sex shop

[virgin24]

I want to go to a sex shop but I have nvr been before and I was wondering if anyone had any advice.

 

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[MeekMe]

Treat it like going to any other shop. Act as you would in any public space. Browse, be polite and make your purchases. Most stores have websites these days so google the shop nearest you and see if they have a site, you may get some helpful info or even reviews.

 

[HisArpy]

Also, don't be afraid to talk to the employees. There is nothing embarrassing about shopping there.

 

[Nezhul]

yeah. they work there. They won't give a second thought to any questions about the products you may ask.

In fact, creat the merchandise there as a helth care items or something. It's not embarrassing. Or rather, no one there will think bad about you.

 

[MoleskineScribbler]

Also, don't be afraid to talk to the employees. There is nothing embarrassing about shopping there.

In fact, it's often quite hot to ask shop employees questions. It's quite liberating.

 

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[MeekMe]

I don't mind sex shops, but there aren't very many that carry quality items. Ordering online from companies that deal in quality is all around less stressful and usually less expensive. I've been in small weird-part-of-town sex shops and large mega stores. :shrugs: I'd rather stay at home and order online. There's some novelty in going though.

 

[submit4pleasure]

I agree with MeekMe. You can get the same things online cheaper and usually with a much better selection. The only real difference is that you can actually physically check the merchandise out.......And you might get to have the fun experience of buying a vibrator from that stuck up bitch from high school who works at the sex shop now....

 

[Nezhul]

Many of the good products of sex industry are not even available through retail sexshops. Only online. So yeah, it's the best way to go about it.

And even if soemthing is available - you can look it up and read all sorts of reviews online before buying it. That's always a good thing to do, because sometimes the reviews touch up on things that you wouldn't even think about otherwise. Like cleaning issues or other such stuff.

 

[Lascivity]

Sex shops are good if you want to browse. But they tend to have an extremely limited range of often not-so-great products. You'll end up with much better equipment shopping online. That said, if you want to go to one just go. They are shops, just like any others.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

My experience with the staff at sex shops is that they are friendly and helpful and rarely surprised by questions asked. I also find them to have high prices and minimal selection, so online is better. Read the reviews online for lots of toys before buying, though.

 

[Nezhul]

also if online shop doesn't have reviews - get the model name of the toy you want and google for reviews.

If there is no model name or there's no reviews - chances are that you are looking at the lowest quality product.

 

[werdsmith]

just beware that if you *ever* buy anything on Amazon, you could possibly get an email at your normal/ day job email account asking you to "review" your "insert something you don't want anyone you work with to know you bought" should you have to log onto your work email on the big screen to pull up a document.

just saying....lol

this is a good reason to buy at a physical location, with cash, especially if you're buying something potentially embarrassing.

lol

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

In regards to embarrassment, I have to say..

I worked in an industry where we went into people's homes all day long. Each field employee was entering 6 to 15 residences per day. We saw it all. Super clean to super filthy. The thing is, you become so inured that nothing phases you. You really don't care unless you have health concerns. The sex shop employees are the same. They really, really don't care if you are there for the first time. Or the 90th. They will have a more favourable opinion of you if you say "this is my first time" and ask any and all questions you may have. Believe me, they will hold that in a much higher esteem then if you try and act all cool and worldly. They will see right through that.

All that said, they would also accept cool and worldly act. It won't be the first time they see that, either

So what was your concern? Did we cover it? Or were you looking for some kind of recommendations on what to buy?

 

[may_I_please]

Why do you want to go to a sex shop? Is it for the experience or because you want something specifically?

I've been in a couple of sex shops and tbh found them a little tacky and not quite as fun as I was looking for. Far more fun shopping online with your partner and a glass of wine

 

[Nezhul]

just beware that if you *ever* buy anything on Amazon, you could possibly get an email at your normal/ day job email account asking you to "review" your "insert something you don't want anyone you work with to know you bought" should you have to log onto your work email on the big screen to pull up a document.

just saying....lol

this is a good reason to buy at a physical location, with cash, especially if you're buying something potentially embarrassing.

lol

Just don't order from work?
Otherwise, what's the problem with your personal e-mail receiving such messages? Wha are you to hide from, your mom?

The problem with amazon is that you need to be very careful not to purchase a chinese fake. A lot of toys have doubles. Sometimes they work just fine, and are cheaper than the original, so it's a win-win. Other times they will be faulty, and you would not get your money back.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

PSA:

Don't forget to look for toys that are phthalate free, regardless of where you buy them. Phthalates are unfortunately still in a lot of Chinese (and other) sex toy products because they are marked as "Novelty" items and therefore ostensibly never intended for intimate contact.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I always worry about creeping out the staff, simply by asking for any particular item. I'm self conscious about not wanting to come across as some kind of gross perv.

 

[lucky_guy_49]

My wife and I are both 60, and in nearly 40 years of marriage I'm not sure she was ever in a sex shop, though one time she sat out in the car while I shopped in one. We've gone to a few in the past couple of years though, always while on vacation where there's no chance she would see someone she knew.

The first time we went, the employees in the shop spent all their time talking to a regular customer and we were left alone. Might have been a good thing, not sure. Anyway, we were free to browse the dildos and picked one for her, made our purchase and left. The experience was somewhat neutral, she got only slightly turned on being there, but was just as glad to leave again.

Last year we went to a sex shop that I found on Google Maps and she almost didn't go in with me, but decided she would, to show a little interest in what turned me on. We had forgotten to take any sex toys with us on vacation and were pretty horny knowing we had the whole beach house to ourselves after spending a week surrounded by family. The shop turned out to be a bit tacky, small selection, high prices, and a staff that ignored us. After less than 5 minutes we left, both disappointed.

When we got back in the car, I looked up another store a few miles away and she said, Let's Go! When we pulled up, a young female employee was outside enjoying the weather since there were no customers at the time. She led us inside and asked what we were looking for. I was a bit tongue-tied telling her I wanted a slim anal dildo for me, and she took charge: "So you want a DONG! Well we have plenty to choose from, let's go look!" She showed us different lengths, girths, and materials and let us feel them to help us choose. As it was evident it was for MY ass, she asked my wife, So are you going to peg him? Do you have a harness yet? My wife, who has never been comfortable talking about our sex life with anyone, giggled and said, No, not sure I’m quite ready for that yet! The clerk said, Well maybe you can get that next time. I just got a new harness and my boyfriend and I are doing more anal experimentation. I can’t wait to fuck his ass!

I picked out the dildo I wanted, and the clerk headed for the register. My wife protested, saying, What about ME? I need a toy too! So I stood back a bit and watched as my wife easily and eagerly discussed her need for a fat dildo and tried hefting and stroking several. She had done a 180 since reluctantly agreeing to go in the first shop, and was bubbly and horny as we left with our purchases. After we used them that night to great success, she insisted I write the store owner to tell them what a great experience we had there.

So my point in this long reply, aside from it turns me on to recall and relate it is that if you do not find the first shop you go into to be comfortable for you, keep looking! We’re headed back to the same beach in a couple months, and I guarantee you we’ll be going back to that shop…maybe even for the harness!

I later found the same items online for maybe 1/3 lower price, but we could never have had the experience of discussing and touching them to help us decide, nor the friendly and encouraging young lady who felt so comfortable talking about ass fucking. If you have the option, I’d recommend going to a brick and mortar sex shop. Also helps support small business if you go to an independent shop.

Good luck!

 

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Denny

My wife and I are way too old to be going into sex shops, having sex, or even on a porn site talking sex. But our minds are still too young so we do what our minds tell us and our bodies just go along.
My wife has been in so callled sex shops even before she was legally allowed because I'm two years older. We called them Book Stores or Adult Video Stores. Later we called many glory hole shops for other reasons.
So my wife's been everywhere, been embarrassed, been treated like a whore, and been treated quite well. Dressing like a stripper or whore has never helped.
About the only times she was really embarrased was when living in Florida and attending a well known truck stop/ restaurant/ strip club with a small adult video, magazine, and toy area. She sort of got upset talking to a ten year old... maybe 21 year old boy about large dildos and vibrators!
As a grown retard who loves embarrasing my wife, I didn't help when I told her maybe she should demo some of them for the obviously confused kid!

 

[tryn2Bgood]

Hi. The first time I went to a sex shop I was a probably 18, embarrassed, nervous, and had no idea what I was looking for. Or what kinds of things I might find there. The sales lady greeted me as soon as I walked in, was very friendly, and asked if she could help me find anything. I decided to play innocent, and lied by telling her I needed to get a gift for my friend's Bachelorette party. Yeah, I was a chicken, but I really didn't have a lot of experience and it made it a lot easier for me to ask questions and browse around without feeling like I was being judged. Now days, I have no problem walking in and asking for whatever I need right away. Most of the shops I've been in have been very nice, but I have also been to a few that made me feel uncomfortable (guys working in the store - asking very personal questions under the pretense of helping me find the right product). I almost always order online now though. Simply because it's more convenient for me. You usually do pay less and get better products for your money. User reviews are good too for products you're unfamiliar with.

 

[SherylSunshine]

To me they are just like any other business that provides products for customers. There's really no need to be nervous. They're not there to judge you, they just want your business.

Good luck.

 

[Jaime_H]

We have an Ann Summers shop close by.

I wanted to try a Fleshlight and found the assistant more than helpful after I had got over over the "Oo-er, we are talking about masturbation" thing.

Yes, they are selling high street products, treat it as that kind of experience.....

 

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