CravingBBWs
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Everyone here has been super supportive, so I thought I'd try this out. Just need to get this off my chest. For reference, I'm a 45yo married guy, 5'9" average-to-athletic build. Maybe not hot, but probably good-looking. Several of my wife's friends have joked about "borrowing" me for a night when they were all drunk together. Not sure that's anyone's serious proposition, but I'll take it as a compliment. We've been married 20 years.
I do try to be grateful for what I have (given some of the BS my friends share with me about their wives/GFs,) but I think my sex life is "circling the drain" - has this happened to you? Maybe it's a normal part of aging? Maybe something else entirely? Here are some things that have happened over the last year that make me think my wife would rather just stop altogether. For the record, we have fairly open discussions about most things.
First, you should know a little about the past... I looooove variety and taking time to tease. She's always been game and fairly submissive... just along for the ride, and seemed happily so. My favorite positions and activities start when she has her back to me... backrubs, neck nibbling, brushing my cock against her booty... that sort of thing. One of the most sensual times we've spent together in the past was when a backrub evolved into her grinding her BBW ass on my cock. At some point along the way, I didn't even have to move. She used her ass to edge me slowly for an hour. Even after I came all over her back, she just kept going. Amazing. This is what I picture whenever someone says "wet and wild," because I'm fairly certain that's the most juice I've ever sprayed at one time.
Love hearing her breathing speed up slowly over time. She always smells wonderful. Everything about her is a feast for my senses. I love going down on her. She pulls my head up when she can't bear the tongue-teasing anymore and needs cock. Lately, she'll stop me a minute or two into anything like this and say "If you're in the mood for that, fine, but it's not doing much for me."
Fair enough. On the topic of what SHE wants, lately she'll say "just don't think too much about it." This usually results in missionary quickies (get the job done in 5m or less) since it becomes uncomfortable to talk or ask her anything beyond that. My cock is slightly above-average at 7 inches, and sometimes she'll tell me to drive deep into her, hold there and flex it. That's another thing she says she really likes. Happy to oblige, whatever her pleasure.
Lately, she won't ask what I want. A few years back, she would ask before my birthday would come up. I would always tell her sincerely I'd love a blowjob. She just won't. Last year, instead of the BJ I requested, she planned a weekend getaway. It was nice, but I need sex more than 3x a month, and definitely more than once during a weekend getaway. Also, to try something different than a missionary quickie once in a while.
My wife knows I have needs, and knows I masturbate frequently. It neither thrills her nor bothers her in any way.
She said she's open to seeing a therapist, which seems like a good sign. I saw one for 5 sessions (maybe not enough?) before I considered bringing my wife along, but the therapist seemed to disapprove of me voicing that sex lately was always a missionary quickie. I really don't think I said this in an insulting way... just matter-of-fact. What do I know about therapy other than it's supposed to be a safe place to speak your mind? What should you do when your fantasies and dreams are pushed away? Just smile because "hey, at least you're getting some (such as it is?)"
I stopped seeing the therapist since I don't need someone judging me disapprovingly for wanting something different in the bedroom. I did learn that I was "stonewalling," so I made sure to continue speaking about things openly with my wife - however unconfortable it might get. During the last session, the therapist asked me if I ever consider having an affair. I told her it would probably be more trouble than it was worth. I still consider other women sexually of course, but it never crosses my mind to speak to them about moving anything forward.
However, it did get me thinking about 6 or 7 years ago, we met an ex-GF of mine at my high-school reunion. She was getting a divorce at the time and seemed like she needed friendly support during a time she couldn't rely on her family to help with things. She and my wife seemed to get along. My wife encouraged me to help her move and even take her out for distraction, and I did a few times. A few months later, my wife asked about her, and I said we hadn't spoken in a while, so I figured she'd gotten her life back together. With a knowing smile, she said, "well, if anything happened between you two, just don't tell me about it."
Writing all this out has helped a lot. What has your experience been?
I do try to be grateful for what I have (given some of the BS my friends share with me about their wives/GFs,) but I think my sex life is "circling the drain" - has this happened to you? Maybe it's a normal part of aging? Maybe something else entirely? Here are some things that have happened over the last year that make me think my wife would rather just stop altogether. For the record, we have fairly open discussions about most things.
First, you should know a little about the past... I looooove variety and taking time to tease. She's always been game and fairly submissive... just along for the ride, and seemed happily so. My favorite positions and activities start when she has her back to me... backrubs, neck nibbling, brushing my cock against her booty... that sort of thing. One of the most sensual times we've spent together in the past was when a backrub evolved into her grinding her BBW ass on my cock. At some point along the way, I didn't even have to move. She used her ass to edge me slowly for an hour. Even after I came all over her back, she just kept going. Amazing. This is what I picture whenever someone says "wet and wild," because I'm fairly certain that's the most juice I've ever sprayed at one time.
Love hearing her breathing speed up slowly over time. She always smells wonderful. Everything about her is a feast for my senses. I love going down on her. She pulls my head up when she can't bear the tongue-teasing anymore and needs cock. Lately, she'll stop me a minute or two into anything like this and say "If you're in the mood for that, fine, but it's not doing much for me."
Fair enough. On the topic of what SHE wants, lately she'll say "just don't think too much about it." This usually results in missionary quickies (get the job done in 5m or less) since it becomes uncomfortable to talk or ask her anything beyond that. My cock is slightly above-average at 7 inches, and sometimes she'll tell me to drive deep into her, hold there and flex it. That's another thing she says she really likes. Happy to oblige, whatever her pleasure.
Lately, she won't ask what I want. A few years back, she would ask before my birthday would come up. I would always tell her sincerely I'd love a blowjob. She just won't. Last year, instead of the BJ I requested, she planned a weekend getaway. It was nice, but I need sex more than 3x a month, and definitely more than once during a weekend getaway. Also, to try something different than a missionary quickie once in a while.
My wife knows I have needs, and knows I masturbate frequently. It neither thrills her nor bothers her in any way.
She said she's open to seeing a therapist, which seems like a good sign. I saw one for 5 sessions (maybe not enough?) before I considered bringing my wife along, but the therapist seemed to disapprove of me voicing that sex lately was always a missionary quickie. I really don't think I said this in an insulting way... just matter-of-fact. What do I know about therapy other than it's supposed to be a safe place to speak your mind? What should you do when your fantasies and dreams are pushed away? Just smile because "hey, at least you're getting some (such as it is?)"
I stopped seeing the therapist since I don't need someone judging me disapprovingly for wanting something different in the bedroom. I did learn that I was "stonewalling," so I made sure to continue speaking about things openly with my wife - however unconfortable it might get. During the last session, the therapist asked me if I ever consider having an affair. I told her it would probably be more trouble than it was worth. I still consider other women sexually of course, but it never crosses my mind to speak to them about moving anything forward.
However, it did get me thinking about 6 or 7 years ago, we met an ex-GF of mine at my high-school reunion. She was getting a divorce at the time and seemed like she needed friendly support during a time she couldn't rely on her family to help with things. She and my wife seemed to get along. My wife encouraged me to help her move and even take her out for distraction, and I did a few times. A few months later, my wife asked about her, and I said we hadn't spoken in a while, so I figured she'd gotten her life back together. With a knowing smile, she said, "well, if anything happened between you two, just don't tell me about it."
Writing all this out has helped a lot. What has your experience been?