Sex Party

[banes27]

Hi, a question for those who've arranged sex parties before, at home preferably, exactly how did you go about arranging it? For example, who did you invite? How did you spread the word? How did the actual night go? Were any rules established formally or did you allow the night to flow naturally with limits established as and when issues arose?

We're not thinking about holding anything like this any time soon, we just like to gain a bit more knowledge ridiculously early on. We're looking into swingers clubs as well and the best ways to initiate 3somes. We talk about this thing regularly but with pretty limited experience in this kind of area there's not much we can decide on based on what we alone know

So, yeah, any information'd be great

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Before diving in headfirst, you need to get your feet wet, wade around the shallow end for a little bit, and learn a few strokes. In other words, before hosting a sex party, you need to first get a little experience in the lifestyle so that you know what you are getting yourselves into.

How you get started depends to some extent upon where you live. Generally speaking, it would be best to join an online swinger's site that has a concentration of members in your area. Fill out a profile, providing generous amounts of information about the two of you, and include recent, clear pictures. You can hide your faces, but be prepared to show other pictures that include your faces once you have made contact with anyone.

If there is a club near you, become a member and visit a few times. But be prepared, onsite clubs can be costly. When you go, be social. Meet people. The people you meet can introduce you to others.

When you are finally ready to host a party, invite the people that you have already met through the swing clubs and online services. You can invite the people that you have already met by sending an e-mail with the details. Have them RSVP so that you have an idea as to how many people will be attending. If you belong to an online service, you can usually post an advertisement for your party somewhere on the website. Require anyone who is interested in attending to contact you for details. If you leave it open to the general public, you will end up with 50 single guys and very few couples or ladies.

As far as rules, what did you have in mind? No fucking in the front lawn? Most experienced swingers are discreet and know not to make a scene. As guests arrive, give them a quick tour of the house and show them which areas are open to fucking and which areas are off-limits. Remind the smokers to go outside and smoke, and to get dressed before they do so unless you have a private backyard. Specify on the invitation that the party is BYOB.

Send me a pm if you have any other questions.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Before diving in headfirst, you need to get your feet wet, wade around the shallow end for a little bit, and learn a few strokes. In other words, before hosting a sex party, you need to first get a little experience in the lifestyle so that you know what you are getting yourselves into.

How you get started depends to some extent upon where you live. Generally speaking, it would be best to join an online swinger's site that has a concentration of members in your area. Fill out a profile, providing generous amounts of information about the two of you, and include recent, clear pictures. You can hide your faces, but be prepared to show other pictures that include your faces once you have made contact with anyone.

If there is a club near you, become a member and visit a few times. But be prepared, onsite clubs can be costly. When you go, be social. Meet people. The people you meet can introduce you to others.

When you are finally ready to host a party, invite the people that you have already met through the swing clubs and online services. You can invite the people that you have already met by sending an e-mail with the details. Have them RSVP so that you have an idea as to how many people will be attending. If you belong to an online service, you can usually post an advertisement for your party somewhere on the website. Require anyone who is interested in attending to contact you for details. If you leave it open to the general public, you will end up with 50 single guys and very few couples or ladies.

As far as rules, what did you have in mind? No fucking in the front lawn? Most experienced swingers are discreet and know not to make a scene. As guests arrive, give them a quick tour of the house and show them which areas are open to fucking and which areas are off-limits. Remind the smokers to go outside and smoke, and to get dressed before they do so unless you have a private backyard. Specify on the invitation that the party is BYOB.

Send me a pm if you have any other questions.

Solid advice.

And you'll need to provide a place and method for people to stow their valuables, ie wallets, phones, etc.

Small, lockable cupboards are pretty cheap if you don't have something already.

 

[banes27]

Before diving in headfirst, you need to get your feet wet, wade around the shallow end for a little bit, and learn a few strokes. In other words, before hosting a sex party, you need to first get a little experience in the lifestyle so that you know what you are getting yourselves into.

How you get started depends to some extent upon where you live. Generally speaking, it would be best to join an online swinger's site that has a concentration of members in your area. Fill out a profile, providing generous amounts of information about the two of you, and include recent, clear pictures. You can hide your faces, but be prepared to show other pictures that include your faces once you have made contact with anyone.

If there is a club near you, become a member and visit a few times. But be prepared, onsite clubs can be costly. When you go, be social. Meet people. The people you meet can introduce you to others.

When you are finally ready to host a party, invite the people that you have already met through the swing clubs and online services. You can invite the people that you have already met by sending an e-mail with the details. Have them RSVP so that you have an idea as to how many people will be attending. If you belong to an online service, you can usually post an advertisement for your party somewhere on the website. Require anyone who is interested in attending to contact you for details. If you leave it open to the general public, you will end up with 50 single guys and very few couples or ladies.

As far as rules, what did you have in mind? No fucking in the front lawn? Most experienced swingers are discreet and know not to make a scene. As guests arrive, give them a quick tour of the house and show them which areas are open to fucking and which areas are off-limits. Remind the smokers to go outside and smoke, and to get dressed before they do so unless you have a private backyard. Specify on the invitation that the party is BYOB.

Send me a pm if you have any other questions.

Thanks for the advice Fortunately we're still in the talking and looking around phase and have no intention of diving head first into this. I think it took about 6 months of discussion and research before we tried out a threesome and we were lucky enough for that to go well enough that both us and the other guy are up for it again

And thanks for "If you leave it open to the general public, you will end up with 50 single guys and very few couples or ladies", we were thinking that'd be a major problem there, in addition to the obvious things like some of the people being absolute jerks during and later on, blabbing about it when we didn't want them to, etc. We prefer the "people we know (or are getting to know)" route with this kind of thing

But yeah, thanks for the advice Baby steps

 

[CNYCarol]

In the early years, it was strictly among women I already knew. With the internet, it got easier and weirder. I've had guys that have answered ads, and even met trannies that insist they are women.

I've had a party for several years now. I'll explain how mine goes and you can modify to your hearts content.

You've heard of Girls Night Out, mines called "Girls Night In", which I limit to 8 guests.

The first thing is to find a Hostess, and explain what's expected and what to expect. Diane and I generally start interviewing in October. Our hostess is paid and we explain that payment covers her time UNTIL 9PM ONLY! If she decides to stay after 9, she does so without further compensation. I have only had 1 over the years that didn't stay to play. ...and several have returned the money saying they will do it for free!

Our guests start arriving around 6:30 and our Hostess collects their keys as everyone comes in. I'll be darned if I'm having a party where people leave early DRUNK!

I like my Hostess to greet the guests at the door and take their jackets and offer them a drink. Our hostess is scantily clad in a short skirt and frilly panties with a provacative top.

When serving drinks, our hostess bends at the waist providing ample cleavage to view and a tantilizing bumm to those behind her.

First I explain the agenda, then we do a round robin of introductions.

After introductions we play "Spin the Bottle"

At 7 our hostess also removes the panties revealing a satin thong which makes serving drinks a bit more tittilating.

At about 8, we start a round of "Truth or Dare" with the understanding that any clothing removed remains off until after midnight.

At 8 the thong comes off and our hostess is really getting hit on, half the gang is naked, the rest is wishing they were.

The last one I had the hostess was serving a drink and she just kind of stayed bent over waay to long, I looked at her and her eyes were glazed and she was breathing heavy. When I looked behind her the eldest guest had 2 fingers working her over.

I told the hostess it wasn't 9 yet and she said, "If she gets me off, you can have the fee back"!

I only have 6 rules:

1. pain
2. humiliation
3. potty games
4. and animals are forbidden
5. if you are not dressed you are still open to play
6. NO means NO!

At 8am I serve breakfast wearing only an apron, before some drift off for home. (and yes I have had to ask someone to finish breakfast because someone else asked me to play)