Sex , Sex, Sex - is that all?

[TonyG]

We post to the BB about how we enjoy various forms of sex, how much we want sex and how often we don't get enough sex. But, many of us also express an opinion that we only want sex with a loving and caring partner. It suggests the feeling that as strong as one's sexual desires might be that the desire for "love" is stronger.

I'm sure this has been discussed before but not while I have been a member. So, what does one do when one's partner does not match our sexual appetite? Live with it, turn to BB's and chat rooms, reach a compromise with your partner, don't get involved in the first place or seek other alternatives. How do you control your sexual frustrations?

 

[Countess DeWinter]

When hubby and I married 8 years ago, we were in basically the same place. We had sex constantly. Perhaps that was the novelty of the relationship, perhaps he was just 23. For whatever reason, I loved it. However, as the years went by, his drive diminished and mine revved up.
Now, he's the only guy in his shop who turns it down. If they knew he turns it down in a week more than they get it in a month, they'd probably string him up!
So, what do I do? I, um, enjoy myself often. I come to the BB and flirt or play in the srp's.
Recently, he's come to realize that if he's not giving me what I need, someone else may come along who will and I might not be able to resist that. Yeah, I'd rather have a loving stable relationship, but it's hard to think about that when your body is full of raging hormones so bad that you've become intimate with the spin cycle of your washing machine!

 

[Merelan]

Oh my god... you are having an affair with the washing machine! He cheated on me, said I was the only one who could turn him like that.
I am heart broken, devastated, next you will tell me your also sleeping with the toaster!
Countess, do I count as someone who will come along and help you out? Sigh...
Sex, sex... in all it's infinite varieties cannot compete with a long lasting, enduring love. A connection that goes beyond the bedroom, or where ever else you do it. It is there in the bad times too, the times you need someone to hold your hand and let you cry, or to leave you alone.
Yup, me love sex... any kind, all kinds, anytiume, anywhere...

but the love I get beats all that hollow.

 

[brazenblaze]

Don't hate me... but I guess I've been VERY lucky. Hubby and I have been together 7 years, and not only have we fallen deeper in love, but the sex just keeps getting better. We both have gone through some slow periods, but what has saved us is talking. If I'm having a dry spell, he gets out a book and says, "find something new you want to try." and the same goes if he is running down. After seven years, we still haven't exhausted all of the "something new's" out there.

The love is the key...without that deeper emotion, neither of us would have the courage to admit to or try some of things we have. Trust...also helps. He knows I chat and I know he chats, however we look at it as a form of research for new things for US.

Damn...I miss that man...only 27 more days.
If anyone feels the earth move on Feb 2, don't worry it is just us. *big evil grin*