Sex Observations -- Male Opinions Appreciated

[LaJovena]

I'm working on a new submission to LE and would appreciate hearing thoughts from some of our male readers.

What are some thoughts that might pass thru your mind during sex, particularly if you're older and w/ a much younger woman?

Can a man really tell if he's just popped a girl's cherry?

Also, if there are some good stories specifically about this subject that you'd want to point me to, I'd appreciate it.

 

[Sethleham]

Younger women tend to be very exciting for me because of a couple reasons. The first, and probably the strongest pull, is that I just turned 31 and I'm realizing I'm not even considered a young adult anymore. With that, I feel younger and more alive with younger women. Secondly, women are a lot different at my age, then say when they were freshman in college, because a lot of them tend to worry about everything and either have kids to take care of, or have had so many bad relationships that they forgot how to have fun when they're with somebody. (Of course, I'm speaking through personal experience, though others might have a different take). Frankly, though, a lot of this turns me off because it just seems to be just adding more stress onto my life... And what i'm looking for in a woman is to have someone I can enjoy time with and a person that doesn't stress me out more than I am already.

After I had turned 30, my mid-life crisis hit me because the day of my 30th birthday I ended up screwing up my back. I felt OLD. But soon after a younger friend of mine went on a date and at the last minute she asked him if there was somebody who could go out with her friend. I hated the idea at first (Blind date? Jesus...) but I decided what the hell. It turned out, however, that she was a very hot, fresh 18 year old who couldn't even drink legally yet. I expected her to be bubble-headed, but she turned out smart and shy. At first, anyway. When we got back to our apartment she boldly decided to sleep with me and just dropped her draws right after I closed my bedroom door.

I was so excited, that all I could think about was how lucky I was and how nice it would be to sleep with this beautiful, young creature. And when she took my cock out and began to play, I almost forgot what it was like to have an eager, clumbsy girl trying her best to please me, asking questions that she wasn't quite sure about yet, and being happy to teach her a thing or two about men's bodies. Sleeping with her made me feel proud of myself (especially being able to keep up the sexual stamina, which was the first thing I worried about; I mean, when I was 18 I could cum up to ten times in a row, but that, of course, has lessoned greatly) and it felt like I was with somebody "fresher" than I had been with for awhile. My recently ex-girlfriend had begun to let herself go, which was a shame.

When I was 16, my girlfriend was a virgin and I couldn't tell if I popped her cherry. After I entered her, she told me it hurt but it was beginning to feel better. That's the only way I really could tell. Her wetness made it easier to slip in. But another girl I slept with got horny, but she needed direct stimulation to get her wet. Her pussy felt like a vice grip--way tighter than my "only virgin" girlfriend. I would have sworn she was a virgin because I couldn't even get it in her until I realized I had to finger-fuck her until she opened up enough to take me.

Hoped that helped!

Seth

 

[supahstoopid]

For what it's worth...

I am--and by assumption, men are--very visual when it comes to sex. Hence the insanely large ratio between men and women who subscribe to porn, frequent erotic dancing clubs, etc. In this light, when having sex with a woman, my thoughts generally one of appreciation of the female form. I love curves and I love a woman who undulates and writhes in passion during sex. Sex in the dark is never as good. A man loves watching a woman have sex. Permutations of this are generally regarded as fetishes, although I'm not sure if that applies to bondage. Fetishes, are often where specifics lie, simply because it involves focusing on something. I'm not sure if having sex with a younger woman is any different in this regard. Younger women tend to be less adventurous, but certainly not exclusively. Thus the man's role can be more dominant in those cases, giving instruction etc. As I said, I have my own specific thoughts, but in general, I believe much of it leads back to the visual impact during the act.

 

[bobdee1224]

what is a cherry?

Having never had sex with a virgin I may be unqualified to answer this, but I do believe if the hymen is fully intact there would be some resistance that would be noticable. However in an age where most women engage in fairly vigirous athletic activity it may be difficult to find a young girl with a fully intact hymen.
Some cultures prize virginity more than others.It is my understanding that in Japan doctors in the past reattached the hymens of a soon to be married female so that a bloody sheet would be available for display. Therefore it may be impossible to tell if a woman is truly a virgin.I also heard that in some cases a hymen is so thick that penetration is very difficult and even painful for the male and in rare cases must be surgically penetrated. These may be myths. I don't know.
I believe sex with a willing virgin should be an enjoyable experience. I imagine the vagina would be very tight. Eroticism is probably 90% mental and we live in an age which values youth above all other qualities so the idea of youth not just the fact of youth becomes a powerful aphrodisiac.
On the other hand virginity precludes experience and the best sex I've had was with women that were both enthusiastic and experienced enough to know how to please me and relay to me how to best please them.

 

[JamesSD]

I'm working on a new submission to LE and would appreciate hearing thoughts from some of our male readers.

What are some thoughts that might pass thru your mind during sex, particularly if you're older and w/ a much younger woman?

Can a man really tell if he's just popped a girl's cherry?

Also, if there are some good stories specifically about this subject that you'd want to point me to, I'd appreciate it.

I've been two women's first, the first time being my own first sexual experience. Everything was really new then, so I wasn't able to point to a specific moment where she was "popped". She rode horses, which has a reputation for rupturing the hymen on its own. Also she was really tight from being tense, so getting into her at all was challenging period.

The second time, again, I didn't notice a particular moment. She was a hardcore dancer, so it's likely her hymen wasn't fully intact.

So my answer is: no, I couldn't tell.