Sex for wife, Too Late?

[curious2know73099]

My wife has never been with anybody but me. I want her to have an experience with another man. She is 65. is there any hope for this to happen and if so,how?

 

[Cheyenne]

I hear you talk about what YOU want. What does SHE want?

 

[cymbidia]

Sexuality is ageless. If she wants to do this as well as you, if it'll be a good thing for both of you and for your relationship, then go for it.

Try some of the online personals. Be *certain* you check the other person thoroughly with regard to STD's before any contact occurs. Use a hotel for the play instead of your home, unless you know the other person very well.

Keep the lines of communication open between the two of you throughout the process and it may be a wonderful experience indeed! You have my admiration for being so adventuresome at an age when many people are fossilizing.

 

[coralrose]

Be *certain* you check the other person thoroughly with regard to STD's before any contact occurs.

Just out of curiosity, how do you go about doing this? Dr.'s note? Trust?

65 is not too old... my grandmother was widowed when she was 73 and remarried at 75, and I quote, "because he is really good in bed." This came from a woman that I had previously only associated with good chocolate cream pie and footrubs... lol!

 

[cymbidia]

Be *certain* you check the other person thoroughly with regard to STD's before any contact occurs.

Just out of curiosity, how do you go about doing this? Dr.'s note? Trust?

Not trust, babes. That's for later, after it's earned. And there's different ways to check, i suppose, but i've used one method pretty consistently for a long time and haven't ever contracted anything ugly.

Virtually all places in the US are served by some kind of public health office. Look in the county or state pages in your phone book for more details. Check the listings for AIDS phones numbers, too. Call the numbers. Ask about the availability of free/low cost **anonymous** STD/AIDS testing. (You don't want to be on someone's list of people asking to be tested for AIDS. The days of Big Brother are just beginning.)(No that's not paranoia, it's cautious reality.) After the paperwork is done, the actual testing takes just a few minutes. The results will give you a full accounting of your exposure to any of a big handful of widely-disparate microorganisms.

So, you meet someone you like, right? BEFORE you fuck around with them, while you're still leading up to it and getting all hot-talk nasty with each other, go have the testing together. The results often take a week or two to come back. During that time, you can have long wild talks about what you want to do together after the results are in.

In these days of diseases that can kill you and/or hang around in your body forever and be passed to your child(ren) during pregnancy and childbirth, it pays to be smart about protecting yourself. You already use condoms, of course, but should also be disease-screening anyone with whom you might want to get frisky.

Repeat this after me: There's lots and lots of really good people in the world but you must *not* trust your life and health to a stranger.

Anyway, that's the way i've checked on potentials. Cheap to free. Relatively quick. Gives me a reason to slow things a little, too, to talk awhile, to insure i really want to do THAT with this person. I'm a big fan of talking awhile first.

I have no knowledge of the availability of this kind of wide-spread low-cost STD/AIDS antibody testing in other countries. In these days of AIDS and other STD's, i'd assume similarities in public health structure in most of the countries represented by the people here on Lit.

 

[cymbidia]

...forgot this part...

Look at your new partner the first time you're naked together and before any real sexual exploration gets going. Look at his cock. Touch it. Lift up his balls and take a look. Smell it. Look at her vagina. Open the labia and *look*. Check around the anus.

See any sores?

If so, ask. And ***don't play*** no matter how hot you are.

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There's ways to check on this stuff that are fun and sexy and playful and hot. Trust me on this. Make sure you look, though, BEFORE you have any kinda sex with him/her.

You'll be hating life if you've had intercourse and THEN you go down there for a taste and .. WHOA! .. there's an open sore on his cock or on her inner labia. That would freeze you right up, i'd bet, and blow the hell out of your pleasure-high.

So always always always do a visual examination of your partners cock, balls, anus, and/or vagina BEFORE any contact occurs.

Check for cold sores on his/her mouth too. They can be transferred to your sexual parts very easily. Herpes simplex, babes. It's endemic in western civilization.

Be smart out there.