Canadian Stud
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- Aug 17, 2003
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Perusing the threads around here, a theme that appears time and time again is that of married people who are unhappy with their sex lives. Since I too, fall into this category...I thought starting a thread on the topic might be in order. Any thoughts, experiences, and even suggestions would be appreciated. I'll start with my situation.
I've been with my wife for seven years...and married for five. While we certainly haven't stopped having sex, the frequency has dropped steadily. From 4-5 times a week when we first started. Then probably 2-3 times a week after we got married. A couple of years after that it fell to about once a week. Now, we're down to once every couple of weeks or so.
And not only has the frequency declined, so has...shall I say...the quality of our sexual relations. We used to spend entire evenings in bed...touching and kissing and playing. We used to watch porn together...or read stories to each other. We have adult games and toys that haven't been touched in years. I used to come home from working late and she would be in bed waiting for me...masturbating. But now, when we do have sex...it's evolved into the 15 minute, let's get our rocks off and get to sleep variety.
The most frustrating part however, is the fact that my wife still turns me on so much. Just feeling her touch, her body pressed against mine, her kiss...gets me sooo hot. But when I try and pursue it further, I get the ol' "I'm tired" or "I don't feel up to it" or "I have a busy day tommorrow, I need some sleep". Hell, back in the day...if she wasn't up to it and she knew I was horny...she would at least take care of me with her hand. That hasn't happened in a long time.
The thing that really concerns me is...as much as I love my wife...I have been thinking alot lately about stepping out on her. Even though I'm in my mid-30's, my sex drive is as high as ever. I masturbate once a day...sometimes more if I'm really horny. Lately however, masturbation is bcoming less satisfying. I need a flesh and blood woman whom I can please...and who can please me back. I fear that if it's not my wife...it may be someone else.
I've been with my wife for seven years...and married for five. While we certainly haven't stopped having sex, the frequency has dropped steadily. From 4-5 times a week when we first started. Then probably 2-3 times a week after we got married. A couple of years after that it fell to about once a week. Now, we're down to once every couple of weeks or so.
And not only has the frequency declined, so has...shall I say...the quality of our sexual relations. We used to spend entire evenings in bed...touching and kissing and playing. We used to watch porn together...or read stories to each other. We have adult games and toys that haven't been touched in years. I used to come home from working late and she would be in bed waiting for me...masturbating. But now, when we do have sex...it's evolved into the 15 minute, let's get our rocks off and get to sleep variety.
The most frustrating part however, is the fact that my wife still turns me on so much. Just feeling her touch, her body pressed against mine, her kiss...gets me sooo hot. But when I try and pursue it further, I get the ol' "I'm tired" or "I don't feel up to it" or "I have a busy day tommorrow, I need some sleep". Hell, back in the day...if she wasn't up to it and she knew I was horny...she would at least take care of me with her hand. That hasn't happened in a long time.
The thing that really concerns me is...as much as I love my wife...I have been thinking alot lately about stepping out on her. Even though I'm in my mid-30's, my sex drive is as high as ever. I masturbate once a day...sometimes more if I'm really horny. Lately however, masturbation is bcoming less satisfying. I need a flesh and blood woman whom I can please...and who can please me back. I fear that if it's not my wife...it may be someone else.
