Sex isn't everything.

[BornAgainVrgin]

...Or maybe it is? I couldn't tell you.

The truth is I haven't had sex in a million years or at least it feels that way. I like to joke about it so I can feel better but in actuality I'm kind of angry and frustrated. I'm not looking to cheat on my husband. I love him. But sex is no longer a part of our marriage and there is a really good chance that I'll never have sex again. I'm 46 and I can't believe this is it. But it is. I'm having trouble wrapping my head around it. My husband tried taking supplements but his heart isn't in it. He's happy not having any erotic fun which is fine most of the time. I don't have a huge sexual appetite but I have one.

I know I'm feeling sorry for myself and I shouldn't. I have a husband most women would kill for. I'm being greedy. IDK.


Is anyone else going thru something similar?

 

[Benzboy]

Are you sure...

He isn't getting some on the side?

 

[bronzeage]

If you can make it work, that's fine.

It's very difficult to overcome the idea that having a partner who feels no sexual attraction to anyone, actually just doesn't find you attractive. But then, what's the difference?

Most men experience a drop off of sex drive as they age, but 46 is quite young to have it burn out completely.

 

[pete]

...Or maybe it is? I couldn't tell you.

The truth is I haven't had sex in a million years or at least it feels that way. I like to joke about it so I can feel better but in actuality I'm kind of angry and frustrated. I'm not looking to cheat on my husband. I love him. But sex is no longer a part of our marriage and there is a really good chance that I'll never have sex again. I'm 46 and I can't believe this is it. But it is. I'm having trouble wrapping my head around it. My husband tried taking supplements but his heart isn't in it. He's really is happy not having any erotic fun which is really fine most of the time. I don't have a huge sexual appetite but I have one.

I know I'm feeling sorry for myself and I shouldn't. I have a husband most women would kill for. I'm being greedy. IDK.

Is anyone else going thru something similar?

yes many have gone thru this. (the How To section is full of similar accounts)

its obviously a problem, so your options are, basically:
- cheat
- use toys
- bring another guy in with your mans pemission
- suffer

its a crappy situation, no doubt.

sorry.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Sex isn't everything, it's the only thing.

 

[RobDownSouth]

...Or maybe it is? I couldn't tell you.

The truth is I haven't had sex in a million years or at least it feels that way. I like to joke about it so I can feel better but in actuality I'm kind of angry and frustrated. I'm not looking to cheat on my husband. I love him. But sex is no longer a part of our marriage and there is a really good chance that I'll never have sex again. I'm 46 and I can't believe this is it. But it is. I'm having trouble wrapping my head around it. My husband tried taking supplements but his heart isn't in it. He's really is happy not having any erotic fun which is really fine most of the time. I don't have a huge sexual appetite but I have one.

I know I'm feeling sorry for myself and I shouldn't. I have a husband most women would kill for. I'm being greedy. IDK.


Is anyone else going thru something similar?

You'll be getting PMs from posters here named "miles" and "smoothg103rd" shortly. They'll offer to help you through this crisis of confidence.

 

[BornAgainVrgin]

He isn't getting some on the side?

He isn't. I know his whereabout's all the time. He's very honest and a terrible liar. He's not gay either. He's just in his 40's and doesn't have the hunger anymore. He's very attracted to me and always tells me how beautiful I am and he does like to touch me in a sexual manner a little but then he stops and we wind up watching TV. It's been like this for a while but I'm starting to get really frustrated. I mean I feel so stupid wanting my husband to want me.

 

[Stewart_Pidd]

Sex isn't everything, it's the only thing.

no wonder you work out so often bro!

Stew

 

[smoothg103rd]

You'll be getting PMs from posters here named "miles" and "smoothg103rd" shortly. They'll offer to help you through this crisis of confidence.

I don't pm anybody, I'm happy with just your daughter phone number.

 

[pfflyerhot]

...Or maybe it is? I couldn't tell you.

The truth is I haven't had sex in a million years or at least it feels that way. I like to joke about it so I can feel better but in actuality I'm kind of angry and frustrated. I'm not looking to cheat on my husband. I love him. But sex is no longer a part of our marriage and there is a really good chance that I'll never have sex again. I'm 46 and I can't believe this is it. But it is. I'm having trouble wrapping my head around it. My husband tried taking supplements but his heart isn't in it. He's really is happy not having any erotic fun which is really fine most of the time. I don't have a huge sexual appetite but I have one.

I know I'm feeling sorry for myself and I shouldn't. I have a husband most women would kill for. I'm being greedy. IDK.


Is anyone else going thru something similar?

Sort of. I'm 53... but, I'm single, I qualify my sexual appetite as huge. Maybe that's because I haven't had a partner in forever, but it ain't all of it. At least you get a soft caress, a warm hug... on occasion.
So, yeah... I definitely can feel totally sorry for myself at times.

 

[BornAgainVrgin]

You'll be getting PMs from posters here named "miles" and "smoothg103rd" shortly. They'll offer to help you through this crisis of confidence.

NO. I don't want that. I want to talk openly with everyone on this thread about this issue. I'm not looking for sexual attention. I'm looking to talk to other people who are going thru this and well...I want a "I Get None" support group.

 

[smoothg103rd]

no wonder you work out so often bro!

Stew

To have the body my partner desire

 

[Stewart_Pidd]

To have the body my partner desire

I'm sure he loves you as you are bro!

Stew

 

[BornAgainVrgin]

If you can make it work, that's fine.

It's very difficult to overcome the idea that having a partner who feels no sexual attraction to anyone, actually just doesn't find you attractive. But then, what's the difference?

Most men experience a drop off of sex drive as they age, but 46 is quite young to have it burn out completely.

He's very attracted to me. I swear my situation is very strange.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

NO. I don't want that. I want to talk openly with everyone on this thread about this issue. I'm not looking for sexual attention. I'm looking to talk to other people who are going thru this and well...I want a "I Get None" support group.

How is that helping you, though? The empathy from sob stories only goes so far before your itch starts wanting to be scratched again.

The support group you really want to be in is the "Here's How You Get Some Again" support group.

 

[smoothg103rd]

I'm sure he loves you as you are bro!

Stew

Didn't I tell you to give it up? Your not funny bro!

 

[BornAgainVrgin]

yes many have gone thru this. (the How To section is full of similar accounts)

its obviously a problem, so your options are, basically:
- cheat
- use toys
- bring another guy in with your mans pemission
- suffer

its a crappy situation, no doubt.

sorry.

I use "toys" successfully. (Thank God) My husband would NEVER let me sleep with another man. I could cheat. But then I'd hate myself. It's a majorly crappy situation.

 

[Aquagal]

I don't pm anybody, I'm happy with just your daughter phone number.

He doesn't have any daughters, but he has three sons!

*queues My Three Son's music

*taps foot

 

[Aquagal]

I use "toys" successfully. (Thank God) My husband would NEVER let me sleep with another man. I could cheat. But then I'd hate myself. It's a majorly crappy situation.

Have you talked to him about his lack of interest, seeing a doctor for perhaps low testosterone etc?

In the meantime, is he willing to use the toys on you?

 

[smoothg103rd]

He doesn't have any daughters, but he has three sons!

*queues My Three Son's music

*taps foot

He have one and she sucks dick like a champ. We even gave her a nickname.
#SuperHead

 

[BornAgainVrgin]

Sort of. I'm 53... but, I'm single, I qualify my sexual appetite as huge. Maybe that's because I haven't had a partner in forever, but it ain't all of it. At least you get a soft caress, a warm hug... on occasion.
So, yeah... I definitely can feel totally sorry for myself at times.

But at least you're single and you can meet someone today who could change everything. I'm sorry you haven't met someone yet. I know several women who are all middle-aged and they have met partners in online dating so you might want to try that. But yeah the hugs are important.

(Hug)

 

[Pookie]

He's very attracted to me. I swear my situation is very strange.

Have you guys tried new things lately?

 

[Saint Peter]

Have you guys tried new things lately?

Yeah.

Well, no.






Sorta.

 

[BornAgainVrgin]

How is that helping you, though? The empathy from sob stories only goes so far before your itch starts wanting to be scratched again.

The support group you really want to be in is the "Here's How You Get Some Again" support group.

...IDK. I like when other people say they feel bad for "my loss" it feels kind of nice.

 

[bronzeage]

He's very attracted to me. I swear my situation is very strange.

I am speaking of sexual attraction. This is a very specific thing.If he is not aroused and wants to have sex with you, he is not sexually attracted to you.

You have to decide if his general attraction to you is enough.