also be talking over meals, remembering to keep going on traditional dates, and talking during/after cuddle time.

Don't rush into intercourse. Yes, it's wonderful, but often once it happens it becomes the focus and end-all of a relationship to the exclusion of all the magical joy of making out and dating.

 

[Dr. Tentakelliebe]

Great ideas one and all...but the obvious hasn't been said...

Currently my wife and i are in different states(A move that went to hell from the start) so we have been a part for a little over a month. we talk on the phone every day and when we are able (both of us having some privacy) engage in phone sex. i had a little trouble at first, but now she multiples up to 10 nearly every time. plus, as wally stated, we are communicating much better than ever before. ie...she never even considered anal, but after a particularly hot session she is greatly anticipating having me inside her ass.

then to the massage and kissing to orgasm idea...my wifes favorite "extra curricular" activity involves me tieing her arms down (if i don't she can't help but attack me) and blindfolding her. i start by giving her a sponge bath, then move to the massage mixed with kisses. from kissing each toe then moving slowly up her leg, safely skirting her genitals, and descending down the other leg, back to the belly, she loves having me rub her stomach while i kiss and tongue her belly button,...in general, i stay away from any sensitive areas until i have covered every other inch of skin on her body

also she enjoys when i use the head of my cock to rub circles around her clit, but unless your gf is very comfortable with you, she'll probaly be afraid that you could just pop it in from there if you really wanted to...

all in all, just talk to her...not about sex...just about her, what she wants out of life and out of ya'lls relationship (i'm not saying lie to her by trying to be sweet and a good listener, but honestly talk) , if you two are truly in love with each other then intercourse will come naturally, and some of the best orgasms i've had came from watching my wife get off... good luck

that is great for you

 

[lycanthropedude]

maester...did i since sarcasm...if it wasn't meant that way i apologize for the accusation.

ducklover...thank you for the compliment...

sinopis...i wish you well with your relationship, you've gotten alot of great advice so far...please keep us posted on how things are going.

 

[Dr. Tentakelliebe]

maester...did i since sarcasm...if it wasn't meant that way i apologize for the accusation.

ducklover...thank you for the compliment...

sinopis...i wish you well with your relationship, you've gotten alot of great advice so far...please keep us posted on how things are going.

nope no sarcasm

 

[Krinaia]

i think sinopsis abandoned us after his single post shame for all this good advice to go to waste.



_edited to add, I'll make it worth everyone's while by trying out all of your techniques sometime .... just doing what I can _

 

[Dr. Tentakelliebe]

i think sinopsis abandoned us after his single post shame for all this good advice to go to waste.



_edited to add, I'll make it worth everyone's while by trying out all of your techniques sometime .... just doing what I can _

lol

Trust me it will not go to waste

 

[plesmone]

Anyone ever try an evening in bed without using your hands, fingers, elbows, ect.. Have to inprovise your way to orgasm

 

[Dr. Tentakelliebe]

Anyone ever try an evening in bed without using your hands, fingers, elbows, ect.. Have to inprovise your way to orgasm

so is that like a kinda football/soccer sex

 

[plesmone]

so is that like a kinda football/soccer sex

I was thinking a little bit more about lips, tongue and teeth rather than kicking the shit out of your parner

 

[Dr. Tentakelliebe]

I was thinking a little bit more about lips, tongue and teeth rather than kicking the shit out of your parner

LMAO! oh man yeah i got that it was just oh man the the no hands thing that is great man LOL